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Kwa asilimia yote mwanamke ukishamweka ndani yaani mke atakutegemea kimawazo

Kwa almost everything kwa mfumo wowote utakao uweka uwe mfume dume, jike sijui mfumo sawa kwa sawa vyovyote vile. Mwanamke/mke hata siku moja hatajafanya kama wewe unavyotarajia maana anadepend kwako kimawazo kwa kiasi kikubwa hivyo hata kwenye utekelezaji hawezi kujiamini.
Cha msingi usichoke kufundisha na kuelekeza kila iitwapo leo,
Maisha ya ndoa yatakuwa matamu
Iko hivyo, kwa ushauri wangu.

Mkuu FD kule mtaa wa pili mbona kumenuna siku hizi?

Nyani Ngabu said:

Mimi nazungumzia team work i.e. where the players play as a team and not as individuals.

Na kwenye ndoa mke na mume wote ni viongozi.

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Huwezi kuwa na viongozi wawili kwenye timu moja kaka. Au umesahau kuwa mafahali wawili hawakai zizi moja????????????????????????????

Nyani Ngabu said:

Aisee tone yako ni mbaya unaposema "mmoja ni boss".....it just doesn't sound right to my ears. In a marriage, both husband and wife are supposed to be co-bosses, if I may use your term. This doesn't mean that the wife can also do oil changes and the like. Not at all (though if she can why not)....What I mean is that both of you should treat each other fairly, you should respect each other, and love each other equally and also understand your roles as husband and wife. But to say one is the boss so who/what is the other half supposed to be - subordinate? Come on man...what kind thinking is that?

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Not everythng that is right sounds right to everyone's ears.

Pomboo said:

Kwa asilimia yote mwanamke ukishamweka ndani yaani mke atakutegemea kimawazo

Kwa almost everything kwa mfumo wowote utakao uweka uwe mfume dume, jike sijui mfumo sawa kwa sawa vyovyote vile. Mwanamke/mke hata siku moja hatajafanya kama wewe unavyotarajia maana anadepend kwako kimawazo kwa kiasi kikubwa hivyo hata kwenye utekelezaji hawezi kujiamini.
Cha msingi usichoke kufundisha na kuelekeza kila iitwapo leo,
Maisha ya ndoa yatakuwa matamu
Iko hivyo, kwa ushauri wangu.

Mkuu FD kule mtaa wa pili mbona kumenuna siku hizi?

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Nadhani kitu cha muhimu hapa kwa wanaume na hata wanawake tujifunze kuishi kwa kuvumiliana na kwa kurekebishana.

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Nyani Ngabu said:

Mimi nazungumzia team work i.e. where the players play as a team and not as individuals.

Na kwenye ndoa mke na mume wote ni viongozi.

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Hakuna kitu kama hicho, Mume daima atakuwa kiongozi mpaka mwisho wa dahari....