EMOTIONAL ABUSE Vs. PHYSICAL ABUSE.... KIPI KIBAYA ZAIDI

[TIMING]

Wanajamvi,

As usual... katika dimbwi kubwa la mawazo, nimejikuta nashangaa sana kwa kushindwa kuelewa, kati ya emotional abuse and physical abuse kipi kinauma zaidi

Nimekua nikisikia akina dada wakisema ni bora uniache kuliko kuniabuse physically, unfortunately the same person anasema yani ni bora uniache kuliko kunicheat au kunidhalilisha kwa namna yoyote ile

again, the very same group of people wanazungumzia madhara ya separation nk.

I am confused, wich one would easily be tolerated?? physical au emotional abuse?

MTM

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Both are bad and both can leave the victim scarred for life. Physical abuse can result in physical injury or death whereas emotional abuse can drive someone to do the unthinkable.

On which is worse than the other, that's a moot subject.

 

[VoiceOfReason]

Mkuu it depends even physical abuse most of the times go hand in hand with emotional abuse.

Also depends na scale ya tendo sababu kumkata mtu mkono akawa kilema (cripples a person) na kumwambia mtu kila siku he/she is good for nothing unaweza ukamfanya akakata tamaa na in so doing una-cripple achievements zake

Lakini emotional / psychological abuse effects zake ingawa sio rahisi kuziona.., huwa zinambadilisha mtu na kuwa a monster au kupoteza ule ucheshi na furaha yake kitu ambacho effect yake inaweza kuwadhuru hata watu wanamzunguka (its destroys a person completely)

Kwahiyo in short hakuna kitu bora hapo na sometimes even emotional abuse zinaacha kovu kwa mtu ambalo haliwezi kufutika.

 

[The Boss]

hivi ni mimi tu naona maluwe luwe jf leo????????

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Neither....

 

[AshaDii]

IMO emotiional abuse is the worst... as much as physical abuse is also despicable...

 

[Riwa]

Nadhani physical abuse is worse....because it is almost always accompanied with emotional/psychological effect...but emotional si lazima iwe na physical effects!

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

MTM mimi huwa ninaumia sana kama mtu ataniadhibu kwa kosa la kumpenda......yaani atumie sababu ya kuwa ninampenda basi ndo anichezee, aniabuse aisee itaniuma sana kwa sababu kwangu huwa ni ngumu ku-undo kupenda, I know kwangu itachukua muda sana kusema sasa basi iwapo ataniabuse emotionally...........I have too many justifications for yeye kuniabuse emotionally than physically in short nitatumia muda mrefu sana kugundua kuwa huyu mtu ananiabuse emotionally than physically hence more pains.............so kwangu its better physical than emotion cause through physical nitaweza kureact faster without giving him benefit of doubt kuliko emotional.

Nikisema na kukuonyesha ninakupenda, huwa ninamaanisha na nikigundua am falling for a wrong place then nakuavoid ili nisiendelee kukupa nafasi ya kuniumiza emotionally. I am ready to go an extra mile for the love I have for you but not ready to go an extra mile for you to abuse me for loving you dearly...................believe me I have learnt my lessons through the hardest way............

 

[The Boss]

wengi humu mtachangia kwa kufikiria mapenzi but......kuna watu mfano
wamama wa uswahili wanapata all forms of abuse...

unakuta mume mlevi mbwa...mama anapata physical na emotional abuse kutoka kwa mtu

mwenye alcohol abuse.....halafu mama huyo huyo ana mtoto teja....
so mama anapata tena all kinds of abuse kutoka kwa mtoto mwenye drug abuse.....
unakuja kwa majirani wanaomunyeshea kidole n kumsema.......

pata picha hapo....na hakuna cha psychologist wala therapist wanadunda tu na maisha....

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

The Boss ...............si lazima awe mama wa Uswahilini shemeji...........hta hao unaowaita wasomi wanakuwa abused na wasomi wenzao sema tu hawako tayari kusema untill mambo yamewafika shingoni. Lakini kama ulivyosema I always admire mwanamke aliye mvumilivu but Godh its hard meeen

 

[The Boss]

The Boss ...............si lazima awe mama wa Uswahilini shemeji...........hta hao unaowaita wasomi wanakuwa abused na wasomi wenzao sema tu hawako tayari kusema untill mambo yamewafika shingoni. Lakini kama ulivyosema I always admire mwanamke aliye mvumilivu but Godh its hard meeen

sawasawa
definition yangu ya uswahilini ni maeneo yenye mbanano wa watu
so waweza kuwa ni msomi ukaishi uswahilini still
na mwingine elimu hana but anaishi pembeni ya mji,sio uswahilini...
simaanishi class.....
wapo watu wana pesa na wanaishi uswahilini...

 

[Salanga]

Mkuu it depends even physical abuse most of the times go hand in hand with emotional abuse.<br />
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Also depends na scale ya tendo sababu kumkata mtu mkono akawa kilema (cripples a person) na kumwambia mtu kila siku he/she is good for nothing unaweza ukamfanya akakata tamaa na in so doing una-cripple achievements zake<br />
<br />
Lakini emotional / psychological abuse effects zake ingawa sio rahisi kuziona.., huwa zinambadilisha mtu na kuwa a monster au kupoteza ule ucheshi na furaha yake kitu ambacho effect yake inaweza kuwadhuru hata watu wanamzunguka (its destroys a person completely)<br />
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Kwahiyo in short hakuna kitu bora hapo na sometimes even emotional abuse zinaacha kovu kwa mtu ambalo haliwezi kufutika.

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Physical abuse goes hand in hand with emotion abuse and at the end of the day they both lead to physiological problems which affect brain ,hypothalamus.Emotional abuse has its pronounced effect to women depending on which part of the brain is responsible with reaction to stress in each.

So here,the fact that both of them lead to a kind of malfunctioning of the human physiological processes: both of them are to diseases of central nervious system.
Due to the fact that they do not affect organs in men and women in the same magnitude ,women tend to develop diseases like depression,pathologies of personality,self blaming etc and eventually may lead to suicide.



I WOULD LIKE TO ADVICE THAT ANY KIND OF ABUSE BE AVOIDED FOR THE EFFECT OF IT LEAD TO MOST KILLER IN THE WORLD= STRESS

Pamoja sana MTM,Lizzy...............

 

[Chauro]

Nilishapitia zote, lakini kwangu hakuna iliyo mbaya kama emotional abuse kuna wakati ilikuwa kila nikijitazama huwa najiona siko yule niliyekuwa unapoteza ucheshi wako/kuna wakati unaweza jisikia mnyonge tu,unaweza jikuta hujithamini na kufanya mambo yaliyo nje ya utashi wako veeeeeeeeeery bad!inahitaji ushauri wa hali ya juu na marafiki walio wema kukutoa hapo.

 

[Tulizo]

Mkuu..kumbuka maumivu ya mahusiano/mapenzi yako kichwani (upstairs)...watu wengine wanapenda kuita moyoni...

Kuna njia nyingi za kujeruhi moyo (au akili).. Physical kwa kutumia panga/ngumi etc au Emotional kwa kutumia laser radiation

Kujua kati ya emotional abuse vs Physical Abuse kipi kibaya.. Fananisha na kuuwa moyo wa mtu kwa kutumia panga au Laser Radiation...Moja unatumia nguvu ambazo hadi zifike kiasi fulani ndio madhara yanaonekana....na nyingine (laser/emotional) hutumii nguvu lakini maumivu yanapenya kwa kasi na hatari sana..

 

[TIMING]

Nilishapitia zote, lakini kwangu hakuna iliyo mbaya kama emotional abuse kuna wakati ilikuwa kila nikijitazama huwa najiona siko yule niliyekuwa unapoteza ucheshi wako/kuna wakati unaweza jisikia mnyonge tu,unaweza jikuta hujithamini na kufanya mambo yaliyo nje ya utashi wako veeeeeeeeeery bad!inahitaji ushauri wa hali ya juu na marafiki walio wema kukutoa hapo.

aAise.....