People normally want a guarantee of the following;
- that the relation that is going to be established will never get broken...
- secrecy....
- they need a shadow of which, when anyone receive any gift or a consideration from the other one will not deliver abnormal signs to others..
- Kikulacho kiko nguoni mwako....
- Kutohofu Mungu...
- Kushuhudia wengine wakifanya hivyo, yaani malezi...
- Kufananishana....
- Familia au ukoo kusuluhisha migogoro ya aina hiyo kichinichini, hivyo wengi wanajua hata ikijitokeza itakuwa siri ya nyumbani...!
- nk.