Kwa kweli ni mda kama five months but in email and phone only.
I understand your problem.But look here lady,the fact that your husband is divorced,and has children with his divorced wife, to me does not seem to be the reason why he is not interested in you sexually.It seems rather that your husband has a sexual relationship with another woman who seems to satisfy him sexually.I advice you to chat with your husband and ask him why he is so cool towards you these days.Talk to him openly and sensibly.But I also advice you to look into your own behavior.Are you well behaved towards your husband? May be there are things you do which he doesn't like.Make a thorough investigation of yourself.
It could he has another woman! well but I have tried to talk to him very politely about it, but his response is he is tired with work that is his answer. The first three months it was so good he used to do it like almost everyday. Then suddenly things changed and he is like doing it once per week, when he does it he does not certify me. When doing sex but this is from the begining he cannot go rounds it is only once. I had also asked him if I have done anything wrong to him he just say nothing. Am real confused.
If a conflict comes, dont run away from it, by igoring it or by keeping quiet conflict can be a very good way of understanding your mate, what matters is not whether or not you have some conflicts, what matters most is how do you solve the conflicts .
Penny, ni vizuri ukifahamu pia kwamba scenario kama hizi hutokea mara kwa mara katika ndoa nyingi tu, watu waanza vizuri dating na uchumba kabambe hata hawajali kufahamiana kwa undani wanadai tunapendana basi inatosha. Baadae nabidi tu wawe real makucha, meno yanatolewa you can not pretend forever right?
Kwa ushauri wangu miezi 8 bado haitoshi kumtosa huyo bwana be free and open to talk to him and ask him whatever you you want to know (kwa heshima na upendo kumbuka, usi nag au kumsaili kama askari polisi) proper time and place for that kind of talk is important kwa mfano usianzishe hizo issues wakati ana njaa au amechoka, tell him what you think he need to know about you, your feelings etc, Pay attention on what he feels about you and your marriage
If a conflict comes, dont run away from it, by igoring it or by keeping quiet conflict can be a very good way of understanding your mate, what matters is not whether or not you have some conflicts, what matters most is how do you solve the conflicts .
Unadhani anajisikia vibaya kwamba ameshindwa kukutosheleza (japo kidogo), au anaonyesha kutojali?
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Pole sana vumilia ongea nae!hata bible inasema msinyimane ilhali mmekubaliana kuwa mke na mme!ila labda kweli anachoka!ila bora utleast unapata once per week!anakupenda bwana usikate tamaa labda kama unapenda iwe kila siku!
Mimi ni mwanamke niliyeolewa na nina mda wa miezi nane sasa katika ndoa. Huyu bwana tuliyeona kwa kweli niliunganishiwa na ndugu yangu ambaye alikuwa rafiki yake hapo zamani. So it means I dont know his behaviours in real. He is also a divorced man with two children but the children leave with there mother.
What I want a help is that i dont know if he really love me or he also just wanted to have a wife and that`s it. Am saying this because he is not romantic to me and he has become less active in sex than the first months just after we got married. When i ask him, he says that he is tired coz of work. Other thing is that he is not open to me about his whereabouts. I love the man but he is not giving me the same love. What should I do, please advice.
Kaa naye chini umwambie mambo yote ambayo huridhiki nayo katika ndoa yenu pamoja na hilo la kutokuwa romantic na pia kutokuwa na muda wa kufanya mapenzi nawe. Kama huridhiki na maelezo yake basi jaribu pia kumuhusisha huyo aliyewaunganisha, vinginevyo usipoteze muda wako katika ndoa ambayo haina mapenzi yoyote. Kama miezi minne wakati ambapo maluvluv yanakuwa bado moto moto ameshaanza kuingia mitini basi si muda mrefu ataanza kulala nje.
Thanks naima, how and what should I do in terms of vitendo, may be I might not be aware of some! Na sasa if i tell my uncle haita leta ugomvi zaidi! The problems comes am overseas and the uncle is in africa.
And may be to have some advice also in these; Before marriage he told me he has a share in a company with his friend when i came in I discovered it was all lies(kamba). He promised so many things but he has never full filled (Going out for dinner, cinema, doing me my birthday etc)any of them. When I ask him he is like "will go". So am just patiently waiting for the day! During any conversation with me anakuwa amenuna kweli but he receive a call from his friends he smiles alot. Therefore I discovered it is like am holding him home while he was like to be somewhere with his friends. May I have some ideas in this too.
Hukuchunguza sana, labda ndio maana mwenzako alieachika alikuwa anapiga misele nje.Mimi ni mwanamke niliyeolewa na nina mda wa miezi nane sasa katika ndoa. Huyu bwana tuliyeona kwa kweli niliunganishiwa na ndugu yangu ambaye alikuwa rafiki yake hapo zamani. So it means I dont know his behaviours in real. He is also a divorced man with two children but the children leave with there mother.
What I want a help is that i dont know if he really love me or he also just wanted to have a wife and that`s it. Am saying this because he is not romantic to me and he has become less active in sex than the first months just after we got married. When i ask him, he says that he is tired coz of work. Other thing is that he is not open to me about his whereabouts. I love the man but he is not giving me the same love. What should I do, please advice.
Hukuchunguza sana, labda ndio maana mwenzako alieachika alikuwa anapiga misele nje.