Nini kinachowasukuma baadhi ya kinadada/kinamama kukubali kuwa 'nyumba ndogo'?

Nini kinachowasukuma baadhi ya kinadada/kinamama kukubali kuwa 'nyumba ndogo'?

nyumba kubwa said:
Hapo kwenye bold inategemea umeibua mwanaume gani. Ukiibua mume mwenye mke kama mimi your fantasy will rarely last for a month. Ila ukimpata wa wale wenye lower self esteem utaendelea kuji sevia kama ulivyopanga.
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I beg to differ, but do feel free to educate me, exactly what you mean to say......................................... Just so you have some background info, mimi I am very independent and amd strong willed person. Be it , I am the proverbial "nyumba ndogo" or what ujinga ujinga wa kike na wanaume sina na wala siendekezi. I am always upfront about my expactation, what is accepted, tolerable and what isnt kwenye relationship. Further more mimi si mgomvi nor do i have energy nor time to waste kutupiana maneno au kumgombania mwanamume. So before I become anyone's nyumba ndogo,yeye mwanaume, mwenyewe will have, had proven that he has the balls big enough to first and fore most handle the missus. E.g in ensuring Im shielded from miugomvi ya ndoa yake na makelele yake and ya mke mufanyiane huko,huko ma kwenu.
 
Ndio hapo sasa inabidi either huyo mwanaume akupe CV ya mkewe au ufanye homework yako. Am telling you nyumba kubwa nyingine haziingiliwi.
Ukifanya homework yako ukagundua the wife ni wale wa low self esteem you are safe.

Na hapo kwenye bold inabidi ujue kuwa ugomvi hauna mpaka. Na hauko sahihi kusema huko huko makwenu wakati you have made yourself part of it.

Kuwa nyumba ndogo kazi mama inabidi uwe tayari kwa makovu.

Nemo said:
I beg to differ, but do feel free to educate me, exactly what you mean to say......................................... Just so you have some background info, mimi I am very independent and amd strong willed person. Be it , I am the proverbial "nyumba ndogo" or what ujinga ujinga wa kike na wanaume sina na wala siendekezi. I am always upfront about my expactation, what is accepted, tolerable and what isnt kwenye relationship. Further more mimi si mgomvi nor do i have energy nor time to waste kutupiana maneno au kumgombania mwanamume. So before I become anyone's nyumba ndogo,yeye mwanaume, mwenyewe will have, had proven that he has the balls big enough to first and fore most handle the missus. E.g in ensuring Im shielded from miugomvi ya ndoa yake na makele mtafanyiana huko,huko ma kwenu.
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Wanawake wengi ni tamaa zinawaponza mpaka wanajikuta teyari washaingia kwenye mahusiano na mume wa mtu kwani ukiangalia asilimia kubwa huyu mume wa mtu anatumia hela zaidi kwenye nyumba ndogo ili aridhike zaidi
 
nyumba kubwa said:
Ndio hapo sasa inabidi either huyo mwanaume akupe CV ya mkewe au ufanye homework yako. Am telling you nyumba kubwa nyingine haziingiliwi.
Ukifanya homework yako ukagundua the wife ni wale wa low self esteem you are safe.

Na hapo kwenye bold inabidi ujue kuwa ugomvi hauna mpaka. Na hauko sahihi kusema huko huko makwenu wakati you have made yourelf part of it.
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First of all I wouldnt call it kuingiliwa if your husband ndie aliyeifuata hiyo nyumba ndogo mwenyewe. In anycase lets table that, as its not important in what I want to say. Hapo nilipo bold, i think it's where most women , especially the wives go wrong. You can't make someone be with you if they'd rather not nor stop two people, be it someone's husband or not from being together if they so choose. Zaidi ya wewe mke kwenda kupigana au kutukana na matarumbeta really nyumba kubwa what else is there for you to do? Mind you na hata huko kupigwa na kudhalilshwa, If it was me, I would have had no qualms kumlaza huyo missus rumande siku mbili tatu and then that way utie akili kuwa ujinga akamletee huyo huyo mumewe aliyemcheat and not me!

Forgot to add, as far as the last sentence goes,You are forgetting one important thing I didnt cheat on you. Your husband did! Unlike your husband who swore a forever with you I didnt, and therefore owes you no fidelity, no nothing!!!..
 
Hapa naona hatuelewana kwa sababu tuna different world views. Kusema mume amekufata mwenyewe wakati umeshasema you are looking for someone else's husband since you are too old to get married ni kuji contradict. Na ni wengi tu ambao technically wana make their advances to other women's husbands.

Pia jua kuwa kuwa nyumba ndogo haina maana kuwa you will have more power than the BIG house. Nyumba ndogo nyingi tu zinaishi kwa masharti magumu including ku play low ili wasijulikane na the real WIFE.

Nemo said:
First of all I wouldnt call it kuingiliwa if your husband ndie aliyeifuata hiyo nyumba ndogo mwenyewe. In anycase lets table that, as its not important in what I want to say. Hapo nilipo bold, i think it's where most women , especially the wives go wrong. You can't make someone be with you if they'd rather not nor stop two people, be it someone's husband or not from being together if they so choose. Zaidi ya wewe mke kwenda kupigana au kutukana na matarumbeta really nyumba kubwa what else is there for you to do? Mind you na hata huko kupigwa na kudhalilshwa, If it was me, I would have had no qualms kumlaza huyo missus rumande siku mbili tatu and then that way utie akili kuwa ujinga akamletee huyo huyo mumewe aliyemcheat and not me!
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Ni kweli kabisa wengi hawataki commitments, na hii pia inatokana na kuiga toka magharibi. Mtu anafikiri kuwa akiwa mke wa furani atakosa uhuru wa kujiamulia mambo anayotaka ambayo anadhani mwanamume anaweza kumbana akiwa naye. Kundi hili wengi wao ni wale waliosoma walau wakapata degree moja. Kwahiyo kundi hili wanajiingiza kwenye mahusiano kwa lengo la kuwa na mtoto tu na si vinginevyo.Kundi jingine ni wale wakina dada ambao muda wa kuolewa umepita, ama kutokana na kuchagua kwingi au sababu nyingine yoyote, yuko desparate. hivyo hata akipata mume wa mtu kwake yeye ni sawa tu ilimradi na yeye atimize ndoto za kuwa na mume. Kundi jingine ni wale ambao nature imewaengua tu. Tukubali tu kuwa wanawake ni wengi zaidi kuliko wanaume, kwahiyo lazima kutakuwa na wanawake ambao hii imbalanced equestion imewafanya wakose waume. All in all, mambo ya kuiga yanawaathili sana dada zetu. Wanaiga upuuzi ambao hauna maana kiasi kwamba wanafika mahali baadaye wanajikuta wamepitwa na wakati na kujutia. Matokeo yake wanafanya maamuzi ya 'come what may'. Wakati ni ukuta ukishindanao utaumia mwenyewe
 
Nemo said:
First of all I wouldnt call it kuingiliwa if your husband ndie aliyeifuata hiyo nyumba ndogo mwenyewe. In anycase lets table that, as its not important in what I want to say. Hapo nilipo bold, i think it's where most women , especially the wives go wrong. You can't make someone be with you if they'd rather not nor stop two people, be it someone's husband or not from being together if they so choose. Zaidi ya wewe mke kwenda kupigana au kutukana na matarumbeta really nyumba kubwa what else is there for you to do? Mind you na hata huko kupigwa na kudhalilshwa, If it was me, I would have had no qualms kumlaza huyo missus rumande siku mbili tatu and then that way utie akili kuwa ujinga akamletee huyo huyo mumewe aliyemcheat and not me!

Forgot to add, as far as the last sentence goes,You are forgetting one important thing I didnt cheat on you. Your husband did! Unlike your husband who swore a forever with you I didnt, and therefore owes you no fidelity, no nothing!!!..
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Tena nyumba kubwa (simaanishi huyu wa jamvini bali yeyote yule) you better deal with ur husband na sio nyumba ndogo, kwa sababu utapiga wangapi na utakomesha wangapi?? Na mara ngapi na kwa muda gani utafanya hivyo?
 
Fighting does not always mean physical. Kuna njia nyingi za kupambana. Though najua kuna wanaojua kuzikunja na wanafanya hivyo. Likishakuja swala la cheating hakuna ustaarabu. Na vita haichagui silaa. bhita ni bhita.

Kipipi said:
Tena nyumba kubwa (simaanishi huyu wa jamvini bali yeyote yule) you better deal with ur husband na sio nyumba ndogo, kwa sababu utapiga wangapi na utakomesha wangapi?? Na mara ngapi na kwa muda gani utafanya hivyo?
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nyumba kubwa said:
Hapa naona hatuelewana kwa sababu tuna different world views. Kusema mume amekufata mwenyewe wakati umeshasema you are looking for someone else's husband since you are too old to get married ni kuji contradict. Na ni wengi tu ambao technically wana make their advances to other women's husbands.

Pia jua kuwa kuwa nyumba ndogo haina maana kuwa you will have more power than the BIG house. Nyumba ndogo nyingi tu zinaishi kwa masharti magumu including ku play low ili wasijulikane na the real WIFE.
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Nyumba Kubwa
There is no where, I have said anything of the sort,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,when you get a chance, please do take a few minutes to review my comments !

Side Note
  • Be advised that, I do not condone, nyumba ndogo but feel no symphathy and have zero respect for wives who fail to take into task their cheating husbands, and instead wanaenda kugombana na hizo nyumba ndogo!
  • All the arguing, at least from my part was to try and make you a wife, and hopefully other wives in here see that the problem is not the other woman, as much as the man involved in the triangle!He is the who OWES you FIDELITY
  • Even if its the case where the woman made an advance, shouldnt the man , knowing that he is married refuse? My dear it is this type of inferiror thinking and silly excuses, that you wives allow that encourages and perpetuate hizi nyumba ndogo.
 
nyumba kubwa said:
Fighting does not always mean physical. Kuna njia nyingi za kupambana. Though najua kuna wanaojua kuzikunja na wanafanya hivyo. Likishakuja swala la cheating hakuna ustaarabu. Na vita haichagui silaa. bita ni bita.
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Even if! Sasa utakuwa unafanya nini endapo mumeo unamuacha then unadeal na nyumba ndogo? May be!
 
Nemo said:
Nyumba Kubwa
There is no where, I have said anything of the sort,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,when you get a chance, please do take a few minutes to review my comments !

Side Note
  • Be advised that, I do not condone, nyumba ndogo but feel no symphathy and have zero respect for wives who fail to take into task their cheating husbands, and instead wanaenda kugombana na hizo nyumba ndogo!
  • All the arguing, at least from my part was to try and make you a wife, and hopefully other wives in here see that the problem is not the other woman, as much as the man involved in the triangle!He is the who OWES you FIDELITY
  • Even if its the case where the woman made an advance, shouldnt the man , knowing that he is married refuse? My dear it is this type of inferiror thinking and silly excuses, that you wives allow that encourages and perpetuate hizi nyumba ndogo.
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i knew u r a lawyer i can smell that from ur arguments...
 
I can see that you have eddited some of your comments. It is the wording of your comments that made me misjudge you. Sorry for that.
Nemo said:
Nyumba Kubwa
There is no where, I have said anything of the sort,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,when you get a chance, please do take a few minutes to review my comments !

Side Note
  • Be advised that, I do not condone, nyumba ndogo but feel no symphathy and have zero respect for wives who fail to take into task their cheating husbands, and instead wanaenda kugombana na hizo nyumba ndogo!
  • All the arguing, at least from my part was to try and make you a wife, and hopefully other wives in here see that the problem is not the other woman, as much as the man involved in the triangle!He is the who OWES you FIDELITY
  • Even if its the case where the woman made an advance, shouldnt the man , knowing that he is married refuse? My dear it is this type of inferiror thinking and silly excuses, that you wives allow that encourages and perpetuate hizi nyumba ndogo.
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nyumba kubwa said:
I can see that you have eddited some of your comments. It is the wording of your comments that made me misjudge you. Sorry for that.
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No problem, my dear i am not offended. Ila kuhusu the edits you see, thats me correcting some spelling errors na sio the core meaning of what i wanted to say. All in all , my beef is with cheating men , what they are doing and/or can do to us women. Tunapigana, tunadhalilishana, you cant imagine wengine wanatumia hata other men to rape other women, and all this for what? To me, its best mtu aki deal with the true cause i.e MEN, that way you'll be nipping the problem at the bud, otherwise kama Mr. ni "Chupi mkononi" utagombana na wanawake wangapi?.
 
Alafu kuna wanaume wengine ni waongo sana, wanadanganya hawajaoa kumbe wana wake na watoto juu! E.g hawa wanaosoma/kusafiri sehemu za mbali na wake zao wanayafanya sana haya mambo, sasa na hapa sijui tutawalaumu nyumba ndogo? Tena wengine wanajihalalishia makazi nakuongezea watoto kabisaa! Kazi ipo!
 
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