1 Corinthians 7:17-35
Be totally devoted to the Lord
One of the key issues these days is the anxiety and listlessness which comes from constant comparison and FOMO (fear of missing out).
The answer to FOMO is found in the words with which Paul starts the passage for today: ‘Don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you’ (v.17, MSG). Paul gives the principle from which all his application flows (vv.17–24). A new Christian should stay as they were when they were converted.
He gives three examples: marriage, circumcision and slavery. (Historically, the first Christians were a small minority and in no position to abolish slavery.)
However, this has a wider application. Unless their occupation is illegal or immoral, those who become Christians should not simply leave their job without receiving a clear call into some new occupation. God calls you in to things, not simply out of them.
Paul wants to spare people the ‘many troubles in this life’ (v.28). ‘Don’t complicate your lives unnecessarily’ (v.29, MSG). His overriding concern, as he looks at the questions of marriage and singleness, is ‘undivided devotion to the Lord’ (v.35) – the supreme aim of your life.
Paul writes of the advantages of singleness. Of course, Jesus himself was single and he spoke about the fact that, for some, singleness is involuntary, whereas for others it is a choice for the sake of the kingdom (Matthew 19:12). Involuntary singleness is a difficult and painful subject, but it is not what Jesus was speaking about in Matthew 19, nor is it what Paul is speaking about here. Paul is speaking about singleness for the sake of the kingdom. This can be either permanent or temporary.
The disadvantages of singleness are obvious. Perhaps the three hardest things for single Christians can be, first, missing the companionship of marriage and the loneliness that can result; second, a lack of sexual fulfilment; third, not having children.
However, the apostle Paul here also gives two reasons why it can be an advantage:
The brevity of life
He writes that ‘there is no time to waste’ (1 Corinthians 7:29, MSG), therefore ‘don't complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple – in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things – your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you’ (vv.29–31, MSG).
He is not forbidding marriage any more than he is forbidding laughter, mourning or shopping. Rather he is saying that everything pales into insignificance besides the glory of serving the Lord. We need a detachment from the things of this world. This may be easier if a person is single.
Freedom from distraction
This applies especially in times of persecution, which provides the context for this passage, ‘because of the present crisis’ (v.26).
Paul writes, ‘I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you are unmarried, you are free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master… The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend on becoming whole and holy instruments of God… All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions’ (vv.32–35, MSG).
We have a limited amount of time, energy and money. There is no doubt that there are many demands in marriage. Paul calls for a positive view of singleness – whether permanent or temporary. He is saying it can be fulfilling and liberating – as it was for Jesus.
Elsewhere he writes that marriage itself is only a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church (Ephesians 5). The reality is found in Christ. Both marriage and singleness are gifts. What really matters is ‘undivided devotion to the Lord’ (1 Corinthians 7:35). We often assume that marriage is the best and most obvious way of life to follow. This passage reminds us not to overlook the benefits of singleness. Singleness is equally valid, and can be very fruitful and fulfilling.
Lord, help me to find life and contentment in whatever situation I find myself – leading a life to ‘please the Lord’. ‘May live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord’ (v.35).