Kwa nini kabila la Wakurya bado wana mila za kizamani za kuwachagulia watoto wao wake/waume?

USTAADHI said:

mbona unatapatapa mara msomi, mara elimu kidogo, mara mama mkwe, mara ndugu watano, mara una madhaifu kwani wewe madhaifu yaako ni mboga? au ni dawa? halafu ungeandika kiswahili tu maana naona hii lugha ya kule kwa mashoga nayo ni tatizo kwako! papara pia unazo sana jifunze kuishi na walimwengu sasa tukushauri kwa lipi?

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Ha ha ha ha, thanks sana, naona jinsi ganai usivyokuwa na busara za kumshauri mtu!Kuhusu lugha, ivi wewe unadhani kuongea kiingereza ndo ujanja au kuwa unaelimu sana?Humu JF sio wote wanaojua kiingereza, anyway nsahona unataka mashindano na sio kutoa ushauri. In short we sema unavyoona.

Thanks for all your comments. I have learned a lot and I believe your comments will be of grat help in solving my problems. I did not like Somoche and Jestina's conversations!I did not post this thread for peole to insult one another, rather I neede your advice. Next time, please just give out your advice or comments and not as you did!

I am closing this thread guys.
Many thanks.

WALIMWEUSI said:

Thanks for all your comments. I have learned a lot and I believe your comments will be of grat help in solving my problems. I did not like Somoche and Jestina's conversations!I did not post this thread for peole to insult one another, rather I neede your advice. Next time, please just give out your advice or comments and not as you did!

I am closing this thread guys.
Many thanks.

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Thank you for expressing your intention to close the thread. I hope that you have learned a lot as you have indicated in your post. The way you structured your original thread it was destined to hurt people's feelings and arouse emotions. I wasn't surprised at all when some of the conversations turned confrontational. I am from Kurya tribe and I chose my wife without involving any member of my family. My parents, relatives and in laws got involved when my fiancee and I introduced ourselves to both sides and when they started discussing dowry. They all respected my decisions even though I know that some did not like my choice. However, they knew precisely which lines not to step when it comes to my private life involving my family to be. I suggest that you learn not to generalise some of the issues unless you have enough evidence to back your claims. Lastly, get that hubby of your to step up and take charge of his life, stop fighting a losing battle with your mother in law, and stop calling yourself a fiancee because you are a bonafide wife and in Kurya culture we don't have perpetual fianceeship. Ciao.