Honey! unaongea na lawyer ujue, rejea tena post uisome vizuri
Nimetoka kujifungua juzi mtoto wangu wa pilo. . wote wa kiume.Nawapa malezi ka niliyopata mimi. . . kazi na heshima.Umejifungua lini na mtoto wako wa jinsia gani? malezi unapaje mwanao/wanao?
Majibu yangu anayo Arrayhehehe mshakwenda kuchukua majibu? leo ni siku ya ukimwi wajameni.
Nimetoka kujifungua juzi mtoto wangu wa pilo. . wote wa kiume.Nawapa malezi ka niliyopata mimi. . . kazi na heshima.
Honey hebu njoo huku Klorokwin anataka kuivuruga nyumba yetu ni marafuku kwenda kumtembelea..Maswali mengine . Ni ka shati iliyojazwa bluu..
Hakikisha hawi na tabia kama wa Klorokwin mtoto wake yuko Form Four bado anaenda na pampers shuleni..khaaaNimetoka kujifungua juzi mtoto wangu wa pilo. . wote wa kiume.Nawapa malezi ka niliyopata mimi. . . kazi na heshima.
Mfukie kwenye shimo juu shindilia na zege kabisa...Nishakuvua uHONEY aisee.
Full dissapointement.
Mfukie kwenye shimo juu shindilia na zege kabisa...
Point zilizojitokeza zinazohusiana na mada mpaka sasa ni kama ifuatavyo:
1.Watoto wenye malezi ya ukaribu wa mama, wana uwezekano mkubwa zaidi wa kujipatia stadi za maisha za kuwafanya wasaidiane na wenza wao kuliko wale waliokosa malezi hayo
2. Vijana wa kiume wanaoegemea sana kwa mama zao wanao uwezekano wa kupata hulka au tabia za utegemezi kwa mama zao na tabia nyingine zisizovutia kijamii na hata kwa wenza wao
3.Kijana/mwanaume anayejituma kufanya shughuli zinazoaminika kuwa za wanawake anaweza kuwa mwenza bora kwa vile atakuwa tayari kumsaidia mwenzake
4. Vigezo vya mwanaume mzuri ni tata......inategemea anayeamua kigezo kizuri ni kipi, na mazingira ya mhusika
5.Ukaribu wa mtoto kwa mama au baba ni muhimu ku shape malezi na hata kujenga heshima na upendo.
Endeleeni kumwaga pwenti
Tausi wewe ni kiboko...
Posts zilizokufikisha kwenye hizo conclusions mbona sijaziona???
Au ulikuwa nazo hata kabla ya kumwaga mada!!!!!
Nilibahatika kusikiliza mazungumzo ya wadada fulani wakisema ati wanaume wazuri ni wale waliopata malezi ya karibu ya mama zao.
Wakatoa mifano ya ni vipi waliliona hilo:
Wanaume hao wanajua kupika, kulea watoto, wana huruma zaidi, wanaheshimu wanawake, wana upendo, wanajali, etc.
Hili likanifanya nifikirie na kwa kiasi nikaona lina ukweli.Nimeliona hilo kwa ndugu zangu wa kiume waliolelewa na mama zao bila kuwepo baba, au wale waliokuwa na baba lakini wakatii sana mafundisho ya mama zao.Wako independent zaidi, hawanaga makeke sana kwa wake zao, nk...
Hebu tupate mawazo zaidi kwa wale wenye uzoefu.
Kama una uvumilivu wa kisoma kitu kirefu, soma hii hapa:
Inaweza kutoa mwanga japo mazingira ni tofauti.
Why You Should Date Men Raised By Single Moms and Six reasons single-mama-men will rock your world.
Pundits like to decry single-parent families as the downfall of our civilization. Many studies have focused on the difficulties children raised in single-family homes face (including school troubles, substance abuse and divorce later in life), although many of these studies fail to control for the lower socioeconomic status of the children involved. Rarely mentioned? Despite all their hardships, single-parent families can also produce strong, solid and immensely dateable young men.
I've lived with male roommates for many years. Whenever my friends drop by, they can't get over how clean and tidy our house is. "You live here with four guys?" they ask, incredulous. "Yep," I respond. "They're usually neater than I am." I attribute the boys' superior household habits to their amazing mothers, who raised them (mostly) all on their own.
They're the guys I call if my car breaks down, a date dumps me or a spider creeps into my room. These single-mama-men do what they say they'll do, show up where they're supposed to and almost always remember to change the toilet paper roll. What more could you want in a husband-to-be?
Manhattan psychologist Dr. Joseph Cilona cautions against taking these individual stand-outs and making generalizations about all men raised by single moms, reminding us that "a mother who has very poor parenting skills or is abusive and neglectful can create the opposite effect and make it much more likely that the man will grow up with serious problems relating to women and in relationships."
However, he adds, "Men raised exclusively by women may have an advantage over those who are not when it comes to things like effective communication, insight into emotionality and expressiveness."
My own (terribly unscientific) theory is that these men had a lot of practice taking care of themselves and taking care of women – or at least being on the same team as the women in their lives. They learned from a young age much of the "husband training" most men learn oh-so-late in life from their exasperated girlfriends.
In case you're still not convinced, here are six reasons why men raised by single moms are great guys to date … and maybe even marry!
1. They respect women.
"Men raised by women might be more likely to develop an egalitarian world view when it comes to gender and be less inclined to chauvinistic thinking and opinions," says Dr. Cilona. These single-mom-guys spent years working as a team with their mothers, which is phenomenal practice for the cooperation and compromises required in romantic partnerships.
2. They're neat and tidy.
They were probably loading the dishwasher and folding the laundry before they were riding big-boy bikes. They also know that grocery shopping, cooking and bathroom cleaning aren't done by magical elves. They'll do these chores because they need to be done; no nagging required.
3. They're good communicators.
"Being exposed to more frequent, nuanced and direct expressions of feelings and emotions might help [these] men develop stronger skills at both understanding emotionality at a higher level and identifying and communicating their own emotional experience," explains Dr. Cilona. It seems to me single-mama-men always know how I'm feeling before I say a word – they're gifted at reading women's emotions and are often braver than most guys about sharing their own feelings.
4. They don't whine.
When there's a job to be done, these guys aren't afraid to step up to the plate, not a whine in earshot. They understand the intrinsic rewards of a job well done. In short: they don't need you to be their mommy.
5. They can fix things.
Having to be the "man of the house" at a young age is a lot of responsibility. But one of the advantages (at least for the women they date!), is that these men are often very handy with household repairs. They're also not bad at mending broken hearts and bruised egos.
6. They're responsible.
These guys grew up in families that, by necessity, required them to pull their own weight. Without the luxury of two parents double checking that lunches were packed and homework was complete, they learned to take their own responsibilities seriously. They're careful about the commitments they make, because they almost always keep them. The last thing in the world they want is to let you down.
Source:http://www.bettyconfidential.com/ar/ld/a/Why-You-Should-Date-Men-Raised-By-Single-Moms
Mkuu BAK,Mkuu TM, hili ni kweli kabisa. Nawafahamu baadhi ya ndugu na hata marafiki ambao wana sifa kama hizo za kulelewa karibu na mama na asilimia kubwa wako hivyo, ila cha kushangaza unaweza kuona watoto wa kutoka nyumba moja kwa mfano wa nne watatu wakawa na sifa hizo lakini mmoja akawa tofauti na hawa wote wamelelewa karubu na mama, sasa huyo mmoja sijui tatizo linakuwa nini hadi awe na tabia tofauti na wenzie hasa ukitilia maani kwamba wamelelewa nyumba moja toka wanazaliwa had wanakuwa watu wazima.
Hata mimi sijui, ila nadhani kama mwanaume anajua kupika hawezi kuwa fussy kama wale wasiojua.Mwenye kujua kupika most probably hatazinguka sana na "mapishi" ya nje maana hata yeye ajua kupika!Ngoja tusikie watakaojibu wanasemaje.