Kuna prof mmoja alisema:
"Love is confusion between two fools"
Sijui alimaanisha nini ebu wadau wa facts mnieleweshe hapa.
Abrianna
kimwizzy
sawima, i think this is a broader discussion, kuna wengine huwa wanasema love is misunderstanding between two fools
I can say Love could be a misunderstanding between two fools,or confusion betwee two fools for the two immature people who are waiting for their delivery of love. Or it could be the deep happiness of two people who love loving each other.
The misunderstanding or confusion here here is that love depletes me as I give it away and that the recipient must quickly love me back so I can be full again. But love isn’t a zero-sum game. I don’t lose anything by loving. In fact, I gain everything even if my spouse doesn’t reciprocate. We are the direct and primary beneficiaries of the love we give every bit as much as our partners. When our loving hearts are open and tender, life flows through us more abundantly because love and the life force are the same. When we see another’s need and generously meet it, we discover our fullness of spirit. When we are willing to sacrifice a want, a privilege, or a comfort for the wellbeing of the beloved, we find an inner strength and confidence that can’t be experienced otherwise. We then contribute our goodness to the goodness of life itself. We merge with it becoming both a source for it and its reflection within a broader world.
When our loving nature causes us to feel the goodness of life all around us and within us, what is there to fear? For me there is no fear at all
But what if we really are with someone who cannot return love? Someone who’s abusive, addicted, narcissistic, or dishonest about life? Does love mean we stay in a hopeless marriage? No, it doesn’t. Sacrificing our wants, privileges, and comforts is not the same as sacrificing our need for respect, honesty, and loving support from our intimates. Staying under conditions where we are abused, living with an addictive partner, donating our lives to feed the emptiness of a narcissist, or witnessing our partner living from values we cannot respect would be foolish self-denial. And this is what we call confusion or foolishness between the two
But even here we have the choice to leave a bad marriage with or without hate and cynicism. Perhaps here the only form love can take is to go without harboring hate, especially where there are children involved.