Why does this happen under the umbrella of love?

hii mada ngumu MJ. inawezwkana mtu anahisi atachekwa kwa kuwa mwenzi wake hana muonekano? au yuko rough? hana swagga, etc.. sababu ni nyinhi ila mi nadhani ni ubatili mtupu maana kama ushakubali kuwa na mtu maishani mwako ya nini kumuonea aibu?

Love GET BORN, GROWS, MATURES, DECLINES AND FINALLY IT DIES. Love within a person to a person follows this trend. Some couples are lucky enough that love between them ages with their life. But to majority of the couples, love dies while the couple lives.

When love dies while the couple lives, what you have described here happens automatically. Couples live together without love; love has died off! Some will look it elsewhere, some will cling to loveless relations.

It is our wish and the religions' wish that love between COUPLES is permanent. But reality is that in most COUPLES LOVE IS NOT PERMANENT and is subject to weathering; wear and tear as we go along. What makes love weather so fast between some couples than others is not well understoood, but some believe evolutionary forces are at play!!

May be we are in a transition from organisms in whom love between couples is TEMPORARY to organisms in whom love between them is PERMANENT.

But while we live, we will continue to see what we see! May be in a 100th generation to come all love will be permanent because we belive that permanent love will be PREFERED by natural selection forces.

Jibu rahisi zaidi ni kuwa wapenzi wa namna hiyo; yaani wasiopenda kuwa pamoja kwenye public hawana mapenzi tena. Walikuwa wapenzi wakati wanaoana ila limetokea hili na lile kati yao na mapenzi yao yamekufa, ila wanaendelea kuishi pamoja kama mke na mme.

Mke anaweza asipende kumtambulisha mme wake kwa co-workers wake kwa sababu pengine pale kazini ana mapenzi mengine ambayo yako widely known. Kwa hiyo naturally anaona aibu. The same applies kwa mme anapokwepa kwenda na mke kwenye events public. Si kwamba anaona aibu kuwa ataonekana ana mke/mme ambaye siyo presentable!! Ana wasi wasi na kujulikana kwa mme/mke wake na wafanyakazi wenzie!

Mapenzi hakuna yalishakufa zamani, wanaishi tu kama sehemu ya wajibu wa kuishi pamoja. Bahati mbaya (au nzuri) ndoa nyingi ziko hapo!

Dah! wapwa mmenipa maswali mengine mengi zaidi ambayo nikiuliza hapa nitaua huu mjadala..............tiendelee!