JK's greatest weakness is his loyalty to friends & associates

SlidingRoof said:

I get carried away at times na yote ni uchungu na nchi yangu japo huwa tunatofautiana na tactics za ku express how we feel na at times it gets personal lakini na hawa waliopo madarakani na si members wenzetu.<br />
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Lakini on the otherhand ujue kuwa dizeli inanitia umaskini na yote kwa sababu ya Jairo na ma swahiba zake na thats the least I could express my displeasure of him and his crew<br />
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leo ya pili wametukatia umeme. Jaribu kuishi maisha ya dhiki kama yetu ndio utaelewa where I'm coming from

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Guys, I beg to differ, its never anything about your friends or subbordinates when you are the top dog in a country. Obama gave us a lesson very in his admnistration when they wanted to sack his secretary of finance or whatever they call it in the US, he said, the buck starts and ends with me, I'm the president of thius country. As human beings, we cannot choose our blood relatives but we can choose almost anything else including our friends, and they define who we are and once we choose our friends, the greatest respect you can have as a human being is to have loyalty with your friends. All the great presidents of in the world maintained their great friends all throughout their admnistration time, JK on the hand is getting fixed by his 2005 enemies and opposition and now does not have any friend apart from Ridhwan, its very scary for a country. Jairo was daring to make decisions in that ministry, although he made a mess up on IPTL oil and that deal for the wabunges thru that account. If we serious want to help JK, let's advise to get advice from REAL FRIENDS. As of now, he is in a big big fix and we all know it and most of us just want to benefit out of it. ,

That is why he recently ordered the Immigration office to immediately send back more than 700 immigrants alleged to be Ethiopians. In his order President Kikwete said the immigrants should be repatriated to their home country even if their country did not recognise them, to avoid costs of keeping them in Tanzania. How can you send them to Ethiopia whilst that country does not recognize them as Ethiopians? Mtwara Region Commissioner, Mr Anatoli Tarimo is lamenting that if they are sent to Ethiopia that country will not accept them and that will be another problem. But Kikwete is forcing him send them to Ethiopia. How if this is not creating more enemies in your own administration? Forcing people to do the impossibles.

EMT said:

That is why he recently ordered the Immigration office to immediately send back more than 700 immigrants alleged to be Ethiopians. In his order President Kikwete said the immigrants should be repatriated to their home country even if their country did not recognise them, to avoid costs of keeping them in Tanzania. How can you send them to Ethiopia whilst that country does not recognize them as Ethiopians? Mtwara Region Commissioner, Mr Anatoli Tarimo is lamenting that if they are sent to Ethiopia that country will not accept them and that will be another problem. But Kikwete is forcing him send them to Ethiopia. How if this not creating more enemies in your administration? Forcing people to do the impossibles.

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I believe for the same reasons they advised him to send hussein bashe to mogadishu, somalia, even after he won the preliminary polls within CCM in Nzega. If we truly have an Intelligence unit in the country, why didn't they not deal with hussein before? And they pretty well knhow neither hussein or his parents have a home there and his dad particippated in the famous TANU issues in Tabora those years. We are just victimising people everyday, thinking everyone is still stupid and we can get away with it, its not anymore for Tanzania my friends.b

Azimio Jipya said:

SlidingRoof SIR;

No nooo no!! Look like you r confusing between PEOPLE PLEASER and LOYALITY!!

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Is People Pleasing Keeping You From Pleasing The Right People?

In this post I lay out some of the key signs of being a people pleaser and then offer some tips to help overcome this terrible and self destructive personality trait.

What I found interesting, though, was just how many people could clearly associate with being a people pleaser. If you read through some of the comments you'll see that many had no problem laying out their life story knowing that they were among fellow pleasing addicts. And those who really got the message had a tone of relief as if a heavy burden had been lifted from their shoulders.

Since writing that post I've spoken with many readers about the topic and I've come to realize that this is not only a common issue for many, but that the end result is a certain faded version of the individual. Just like pouring water into a glass of fine wine, those who are actively living out their people pleasing personality are quickly diluting their very existence.

In the above mentioned blog post I painted my thoughts on the subject using a broad brush. With this post, however, I would like to refine my focus. So let's talk about making decisions&#8230;

Never Fear Making A Bad Decision, Only Fear Others Making Decisions For You

As a people pleaser it's easy to give decision making control over to others. Not only are we often suffering from some form of low self-esteem, but our desire to do what we think others want us to do is often stronger then that of taking control of our lives. The problem with this unhealthy habit is that we are diluting our decision making data.

When we truly make our own decisions we are able to gather useful information based on the outcome. Regardless of whether the decision was right or wrong the information provided by the result will prove equally useful for better decision making in the future. If a child decides to touch a hot stove and gets burned they will have learned just as much as if they touched cold water to sooth their skin.

This is the natural way that our brains use our senses (including our 6th sense&#8230;those gut feelings we have) to learn how to improve our way of life. From learning what not to touch so we don't get burned to better understanding our sense of others. The problem with people pleasing is that it disrupts this process and dilutes the information our brains are trying to absorb.

The reason people pleasing is so destructive to this data is because the results observed when letting others decide your direction is tainted. Even if you encounter a positive outcome from a people pleasing based decision you will find no use for that data because it tells you nothing about how your own decision would have turned out. In other words, it's better to make a bad decision then to let someone else make a good decision for you. In the short run you may be better off with the latter, but down the road your ability to make your own good choices will atrophy as a result.

Resentment Is Often The Result Of Allowing Others To Direct Your Decisions

When we make a bad decision it can sting for a bit but in the end we live an learn. But when we make a bad decision and we know that this decision was not the one we wanted to make from the start, we can be devastated.

The saying goes, "You've made your bed and now you have to lay in it." Yet as people pleasers we are constantly laying in a bed made by those around us. Considering the mess of decisions based on who knows how many personalities and agendas, we find ourselves frustrated that our own less than ideal situation is the result of other peoples mistakes. Resentment, no doubt, ensues.

The problem is that we have no one to blame but ourselves. Because the one choice that we people pleasers always seem to make on our own is to hand over the keys to our own lives.

You Are No Longer You

As time goes on the active people pleaser will become less and less like the unique individual they had come into this world to be. Just like that water polluted glass of wine, the people pleaser has been so diluted by the people around them that they lose their distinct taste. So afraid of being disliked or disagreeable they end up being left with little personality. And let me tell you, it's better to be loved by some and hated by others then to only be liked by all. Some may love wine and hate beer or love beer and hate wine, but no one likes a watered down version of either.

Go for the details and the solution to this problem ..Is People Pleasing Diluting Who You Are And What You're Capable Of? | Motivate Thyself

MwanaFalsafa1 said:

The problem with JK is not loyalty. JK wanted to be president by any means possible that is why he had to find "investors" to fund his quest for the State House. Like any investors these people were not doing JK any favors and they were expecting to rip dividends from the money and resources they poured into getting JK elected.After winning the presidency these "investors" first expected JK to appoint some of their people into key positions. That is why some of these people do whatever they want knowing that JK can not do or say anything to them because they are there under the orders of JK's "bosses.

Another problem with JK is that non of his appointments seem to be by merit. Leaving aside the people who he appointed under direct orders from the "investors", JK also chose to reward some key posts to friends and relatives. These people did not necessarily fund JK's campaign but they have been apart of JK's political journey. Again here non of these appointments were merit based.

Mwalimu Nyerere once said "Ukiona mtu anakimbilia ikulu ni wakuogopa kama ukoma." Pia alituonya kuhusu wanasiasa wanaotumia fedha nyingi kutafuta uraisi kwa kuuliza wanatumia pesa nyingi kutafuta uraisi kuna biashara gani huko ikulu? These words from the late, great Nyerere seem to directly touch Kikwete's case. Kautafuta uraisi kwa nguvu zote na he was willing to do anything and everything to get it.

So my friend JK cannot escape without any blame as you are suggesting. He chose these associates himself. I am reminded of the saying "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are." I am also reminded of the simple but true saying of "birds of a feather flock together". If you find the deeper meaning of these sayings than you cannot in all honesty blame JK's associates while excluding him completely.

Bado miaka minne. Tutaona mengi sana.

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Indeed he was realy desparate for the state house ...and that is something we should all learn .. we can be taken advantage by those who knows our poor motives ...and this is much more worse when it is like going to the state house!! Now JK can not say NO ...any meaningfull No can not be directed to the friends and power monger close to HIM when the push for any thing!

ohh well...

Mr Slidingroof,
Your thread is full of ambivalence as it seems to be cogent but esoteric. Reading between the lines, one concludes that you destined to despise Chadema as an official opposition party.
Chadema as a political party has no immunity on criticism but it should be fair and free from malicious campaign.

An old adage &#8216;if you want to please everybody you will please nobody'. I for one have no remorse on Jk's leadership or performance. From the very beginning I cautioned some friends not to rally behind him because JK has absolutely no outstanding records on matter of national interest. He would rather remain neutral to appease either side. The trend has never changed ever since.
Kikwete is simply a stolid person.

Talking about Chadema as insipid party is unfair. Despite its novice in political sphere, indisputably CDM is the best opposition we have ever had in the house. The party has changed the archaic way of thinking and executing duties in and outside the house, no wonder that's why it is revered all over the country. The Chadema MPs are striving to propound new ideas and revealing depravity precariously. We should accolades them for the achievement, the least to say.

Remember, as a political party CDM has neither prerogative on executive branch of the government nor states organs. The assertion that they could do something beyond their power is twaddle.
If the president defied the house order to discipline the libertines how possible Chadema could do otherwise as a group of less than 30 patriots.

There should a concerted effort to shape our country for mutatis mutandis. Yes, Chadema is to take a lead seat but the onus lies squarely to wananchi and 200+ graduates and PhD holders who are singing &#8216;ndiyooo' dressing green and yellow.

The CDM's no avail is largely attributed by the house speaker and entire leadership for nolle prosequi.
Whilst the likes of Tundu Lissu , Zitto etc are up to defending the national interest, madame speaker becomes snooker.

Therefore, the way forward is to rebuke the house for biasness, secondly seal the loophole in the constitution which gives mandate to president to act on his person interest, and finally we need to have the constitution of the people for the people.

His greatest weakness lies beneath his logical choice of who should be good associates/friend for the better of the country and who shouldn't..