Bramo
JF-Expert Member
- Oct 21, 2009
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***QUESTION***
I have been talking to this girl for about a month
now and I find myself falling in love with her
everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night).
She recently told me that she didn't want to date
me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said
that if it is meant to happen it will, and that
we shouldn't force it. My question is how do I
get her to realize that it is meant, and that we
should push it, and how do I prove to her she
won't hurt me??
Sincerely, XXXXXX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should
do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk
into the bathroom right now.
Turn on the light.
On the piece of paper I want you to write the
word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make
sense... but do it anyway.
Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you,
so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a
CAPTION for YOUR FACE.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Let that settle in for a minute.
Now that you have a clear picture of what a
WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced
maneuver.
Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up
next to your face.
Hold it about 12 inches away.
Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it.
Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of
you...
Dude, duuuuuude.
You are SOOO missing the point here.
She does not want a guy who will prove to her
that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be
with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG.
Women aren't attracted to girly-men.
Girly-men freak women out.
Women RUN from girly-men.
The answer is for you to start acting like a
MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL.
***QUESTION***I
was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I
had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend
when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by
loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this
is my complete lack of confidence, I just had
none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go
over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I
was approached by a lady, I either froze up or
shook so much that everyone in the room thought
their cell phone was vibrating!
I just got up 1 day decided to go on the Internet
and learn! I really didn't think I would come
across so much rubbish! But I signed up to all
the free newsletters and I used techniques subtly
with me female friends! Well as you've obviously
guessed, your tips were the ticket! I bought the
book and I was off... ..
I am now 28, been using your techniques for
about a year, year and a half and I am so happy! I
have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating
3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont
leave me alone!
I am emailing you to say thank you, I would
really appreciate an email back if you don't post
it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it,
or I might send it again knowing me!
Ok here's the question, I have heard similar
questions so much on your newsletters but this is
quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be
great, rather than the default one!
Right, the one girl that I want is the one
playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I
knew her from work but didn't know her very well,
she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told'
her to give me her number! I rang her but her
phone is always off, so I sent her a text message
(sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee
during the week. She replied that she's busy all
week and she said that she has just got back with
her ex and if I want to get to know her as a
friend is my decision.
I REALLY like her, and she does not know this
(because she doesn't need to know). I am still a
novice at the game so could you tell me exactly
what you would do and exactly what you would say?
please...
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then... welcome to the world of being an
adult man! Exciting.
and I'm glad to hear that you're doing well
with the ladies... FINALLY.
Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer
to your "special situation."
Let's see...
You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and
they're chasing you around like you're some kind
of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women...
of course.
Nooooo...
You want the ONE who isn't interested in you...
the one who just got back with her boyfriend.
Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like
you to consider your own situation.
Let's be honest, shall we?
Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL.
You are not into this girl because she's
actually that "special."
You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU.
If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit
that you're basically out of control in this
situation, then we can make some progress.
So admit it. Say it out loud.
"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly
because she doesn't want me... and it really
fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop
thinking about it."
Just read that out loud.
Read it again, just so you hear the words this
time.
Think about it for a minute.
You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF!
And it STILL works on YOU.
That's profound.
And by the way, the more you try to "resist"
the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a
challenge and you only want her because she's
"special," etc. the worse it will get.
So what should you do?
Hit the road.
Say "Next."
Move on.
Walk.
One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF
is to get the number of an unusually attractive
woman, then THROW IT AWAY.
Why? Duh.
Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to
yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and
meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am."
That kind of thing will help you, big time.
Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to
take my advice... and you want to make yourself
crazy some more, here's what to do:
1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.
2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a
question that I really need to ask you... call
me".
3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you
why it's taking you so long to call and ask me
out...." Tell her about some beautiful and
intelligent woman you've been dating, and then
tell her that you'd like to get together with her
and hang out as friends.
4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill
out, and give her space.
5) Take the time and energy to actually get to
know her as a person. Find out if she is really
the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make
a list of all the things that would make a
"perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the
things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all
the questions when you meet her... and do it in a
"friend" kind of way.
I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that
she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want
to be with.
On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl,
lean back and take your time.
Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.
Tell her that you can't possibly understand how
her boyfriend could stand her.
Chances are that she won't be with this guy for
long, and you will have now established that she's
your dream girl... and you'll be ready to
"pounce."
Moral?
Just get on with your life, man.
You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to
pretend that he's not.
My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July
fireworks.
I have been talking to this girl for about a month
now and I find myself falling in love with her
everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night).
She recently told me that she didn't want to date
me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said
that if it is meant to happen it will, and that
we shouldn't force it. My question is how do I
get her to realize that it is meant, and that we
should push it, and how do I prove to her she
won't hurt me??
Sincerely, XXXXXX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should
do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk
into the bathroom right now.
Turn on the light.
On the piece of paper I want you to write the
word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make
sense... but do it anyway.
Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you,
so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a
CAPTION for YOUR FACE.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Let that settle in for a minute.
Now that you have a clear picture of what a
WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced
maneuver.
Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up
next to your face.
Hold it about 12 inches away.
Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it.
Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of
you...
Dude, duuuuuude.
You are SOOO missing the point here.
She does not want a guy who will prove to her
that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be
with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG.
Women aren't attracted to girly-men.
Girly-men freak women out.
Women RUN from girly-men.
The answer is for you to start acting like a
MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL.
***QUESTION***I
was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I
had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend
when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by
loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this
is my complete lack of confidence, I just had
none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go
over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I
was approached by a lady, I either froze up or
shook so much that everyone in the room thought
their cell phone was vibrating!
I just got up 1 day decided to go on the Internet
and learn! I really didn't think I would come
across so much rubbish! But I signed up to all
the free newsletters and I used techniques subtly
with me female friends! Well as you've obviously
guessed, your tips were the ticket! I bought the
book and I was off... ..
I am now 28, been using your techniques for
about a year, year and a half and I am so happy! I
have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating
3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont
leave me alone!
I am emailing you to say thank you, I would
really appreciate an email back if you don't post
it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it,
or I might send it again knowing me!
Ok here's the question, I have heard similar
questions so much on your newsletters but this is
quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be
great, rather than the default one!
Right, the one girl that I want is the one
playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I
knew her from work but didn't know her very well,
she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told'
her to give me her number! I rang her but her
phone is always off, so I sent her a text message
(sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee
during the week. She replied that she's busy all
week and she said that she has just got back with
her ex and if I want to get to know her as a
friend is my decision.
I REALLY like her, and she does not know this
(because she doesn't need to know). I am still a
novice at the game so could you tell me exactly
what you would do and exactly what you would say?
please...
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then... welcome to the world of being an
adult man! Exciting.
and I'm glad to hear that you're doing well
with the ladies... FINALLY.
Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer
to your "special situation."
Let's see...
You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and
they're chasing you around like you're some kind
of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women...
of course.
Nooooo...
You want the ONE who isn't interested in you...
the one who just got back with her boyfriend.
Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like
you to consider your own situation.
Let's be honest, shall we?
Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL.
You are not into this girl because she's
actually that "special."
You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU.
If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit
that you're basically out of control in this
situation, then we can make some progress.
So admit it. Say it out loud.
"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly
because she doesn't want me... and it really
fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop
thinking about it."
Just read that out loud.
Read it again, just so you hear the words this
time.
Think about it for a minute.
You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF!
And it STILL works on YOU.
That's profound.
And by the way, the more you try to "resist"
the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a
challenge and you only want her because she's
"special," etc. the worse it will get.
So what should you do?
Hit the road.
Say "Next."
Move on.
Walk.
One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF
is to get the number of an unusually attractive
woman, then THROW IT AWAY.
Why? Duh.
Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to
yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and
meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am."
That kind of thing will help you, big time.
Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to
take my advice... and you want to make yourself
crazy some more, here's what to do:
1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.
2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a
question that I really need to ask you... call
me".
3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you
why it's taking you so long to call and ask me
out...." Tell her about some beautiful and
intelligent woman you've been dating, and then
tell her that you'd like to get together with her
and hang out as friends.
4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill
out, and give her space.
5) Take the time and energy to actually get to
know her as a person. Find out if she is really
the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make
a list of all the things that would make a
"perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the
things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all
the questions when you meet her... and do it in a
"friend" kind of way.
I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that
she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want
to be with.
On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl,
lean back and take your time.
Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.
Tell her that you can't possibly understand how
her boyfriend could stand her.
Chances are that she won't be with this guy for
long, and you will have now established that she's
your dream girl... and you'll be ready to
"pounce."
Moral?
Just get on with your life, man.
You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to
pretend that he's not.
My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July
fireworks.
