The Finest
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- Jul 14, 2010
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No man can satisfy a woman simply by WHAT HE DOES FOR HER. He fulfills her by allowing, motivating, and supporting her to be everything that SHE has a capacity and potential to be. In other words, he fulfills her when, SHE DOES FOR HERSELF.
That may mean he may sometimes has to support and push her to the point where she begins to wonder why he believes in her even more than she believes in herself...to the point where he pushes her out of her comfort zones and limits. When she begins to succeed, when she begins to positively impact and affect the lives of others and pursue her passions, she then truly begins to grow from having satisfaction in her "relationship", to the realm of getting satisfaction out of "LIFE".
The problem we men have especially African men, is that we are afraid to build up and invest in our ladies. Society has trained us that part of what defines us as men..is our ability to do better than our wives so we can "provide" for them.
The problem is that society is failing to teach us that the definition of provision has changed, so as it relates to our women, many women today can provide for themselves better than we men could, they are really a means to the destination of her sense of fulfillment as a person.
IT'S NOT THE BIG THINGS WE DO "ONCE IN A WHILE" THAT KEEP A RELATIONSHIP GOING. IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS WE DO "ALL THE TIME" THAT DO.
That may mean he may sometimes has to support and push her to the point where she begins to wonder why he believes in her even more than she believes in herself...to the point where he pushes her out of her comfort zones and limits. When she begins to succeed, when she begins to positively impact and affect the lives of others and pursue her passions, she then truly begins to grow from having satisfaction in her "relationship", to the realm of getting satisfaction out of "LIFE".
The problem we men have especially African men, is that we are afraid to build up and invest in our ladies. Society has trained us that part of what defines us as men..is our ability to do better than our wives so we can "provide" for them.
The problem is that society is failing to teach us that the definition of provision has changed, so as it relates to our women, many women today can provide for themselves better than we men could, they are really a means to the destination of her sense of fulfillment as a person.
IT'S NOT THE BIG THINGS WE DO "ONCE IN A WHILE" THAT KEEP A RELATIONSHIP GOING. IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS WE DO "ALL THE TIME" THAT DO.