DaudiAiko
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- Dec 2, 2012
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The story of Josephine. Born to James and Dorothy Mutashobya in the island of Ukerewe. As the only child, Josephine’s connection to her parents was very strong. She remembers the good times spent in the Serengeti over Christmas, the time spent on holiday in the Maldives, the joy and laughter that was ever so existent in their home. That is no longer the case for Josephine as life has taken an upside turn for the worst
The honeyed words that swept her off her feet, the intelligence of a man that was incredibly mesmerising, all the things that made her fall in love with Mark now a distant memory. Sleepless night after sleepless night, heartache after heartache, where did it all go wrong.
She has no choice now but to gather some strength from within, strength for the never ending soap opera, strength to live with dignity, to save her marriage, to strive for a better life for her young children. Who to go to for advice now that everything is falling apart?, where to find a shoulder to lean on?, how close is the oasis in this brutally humid sahara desert.
It's been close to ten years since Josephine last met Belinda, her college roommate. After a brief exchange of pleasantries, they decide over iced tea and vitumbua to shore things up a little to save their faltering marriages. So it was, the never ending drama to be in control of their finances, the race to deal with all the lies, cheating and late night drinking, a bite of the forbidden fruit to finally have a family man.
Do they have model marriages to borrow a leaf from?. Yes they do but instead of focusing on the superficial, they're more interested in finding out the root cause of why some marriages work and why others don't. Matching clothes for a night out at a restaurant, what to have for dinner, the sweet nothings on valentine's day, yada! yada! yada!. Are marriages really based on trust?, how strong is the bond between you and your partner?. For those looking for a permanent and a lasting solution to all relationships, there needs to be a shift on how we look at things.
First and foremost, as lovers, are you friends?. Is your more intelligent wife controlling?. Can you afford to live without each other first before you get into a relationship?. What happens when life gives you lemons and your marriage is tested to the limit?, do you make lemonade?. Is it a life full of operant conditioning?, negative reinforcement, positive reinforcement and a healthy dose of punishments. It is very clear to those who see the value that there's more to marriage that what meets the ordinary eye. I'm sure that they're a bunch of angry bridesmaids ready to attack me, a bunch of taarab artists who have mastered bogus arguments and ready to showcase their extraordinary talent on my thread. Don't shoot the messenger even when others still see the value of going on a wild goose chase.
Belinda and Josephine never ruled out divorce as a way out of their troubles. They were never going to take up to 20 years researching the obvious at the expense of someone else's relationship. Kwenye shida na raha?, till death do us part?, deconstruct the dogma, move on where necessary…….
The honeyed words that swept her off her feet, the intelligence of a man that was incredibly mesmerising, all the things that made her fall in love with Mark now a distant memory. Sleepless night after sleepless night, heartache after heartache, where did it all go wrong.
She has no choice now but to gather some strength from within, strength for the never ending soap opera, strength to live with dignity, to save her marriage, to strive for a better life for her young children. Who to go to for advice now that everything is falling apart?, where to find a shoulder to lean on?, how close is the oasis in this brutally humid sahara desert.
It's been close to ten years since Josephine last met Belinda, her college roommate. After a brief exchange of pleasantries, they decide over iced tea and vitumbua to shore things up a little to save their faltering marriages. So it was, the never ending drama to be in control of their finances, the race to deal with all the lies, cheating and late night drinking, a bite of the forbidden fruit to finally have a family man.
Do they have model marriages to borrow a leaf from?. Yes they do but instead of focusing on the superficial, they're more interested in finding out the root cause of why some marriages work and why others don't. Matching clothes for a night out at a restaurant, what to have for dinner, the sweet nothings on valentine's day, yada! yada! yada!. Are marriages really based on trust?, how strong is the bond between you and your partner?. For those looking for a permanent and a lasting solution to all relationships, there needs to be a shift on how we look at things.
First and foremost, as lovers, are you friends?. Is your more intelligent wife controlling?. Can you afford to live without each other first before you get into a relationship?. What happens when life gives you lemons and your marriage is tested to the limit?, do you make lemonade?. Is it a life full of operant conditioning?, negative reinforcement, positive reinforcement and a healthy dose of punishments. It is very clear to those who see the value that there's more to marriage that what meets the ordinary eye. I'm sure that they're a bunch of angry bridesmaids ready to attack me, a bunch of taarab artists who have mastered bogus arguments and ready to showcase their extraordinary talent on my thread. Don't shoot the messenger even when others still see the value of going on a wild goose chase.
Belinda and Josephine never ruled out divorce as a way out of their troubles. They were never going to take up to 20 years researching the obvious at the expense of someone else's relationship. Kwenye shida na raha?, till death do us part?, deconstruct the dogma, move on where necessary…….
