Kujishusha!!.....

Hello wapendwa,

Kwa wapenzi/wanandoa linapotokea suala la mifarakano ya hapa na pale mpaka wengine kutaka kuachana, mnalichukuliaje suala la kujishusha? Hapa naongelea kuwa chini (kupunguza hasira/jazba) na kuweza kurudisha amani kwa kuanzisha maongezi au/na kuomba msamaha.

Pia, ukiwa na mtu asijependa kujishusha ilhali kakosea unakabiliana vipi na hali hii? Mana kuna mtu hakubali kosa yao wala kuomba msamaha hata kama amekosea.

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Wanawake wachache sana amba ukijishusha
na kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa ni lake ,mambo yanakwisha na kuwa mazuri...

Wanawake walio wengi ukijishusha na kuomba msamaha.....

1.anakupanda kichwani na kuongeza ujeuri

2.anahifadhi hilo kosa,na kila siku utakumbushwa kuwa

alikusamehe kosa siku fulani.....

I prefer kuomba msamaha kwa vitendo....

Zawadi hivi,au out ya nguvu......

Mmh then one of the couple should see more by his head than feelings/emotions. wote mkiwa juu, it is the end of the road...

Mimi huwa najishusha....

Yah,ni jambo la maana kujishusha hasa pale utakapojua kuwa umekosa,lakini pia hata kama hujakosa inapotokea misunderstanding ni vizuri ukawa mtulivu na kutatua tatizo,ndoa yenu itakuwa njema,kutofautiana kwa binadam ni kawaida na msichukulie hilo kama tatizo labda iwe kwa kila siku au kwenye kila jambo!

As for me, zawadi and outing do not matter in this case! zawadi na outing zina maana gani kama hatuelewani?

I prefer to talk about it and kiishe.... zawadi and outing baadaye!

Mhhh nimesahau kama mimi hua najishusha au najiweka juu kama mlima Sayuni!Ngoja nikumbuke mara ya mwisho ilikuaje!!

Ohhh owkey..last time nilituliza makeke kwa faida binafsi lakini.Ila mara nyingi hua napenda kuongea yaishe...sipendi viporo maana hua naendelea kukasirika kwahiyo nikiona vipi nashuka chini kidogo kumpa mwenzangu unafuu wa kujieleza !

Mtu kujishusha ni muhimu sana maana ikiwa wote mnajiweka juu tu amani haipatilabi kirahisi na kuachana itakua ni rahisi kama kuagana usiku mwema!Wale wasioweza kufanya hivi inabidi wajifunze!

The Boss said:

Wanawake wachache sana amba ukijishusha
na kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa ni lake ,mambo yanakwisha na kuwa mazuri...

Wanawake walio wengi ukijishusha na kuomba msamaha.....

1.anakupanda kichwani na kuongeza ujeuri

2.anahifadhi hilo kosa,na kila siku utakumbushwa kuwa

alikusamehe kosa siku fulani.....

I prefer kuomba msamaha kwa vitendo....

Zawadi hivi,au out ya nguvu......

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Lakini hata kama kosa lako huwezi kusema 'samahani kwa hiki na kile' hata kwenye hiyo outing mana lazima kutakuwa na maongezi..Au ndiyo imeisha kijuu juu?..angalau lakini unafanya kwa vitendo.

Okada said:

Mmh then one of the couple should see more by his head than feelings/emotions. wote mkiwa juu, it is the end of the road...

Mimi huwa najishusha....

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Yani kweli mkiwa juu wote, naona ni kuugulia hasira japokuwa kila mmoja anatamani mwenzie aanze..Je unajishusha muda wote hata kama makosa siyo yako?!..huwagi na kinyongo kwamba ni wewe tu kujishusha?

The Boss said:

Wanawake wachache sana amba ukijishusha
na kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa ni lake ,mambo yanakwisha na kuwa mazuri...

Wanawake walio wengi ukijishusha na kuomba msamaha.....

1.anakupanda kichwani na kuongeza ujeuri

2.anahifadhi hilo kosa,na kila siku utakumbushwa kuwa

alikusamehe kosa siku fulani.....

I prefer kuomba msamaha kwa vitendo....

Zawadi hivi,au out ya nguvu......

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kwa maana hiyo mie ni mwanamke wa kipekee, napenda nikikosewa tuongee tuombane msamaha yaishe na huwa sikumbushi kabisa makosa yaliyopita, cause na mie huwa nakosea na nikisamehewa sipendi kabisa kukumbushiwa yalopita

Blackberry hongera kama ni kweli,kip it up!

Eiyer said:

Yah,ni jambo la maana kujishusha hasa pale utakapojua kuwa umekosa,lakini pia hata kama hujakosa inapotokea misunderstanding ni vizuri ukawa mtulivu na kutatua tatizo,ndoa yenu itakuwa njema,kutofautiana kwa binadam ni kawaida na msichukulie hilo kama tatizo labda iwe kwa kila siku au kwenye kila jambo!

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Mtazamo wako mzuri ni bora kutatua matatizo yakaisha..kwahiyo unajishushaga hata kama siyo kosa lako? au pande zote mbili kutokana na tatizo ndiyo mnajishusha?

Okada said:

As for me, zawadi and outing do not matter in this case! zawadi na outing zina maana gani kama hatuelewani?

I prefer to talk about it and kiishe.... zawadi and outing baadaye!

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Nadhani kuna wengine wanaanza na vitendo halafu huko kama outing wanaongelea walipokosea na kuomba msamaha..Nimeshawahi kuwa na mpz ambae msamaha kwake wakati ambao amekosea ilikuwa ni ngumu..mpaka tuchuniane halafu anasema twende mahali na huko alikuwa akikiri alikosea na kuomba msamaha..
Ila kuanza kusema 'sorry' muda aliokosea ilikuwa ngumu sana..

Lizzy said:

Mhhh nimesahau kama mimi hua najishusha au najiweka juu kama mlima Sayuni!Ngoja nikumbuke mara ya mwisho ilikuaje!!

Ohhh owkey..last time nilituliza makeke kwa faida binafsi lakini.Ila mara nyingi hua napenda kuongea yaishe...sipendi viporo maana hua naendelea kukasirika kwahiyo nikiona vipi nashuka chini kidogo kumpa mwenzangu unafuu wa kujieleza !

Mtu kujishusha ni muhimu sana maana ikiwa wote mnajiweka juu tu amani haipatilabi kirahisi na kuachana itakua ni rahisi kama kuagana usiku mwema!Wale wasioweza kufanya hivi inabidi wajifunze!

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Lizzy mamii kweli viporo vinakera sana, bora kumalizana yaishe..tatizo kubwa ni kukutana na mtu mwenye kiburi yani yeye akosee haombi msamaha wala kukiri kosa, sijui ni tabia hii au?

Nimejifunza kitu hapo, amani inatafutwa haiji yenyewe mana utaachana na wangapi kwa kutokujishusha au kurekebishana mnapokosea.

BlackBerry said:

kwa maana hiyo mie ni mwanamke wa kipekee, napenda nikikosewa tuongee tuombane msamaha yaishe na huwa sikumbushi kabisa makosa yaliyopita, cause na mie huwa nakosea na nikisamehewa sipendi kabisa kukumbushiwa yalopita

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Ha ha BlackBerry, you're one in a million!!..nadhani linapokuja suala la kukumbushia, ni ngumu kwa binadamu kusahau kila kitu sema kuna wengine wamezidi kukumbushia yani badala ya kuishi maisha ya sasa kila siku mpo past tense.

The Boss said:

Wanawake wachache sana amba ukijishusha
na kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa ni lake ,mambo yanakwisha na kuwa mazuri...

Wanawake walio wengi ukijishusha na kuomba msamaha.....

1.anakupanda kichwani na kuongeza ujeuri

2.anahifadhi hilo kosa,na kila siku utakumbushwa kuwa

alikusamehe kosa siku fulani.....

I prefer kuomba msamaha kwa vitendo....

Zawadi hivi,au out ya nguvu......

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Kama mnamapenzi ya kweli sidhani kama hivo visasi vitakuwepo.

Ni vizuri linapotokea tatizo wote mkajishusha,mkazungumza kisha mkajua nani mwenye tatizo halafu yakaisha kwa amani na furaha!

The Boss said:

Wanawake wachache sana amba ukijishusha
na kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa ni lake ,mambo yanakwisha na kuwa mazuri...

Wanawake walio wengi ukijishusha na kuomba msamaha.....

1.anakupanda kichwani na kuongeza ujeuri

2.anahifadhi hilo kosa,na kila siku utakumbushwa kuwa

alikusamehe kosa siku fulani.....

I prefer kuomba msamaha kwa vitendo....

Zawadi hivi,au out ya nguvu......

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Interesting eh.I usually think wanaume ndo wagumu kujishusha na kuwa kujishusha ni kwa wanawake tu!! Thanx Boss another day, another knowledge

Ningeomba ufafanuzi kujishusha ndo kukoje? Kuna maanisha
1. Uombe msamaha hata kama kosa si lako?
2. Ukae kimya -usijibizane naye pale ambapo amepanda
3. Kumjibu kwa upole ukijaribu kumwelewesha??

1. Kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa si lako inawezakuwa njia nzuri ya kumaliza hacra zake kwa wakati huo. But hii inatakiwa iwe na follow-up plan yaani utafute siku mko vizuri uclear whatever mlichokuwa mnagombana (Hapa nitaambiwa una-bank makosa) Potelea mbali lakini ni vema mkawekana sawa kwani haichelewi kuwa kawaida - yaani akajua akifanya makosa utakiri wewe na kisha imetoka. Unamzoesha

2. kukaa kimya pale anapopandisha - inategemea na mtu, mwingine anawezakukuchukulia una kiburi na dharau ndio maana umemgeuza radio- anaongea we unasikiliza. Mwingine anawezakukuelewa

3. Kumjibu kwa upole- akiwa mwelewa atakusikiliza but kama kapandisha jazba sidhani kama itawork. But mwingine anawezakuona unamjibu kwa kuwa unajeuri.

So nafikiri inategemea situation yenyewe but always ya kwanza (iwe na follow-up) husave more trouble

blackberry said:

kwa maana hiyo mie ni mwanamke wa kipekee, napenda nikikosewa tuongee tuombane msamaha yaishe na huwa sikumbushi kabisa makosa yaliyopita, cause na mie huwa nakosea na nikisamehewa sipendi kabisa kukumbushiwa yalopita

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ngoja nije pm lol

Kibaya zaidi wanawake wengi mnagombana asubuhi

mnayamaliza....

Wewe unafikiri yameisha......

Sasa pale jioni unapotaka game......ndo yanaaaanza upyaaaaaaaaaa....

Talaka mnatafutaga wenyewe kwa kweli

mwanajamiione said:

interesting eh.i usually think wanaume ndo wagumu kujishusha na kuwa kujishusha ni kwa wanawake tu!! Thanx boss another day, another knowledge

ningeomba ufafanuzi kujishusha ndo kukoje? Kuna maanisha
1. Uombe msamaha hata kama kosa si lako?
2. Ukae kimya -usijibizane naye pale ambapo amepanda
3. Kumjibu kwa upole ukijaribu kumwelewesha??

1. Kuomba msamaha hata kama kosa si lako inawezakuwa njia nzuri ya kumaliza hacra zake kwa wakati huo. But hii inatakiwa iwe na follow-up plan yaani utafute siku mko vizuri uclear whatever mlichokuwa mnagombana (hapa nitaambiwa una-bank makosa) potelea mbali lakini ni vema mkawekana sawa kwani haichelewi kuwa kawaida - yaani akajua akifanya makosa utakiri wewe na kisha imetoka. Unamzoesha

2. Kukaa kimya pale anapopandisha - inategemea na mtu, mwingine anawezakukuchukulia una kiburi na dharau ndio maana umemgeuza radio- anaongea we unasikiliza. Mwingine anawezakukuelewa

3. Kumjibu kwa upole- akiwa mwelewa atakusikiliza but kama kapandisha jazba sidhani kama itawork. But mwingine anawezakuona unamjibu kwa kuwa unajeuri.

So nafikiri inategemea situation yenyewe but always ya kwanza (iwe na follow-up) husave more trouble

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mimi kama siko kwenye mood ya ugomvi
hata kama sina kosa naomba msamaha....

Tatizo wengine ukiomba msamaha unajipalia makaaa

The Boss said:

ngoja nije pm lol

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Karibu The Boss

The Boss said:

Kibaya zaidi wanawake wengi mnagombana asubuhi

mnayamaliza....

Wewe unafikiri yameisha......

Sasa pale jioni unapotaka game......ndo yanaaaanza upyaaaaaaaaaa....

Talaka mnatafutaga wenyewe kwa kweli

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Looo mie sehemu hizo huwa sirembi, napiga mzigo kwanza nikimaliza kama kununa niendelee kununa

Nimekusamehe lakini sitokusahau aliimba nani tena???

Unaomba msamaha hata kama kosa si lako ndo solution mambo yaishe na maisha yaendelee mbele