JOHN MADIBA
JF-Expert Member
- Jan 30, 2011
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Hello Jf members, my name is Karen my Brotheris John Madiba. i need u advice in advance.
I am desperately in need of counselling as I have been living a complicated life and I do not know what to do.
I have been in a relationship with a married man for more than eight years now. At first, our love was okay.
He used to help me out with rent and stuff like that, but since I was fresh from college, I did not take the relationship seriously.
I dated many other men but still kept seeing him. After some time, I met another man and we became lovers.
We dated for a while before he left for Afghanistan in search of greener pastures, and now I'm back with the married man.
I came to learn that after we separated, he started dating another girl. When I ask him about that, he admitted that there was a third woman to the equation, but that they are no longer together. But I found out that he is lying. I recently went through his phone and found that he has maintained communication with the other girl.
He is very possessive and I am not allowed to talk to another man when I am with him. I do not really love him, but I always find myself sleeping with him. I feel guilty about this and I have tried to stop it in vain.
He says that he wants me for good and has asked me to have his baby. However, because I know for sure that I do not want a long-term affair with him, I have refused to do this and always use contraceptives.
He has refused to use a condom and recently suggested that we go for tests to find out why I am not getting pregnant despite all his "effort".
What should I do to escape the tight grip of this married man?
Tafadhali dada yangu anahitaji ushauri wako Please my Sister need u advice in advance
I am desperately in need of counselling as I have been living a complicated life and I do not know what to do.
I have been in a relationship with a married man for more than eight years now. At first, our love was okay.
He used to help me out with rent and stuff like that, but since I was fresh from college, I did not take the relationship seriously.
I dated many other men but still kept seeing him. After some time, I met another man and we became lovers.
We dated for a while before he left for Afghanistan in search of greener pastures, and now I'm back with the married man.
I came to learn that after we separated, he started dating another girl. When I ask him about that, he admitted that there was a third woman to the equation, but that they are no longer together. But I found out that he is lying. I recently went through his phone and found that he has maintained communication with the other girl.
He is very possessive and I am not allowed to talk to another man when I am with him. I do not really love him, but I always find myself sleeping with him. I feel guilty about this and I have tried to stop it in vain.
He says that he wants me for good and has asked me to have his baby. However, because I know for sure that I do not want a long-term affair with him, I have refused to do this and always use contraceptives.
He has refused to use a condom and recently suggested that we go for tests to find out why I am not getting pregnant despite all his "effort".
What should I do to escape the tight grip of this married man?
Tafadhali dada yangu anahitaji ushauri wako Please my Sister need u advice in advance
