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Ambitious Marriage Is Within Your Reach
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Marriage a union of complementary parts not competitors
Marriage is one of the misunderstood and stressful things people struggle with than anything else, making it not only an optional but less important.
It’s unfortunate that most people are accustomed to misconceptions -viewing marriage as something tough to handle. Those with experience
True marriage is a result of a relationship built on three things – God, Mind, and Feelings.
God as initiator/creator, Mind as guide of common sense, Feeling as a controller of affection.
Sadly, the deception of feelings has managed clouding people’s mind and sense of God towards their ambitious marriage. In fact, feelings have tricked many people than the two combined.
Most married people complain about it. Every partner points an accusing finger to the other — he/she isn’t faithful, doesn’t care and respect, etc.
One time a divorced woman told me: “A lot of people out there want to get married and married ones wish out of it ASAP” What a confusing, discouraging, disappointing and frustrating statement to a young man or woman expecting to get in.
The problem is people got married because they think are matured enough, want to gratify their souls and receive a certain social recognition.
Others got married just because they had some feelings for somebody. Let me tell you one thing, feelings disappear with time. Get married to whom you need not you want. Wants are difficult and, in most cases, never come at all.
But, in reality marriage wasn’t meant for social recognition, and if marriage is to survive and bear fruits, one thing should be considered — everyone, man and woman, has special obligation determined by the purpose.
A woman (wife) was never created to love a man but to be submissive to her man (husband) because man didn’t come from woman but woman did come from man.
1 Corinthians 11:7–8: “A man…is the image and the glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man did not come from woman, but woman from man.
Woman was created for a man and the latter never for the former. This, though, doesn’t mean that woman is less important than man, don’t get it wrong. God created them equally and both have equal entitlement to Him.
A man was created with an obligation, that’s, to love, care, cultivate, teach, protect, and provide for a woman (his wife). Wise men do it even to all women in the society. It’s ours too.
The Bible says Husband love your wife as Christ loves the church — His bride. Wife submit to your husband as the church submits itself to Christ.
Christ never quarrels with His church — the bride/mentee so is the church with Christ — her initiator, nurturer, mentor, provider.
The marriage statement that we read in 1 Corinthians 11:7–8 has often been misinterpreted and abused by many. Women being submissive to their husbands feel like being controlled, oppressed, less valued and aren’t free from doing their business.
Men, on the other hand, misunderstood by thinking that women are less important and thoughtful. They were just meant to serve husbands, they can only depend on husbands for their survival, aren’t destined for greatness etc. This’s totally wrong.
With this misinterpretation in mind, both men and women have normalised and endorsed things which contradict the Scripture, and, of course, the Bible never meant that.
All these misconceptions are the source of quarrels between partners whereby the situation exacerbates, it leads to asunder and divorce.
The first child of a man is his wife. God never presented to a man a religion but wife to take care of like his own body. Of all the ‘things’ a man was given to take care of, woman (wife) was one of them.
This is why wives change their names to match their husbands’. But, the important thing here is matching your thoughts as complementary parts with one purpose in mind.
Men be careful how you spend your time with your wife and religion/church, work, sports etc. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean men should not take on church activities. We should even more than our wives do, because it’s our obligation too.
The one who initiated and responsible for taking care of the church is Christ Himself. If priests, pastors, padres and other servants abandon the church, Jesus will nurture it by himself and will flourish because it’s His bride.
In recent time both young men and women are looking for a life partner who, in fact, doesn’t exist in this world. Nobody qualifies their requirements.
Young men claim that they will marry once young women are done with Kardashian’s stuff and become real. Why? Because they can’t afford those stuff.
Women, on the other hand, think of halting their Kardashian’s stuff when they get married. They’re also longing for men with a certain level of a milestone.
God is a God of purpose. Everything He initiated there’s a purpose behind. He’s not a God of trial and error but a God of perfection and fulfilment.
He made man male and man female with a clearly eternal purpose — to live and work together as complementary parts not competitors.
I’ve used words ‘man male’ and ‘man female’ because I want to let you know something about creation of man.
God created man which is spirit. Spirit carries no gender so man was first in heaven as spirit. Having completed creating the world, God saw that it was better to ‘form’ a man who would have control over all the creations.
God formed a ‘man male’ Adam in their image and likeness. Adam was alone but not lonely because he was too busy working the garden to think of anything else.
But, God saw he (Adam) was alone so He furnished a ‘man female’ (Eve) for him. Man was never made for a woman but a woman for a man.
God, therefore, gave gender to the spirit ‘man’ with purpose — to get them multiplied by themselves. Whatever is born of God has the potential to get multiplied.
Man as spirit wasn’t compatible with the earth God had created so He furnished him with the material that would support him on earth eternally.
This means that man was never meant to live in heaven forever but on earth because that’s the God’s purpose, and His purpose is eternal.
Revelation 21: 1 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.
2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
As the man was furnished with capacity to serve a certain purpose so is a woman, her role will never be served by a man.
God created man and woman with a clearly eternal purpose — to live together (in marriage) as complementary parts not competitors. No one is less important than the other.
If everyone was to realise and appreciate the strength of the other, marriages would be filled with joy and never get asunder. Unfortunately, most married people live together but don’t cooperate.
Both man and woman need to appreciate their unique strength, which can greatly benefit one another. Men are a foundation that weathers all storms directed to the family. Women are a soil that guarantees fruitfulness.
However, when foundation collapses nothing will stand. Marriages are on an alarming asunder because men, as foundations, have lost the sight of their true purpose.
How can men build a strong foundation? You need a rock upon which your foundation will be built. Jesus Christ is the rock. Men build your foundations upon Christ; you’ll be a strong anchor capable of weathering all storms preying on your marriages and families.
There’s a big secret of success should a man and woman live and/or work together as complementary parts – man as progenitor and a woman as multiplier.
Man is a seed that initiates family while woman is a soil that multiplies it. Everything a man initiates a woman is capable of multiplying it only if the two live as complementary parts.
One of the things that lead to quarrels in marriages is miscommunication because when a man speaks, it is generally an expression of what he’s thinking. But, when a woman speaks, it is usually an expression of what she’s feeling. They are communicating two completely different types of information.
This misinterpretation has caused many people to think that their marriages or relationships aren‘t working. Once they understand these differences, however, they can exercise patience and endeavor to come to the heart of the matter. Both men and women will experience great satisfaction when they are truly listened to and appreciated.
God created man and woman as complementary parts depending on one another to fulfil the purpose for which we were born. Without knowing the purpose, abuse is inevitable.
It’s unfortunate that most people are accustomed to misconceptions -viewing marriage as something tough to handle. Those with experience
True marriage is a result of a relationship built on three things – God, Mind, and Feelings.
God as initiator/creator, Mind as guide of common sense, Feeling as a controller of affection.
Sadly, the deception of feelings has managed clouding people’s mind and sense of God towards their ambitious marriage. In fact, feelings have tricked many people than the two combined.
Most married people complain about it. Every partner points an accusing finger to the other — he/she isn’t faithful, doesn’t care and respect, etc.
One time a divorced woman told me: “A lot of people out there want to get married and married ones wish out of it ASAP” What a confusing, discouraging, disappointing and frustrating statement to a young man or woman expecting to get in.
The problem is people got married because they think are matured enough, want to gratify their souls and receive a certain social recognition.
Others got married just because they had some feelings for somebody. Let me tell you one thing, feelings disappear with time. Get married to whom you need not you want. Wants are difficult and, in most cases, never come at all.
But, in reality marriage wasn’t meant for social recognition, and if marriage is to survive and bear fruits, one thing should be considered — everyone, man and woman, has special obligation determined by the purpose.
A woman (wife) was never created to love a man but to be submissive to her man (husband) because man didn’t come from woman but woman did come from man.
1 Corinthians 11:7–8: “A man…is the image and the glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man did not come from woman, but woman from man.
Woman was created for a man and the latter never for the former. This, though, doesn’t mean that woman is less important than man, don’t get it wrong. God created them equally and both have equal entitlement to Him.
A man was created with an obligation, that’s, to love, care, cultivate, teach, protect, and provide for a woman (his wife). Wise men do it even to all women in the society. It’s ours too.
The Bible says Husband love your wife as Christ loves the church — His bride. Wife submit to your husband as the church submits itself to Christ.
Christ never quarrels with His church — the bride/mentee so is the church with Christ — her initiator, nurturer, mentor, provider.
The marriage statement that we read in 1 Corinthians 11:7–8 has often been misinterpreted and abused by many. Women being submissive to their husbands feel like being controlled, oppressed, less valued and aren’t free from doing their business.
Men, on the other hand, misunderstood by thinking that women are less important and thoughtful. They were just meant to serve husbands, they can only depend on husbands for their survival, aren’t destined for greatness etc. This’s totally wrong.
With this misinterpretation in mind, both men and women have normalised and endorsed things which contradict the Scripture, and, of course, the Bible never meant that.
All these misconceptions are the source of quarrels between partners whereby the situation exacerbates, it leads to asunder and divorce.
The first child of a man is his wife. God never presented to a man a religion but wife to take care of like his own body. Of all the ‘things’ a man was given to take care of, woman (wife) was one of them.
This is why wives change their names to match their husbands’. But, the important thing here is matching your thoughts as complementary parts with one purpose in mind.
Men be careful how you spend your time with your wife and religion/church, work, sports etc. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean men should not take on church activities. We should even more than our wives do, because it’s our obligation too.
The one who initiated and responsible for taking care of the church is Christ Himself. If priests, pastors, padres and other servants abandon the church, Jesus will nurture it by himself and will flourish because it’s His bride.
In recent time both young men and women are looking for a life partner who, in fact, doesn’t exist in this world. Nobody qualifies their requirements.
Young men claim that they will marry once young women are done with Kardashian’s stuff and become real. Why? Because they can’t afford those stuff.
Women, on the other hand, think of halting their Kardashian’s stuff when they get married. They’re also longing for men with a certain level of a milestone.
God is a God of purpose. Everything He initiated there’s a purpose behind. He’s not a God of trial and error but a God of perfection and fulfilment.
He made man male and man female with a clearly eternal purpose — to live and work together as complementary parts not competitors.
I’ve used words ‘man male’ and ‘man female’ because I want to let you know something about creation of man.
God created man which is spirit. Spirit carries no gender so man was first in heaven as spirit. Having completed creating the world, God saw that it was better to ‘form’ a man who would have control over all the creations.
God formed a ‘man male’ Adam in their image and likeness. Adam was alone but not lonely because he was too busy working the garden to think of anything else.
But, God saw he (Adam) was alone so He furnished a ‘man female’ (Eve) for him. Man was never made for a woman but a woman for a man.
God, therefore, gave gender to the spirit ‘man’ with purpose — to get them multiplied by themselves. Whatever is born of God has the potential to get multiplied.
Man as spirit wasn’t compatible with the earth God had created so He furnished him with the material that would support him on earth eternally.
This means that man was never meant to live in heaven forever but on earth because that’s the God’s purpose, and His purpose is eternal.
Revelation 21: 1 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.
2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
As the man was furnished with capacity to serve a certain purpose so is a woman, her role will never be served by a man.
God created man and woman with a clearly eternal purpose — to live together (in marriage) as complementary parts not competitors. No one is less important than the other.
If everyone was to realise and appreciate the strength of the other, marriages would be filled with joy and never get asunder. Unfortunately, most married people live together but don’t cooperate.
Both man and woman need to appreciate their unique strength, which can greatly benefit one another. Men are a foundation that weathers all storms directed to the family. Women are a soil that guarantees fruitfulness.
However, when foundation collapses nothing will stand. Marriages are on an alarming asunder because men, as foundations, have lost the sight of their true purpose.
How can men build a strong foundation? You need a rock upon which your foundation will be built. Jesus Christ is the rock. Men build your foundations upon Christ; you’ll be a strong anchor capable of weathering all storms preying on your marriages and families.
There’s a big secret of success should a man and woman live and/or work together as complementary parts – man as progenitor and a woman as multiplier.
Man is a seed that initiates family while woman is a soil that multiplies it. Everything a man initiates a woman is capable of multiplying it only if the two live as complementary parts.
One of the things that lead to quarrels in marriages is miscommunication because when a man speaks, it is generally an expression of what he’s thinking. But, when a woman speaks, it is usually an expression of what she’s feeling. They are communicating two completely different types of information.
This misinterpretation has caused many people to think that their marriages or relationships aren‘t working. Once they understand these differences, however, they can exercise patience and endeavor to come to the heart of the matter. Both men and women will experience great satisfaction when they are truly listened to and appreciated.
God created man and woman as complementary parts depending on one another to fulfil the purpose for which we were born. Without knowing the purpose, abuse is inevitable.
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