Life on the Mars

kulwa MG · 2016-09-07T14:35:32+00:00

Martians value power,competency,efficiency,and achievements.They are doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills.Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results.They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment. Everything on mars is a reflection of these values.Even their dress is designed to reflect their skills and competence.Police officers,soldiers,businessmen,scientists,cab drivers,technicians,and chefs all wear uniforms or at least hats to reflect their competence and power. They are more interested in "objects"and "things"rather than people and feelings.Even today on Earth,while women fantasize about romance,men fantasize about powerful cars,fast computers,gadgets,gizmos and new more powerful technology. Achieving goals is very important to a martians because it is away for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself."And for him to feel good about himself he must achieve these goals by himself". Martians pride themselves in doing things all by themselves.Autonomy is a symbol of efficiency,power and competence. Understanding this martians characteristic can help women understand why men resist so much being corrected or being told what to do."To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own". Men are very touchy about this,because the issue of competence is so very important to them. Because he is handling his problems on his own,a martian rarely talks about his problems unless he needs experts advice.He reasons:"why involve someone else when i can do it by myself?". He keeps his problems to himself unless he requires help from another to find a solution.Asking for help when you can do it yourself is perceived as a sign of weakness.However if he truly does need help,then it is a sign of wisdom to get it.In this case,he will find someone he respects and then talk about his problems.Another martian feels honored by the opportunity.Automatically he puts on his Mr.Fix-it hat,listen for a while and then offers some jewels of advice. This martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when women talk about problems.When a woman innocently shares upset feelings or explores out loud the problems of her day,a man mistakenly assumes she is looking for some expert advice.He puts on his Mr.Fix-it hat and begins giving advice;this is his way of showing love and of trying to help. He wants to help her feel better by solving her problems.Once he offered a solution,however,and she continues to be upset it becomes increasingly difficult for him to listen because his solution is being rejected and he feels increasingly useless.He has no idea that by just listening with empathy and interest he can be supportive.He doesn't know that on Venus talking about problems is not invitation to offer a solution.

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