Have/will you change your name after marriage?

Have/will you change your name after marriage?

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More women are taking their new husbands' names after marriage, research shows. But the decision continues to spark debate and confusion.

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The trend toward women keeping their maiden names after marriage peaked in the 1990s, when about 23% of women did so, then eased gradually to about 18% in the 2000s, says a 35-year-study published in 2009 in the journal Social Behavior and Personality. And increasingly, studies show women's decisions on the issue are guided by factors other than political or religious ideas about women's rights or marital roles, as often believed.
Well-educated women in high-earning occupations are significantly more likely to keep their maiden names, the study shows. Brides in professional fields such as medicine, the arts or entertainment are the most likely of all to do so. Age makes a big difference too, according to a 2010 study in a scholarly journal entitled "Names: A Journal of Onomastics." Women who married when they were 35 to 39 years old were 6.4 times more likely to keep their names than women who married between the ages of 20 and 24.

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In fact, the idea that women who keep their maiden names are better breadwinners is becoming a stereotype that some people use as a basis for judging women's ability. In a Dutch study published last year in the journal Basic and Applied Social Psychology, researchers had 90 students compare hypothetical women they had met at a party based on whether they took their husband's names. Those who did were judged as more caring, dependent and emotional, while those who kept their names were seen as smarter and more ambitious.
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Researchers also asked 50 students to screen e-mails containing hypothetical job applications from women. The candidates who had kept their maiden names were more likely to be hired and were offered salaries averaging 40% higher than their name-changing peers. (Among limitations of the study, the sample was made up of students who probably lacked much job experience or other criteria upon which to base their judgments.)
Either way, picking a last name can be fraught with complications. Some women lie awake nights before their weddings trying to decide what to do. For women who change their minds later, some vendors even offer "name change kits." Still, changing your name mid-career, as some of my colleagues have done, can lead to confusion among co-workers, clients or in my profession, readers and sources.
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Splitting the difference by keeping both names, as many women do, "is a recipe for confusion," one woman writes in an email. She kept her maiden name professionally but uses her married name sometimes outside work. Now, "I never know how to introduce myself," she says. Her driver's license bears one name and her voter registration the other, and she receives summonses for jury duty in both names.
My Juggle colleague Rachel also uses two different names -- her maiden name professionally and her married name personally and officially -- which can lead to lots of mixups, she says. "Readers and colleagues know me by one name and the HR department, friends and the IRS know me by another," she tells me. "I didn't want to give up my byline, which I've had for many years. But changing my name was important to my husband for a lot of reasons, and ultimately we wanted our family members to all have the same name."
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Readers, how have you handled this decision in your marriage? What kind of reactions to your decision have you received from other people? Has keeping your maiden name or changing your name been a hassle for you? Have any of you changed your names mid-career?
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I didn't and after reading this article am proud of my decision!
 
Ikitokea nikakubali kufungwa pingu sitabadilisha jina langu....

Kuna mama nilimsikia akisema yeye ameshaolewa mara nne...natamani kujua kama anatumia jina lake au anabadilisha kila akiolewa!!!
 
Ikitokea nikakubali kufungwa pingu sitabadilisha jina langu....

Kuna mama nilimsikia akisema yeye ameshaolewa mara nne...natamani kujua kama anatumia jina lake au anabadilisha kila akiolewa!!!

Pamoja kwenye hili dearest!!! sioni sababu yeyote ya maana ya kubadilisha jina langu....!!
 
Traditionally, the woman will take the man's last name, so this would indeed involve a legal name change. However, it is not required, and in recently years more and more women are keeping their maiden names....IMO it is not big deal whether you change your last name or not.
 
Traditionally, the woman will take the man's last name, so this would indeed involve a legal name change. However, it is not required, and in recently years more and more women are keeping their maiden names....IMO it is not big deal whether you change your last name or not.

IMO....it is a big deal to most men....l.o.l.....:dance::dance::dance:
 
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...mnh, ok...kwa hiyo kwenye official letters atatambulikaje? Ms Fulani, au Mrs fulani?
All in all, binafsi sipendelei wale ambao weshatalikiana halafu mke anaendelea kutumia
Surname ya ex- husband wake.
 
Waislaam hatuna tatizo hilo hubaki na majina na nasaba zetu, labda kwa wajinga wachache wanaoona kubadili jina ni maendeleo. Nashanga!

Kwani kuolewa ni utumwa hata ubadili nasaba yako? Sioni sababu yoyote ya maana ya kubadili jina, mkataa asili ni mtumwa.
 
mama yangu tangia aachike jina la baba linamboa ila ndo hajui afanyaje nalo...lol,i guess ukiwa mapenzini unafanya vitu baadae unajutia.....mie nitabaki na kwangu incase na mie nikiachika sitabaki na kitu kinachoniboa lol,hivi unafanyaje ukiachika??? unaona wanasheria ubadilishe au?
 
mama yangu tangia aachike jina la baba linamboa ila ndo hajui afanyaje nalo...lol,i guess ukiwa mapenzini unafanya vitu baadae unajutia.....mie nitabaki na kwangu incase na mie nikiachika sitabaki na kitu kinachoniboa lol,hivi unafanyaje ukiachika??? unaona wanasheria ubadilishe au?
Unarudia la kwako...ukiolewa tena mapenzi yanakuchanganya unachukua jina la mume...mkiachana unalikataa tena!!!Bora tu kubaki na jina lako ili mambo yakienda ndivyo sivyo unajiondokea tu bila mzigo wa jina la watu!!!
 
Hahahahahah lol!...labda wale wa mwaka 47! 🙂

ha ha ha haaaaa,ina maana BAK mimi na usichana wangu nakutana na wanaume wa miaka 47? manake nimetoa experience yangu....kuwa wanapenda wake zao watumie majina yao....!!! nitake radhi yaishe.....l.o.l
On a serious note: hata vijana tu in their 20's,30's and 40's..majority wangependa wake zao watumie majina yao.
 
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Maandiko yanasema utaachana na wazazi wako na utaambatana na mumeo......

Yaap nitabadilisha who cares??? coz si tumekuwa mwili mmoja na tunashea vitu vitamu ambavyo siwezi share na ndugu yangu au mzazi wangu :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:
 
Maandiko yanasema utaachana na wazazi wako na utaambatana na mumeo......

Yaap nitabadilisha who cares??? coz si tumekuwa mwili mmoja na tunashea vitu vitamu ambavyo siwezi share na ndugu yangu au mzazi wangu :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:
Alafu vitamu vikigeuka vichungu???
 
Waislaam hatuna tatizo hilo hubaki na majina na nasaba zetu, labda kwa wajinga wachache wanaoona kubadili jina ni maendeleo. Nashanga!

Kwani kuolewa ni utumwa hata ubadili nasaba yako? Sioni sababu yoyote ya maana ya kubadili jina, mkataa asili ni mtumwa.

...Kuna baadhi ya Waislamu ambao Wake huchukua majina ya mwisho ya Waume zao, pamoja na kuwa hili haliendani na taratibu za Kiislamu.
 
Maandiko yanasema utaachana na wazazi wako na utaambatana na mumeo......

Yaap nitabadilisha who cares??? coz si tumekuwa mwili mmoja na tunashea vitu vitamu ambavyo siwezi share na ndugu yangu au mzazi wangu :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

Mimi nimebadilisha,ka ndoa kangu ka miaka 3 na nlipenda nwenyewe ila tu huwa nasahau, wakat mwingine kama naandika mahali nakutuka nishaandika la zamani.

Tena wala sijutii kabisaaaaaa.
Kama ntakuja kujuta ni baadae huko kama yakitokea YAKUTOKEA aaaaghhh yashindwe na kulegeaaaa hahhah

Sema shida kwenye mambo ya vyeti mimi mana nlibadilisha kabla ya chuo (elimu ya uzeeni) duhhh
 
ha ha ha haaaaa,ina maana BAK mimi na usichana wangu nakutana na wanaume wa miaka 47? manake nimetoa experience yangu....kuwa wanapenda wake zao watumie majina yao....!!! nitake radhi yaishe.....l.o.l
On a serious note: hata vijana tu in their 20's,30's and 40's..majority wangependa wake zao watumie majina yao.

Uniwie radhi Michelle hahahahah lol! nilisahau kama Michelle bado ni msichana 🙂 Ni kweli kabisa hata vijana wanapenda wake zao watumie majina yao lakini kwao wao harusi haitavunjika eti kisa "wife to be" amekataa kubadilisha jina lake la mwisho mara baada ya harusi...lakini kwa wale wa mwaka 47 Mhhhhh! pagumu hapo! ndoa inaweza kabbisa kuvunjika!

Sasa mke mtarajiwa, ndugu, marafiki na jamaa zake watakuwa tayari kuona harusi inavunjika kwa kubadilisha tu jina la mwisho?
 
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