Dreamliner
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Tabia ya kupekua SIMU ya mkewe hayo ndio madhara yake... Mwambie aache hiyo tabia, Kama mke wake anaMEGWA nje, atajua tu.. Asiwe na PAPARA mwishowe atakosa ushahidi.
Rafiki yangu anaibiwa penzi
Rafiki yangu anaibiwa penzi
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funzadume
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achana na simu ya mke wako wewe unless umestukia kuwa anamegwa kwa vigezo vingine ila sio message counter, mfano mimi uwa nacheza yale ma-bahati nasibu ya tigo na voda na kwa siku wananitumia sms kama 10 kila kampuni na zikiingia tu nazifuta na pia kuna msg za ucheshi kutka kwa rafiki zangu mfano kuna hii imeingia sasa hivi inasema "kama wachezaji mpira baada ya mechi wanabadilishana jezi kuonyesha fair play kwa nn na sisi wazinzi tusiwe tunabadilishana chupi tukimaliza kungonoka na mademu kuonyesha fair play?" sasa msg kama hiyo ikiingia mie nacheka halafu naifuta
na sina nyumba ndogo kwa sasa karibia miezi 6 imepita so kama wife akihesabu msg counter anajitafutia presha ya bure
na sina nyumba ndogo kwa sasa karibia miezi 6 imepita so kama wife akihesabu msg counter anajitafutia presha ya bure
ukimchunguza sana bata huwezi kumla ndugu yangu, mshauri aachane na masuala ya kumfuatilia
mke wake, maana akiendelea mwisho atavunja tu ndoa yake, na hata akioa mwingine bado haitamsaidia
hata kidogo, amshauri tu mkewe kufanya mapenzi salama...
Na sisi wanaume tuache hii tabia ya ubinafsi, mfumo wa ujamaa ni mzuri sana katika jambo, tuwafanye
wanawake wawe wa kuchangia tu, tuache ubinafsi...
mke wake, maana akiendelea mwisho atavunja tu ndoa yake, na hata akioa mwingine bado haitamsaidia
hata kidogo, amshauri tu mkewe kufanya mapenzi salama...
Na sisi wanaume tuache hii tabia ya ubinafsi, mfumo wa ujamaa ni mzuri sana katika jambo, tuwafanye
wanawake wawe wa kuchangia tu, tuache ubinafsi...
Mtoboasiri
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Hii imekaa vibaya. Maana akijua/akihakikisha ni shida na asipokuwa na uhakika nayo shida.
Wahenga walisema ukimchunguza sana kuku humli.
Wahenga walisema ukimchunguza sana kuku humli.
The Finest
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YOU ARE DAMN RIGHT:tea:
The Finest
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Iko siku atajua ukweli tu asiwe na haraka haraka he should take it easy ajifunze kuwa SPY au DETECTIVE
msikonge
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Ni bora ajue, maana ni akijua ni hatua nzuri ya kutatua tatizo, unajua tuko kipindi kibaya cha VVU, sasa kuanza kunya ARV kwa maisha yako yote pamoja na madhara yatokanayo is really a huge challenge! But as I said, he need to be causious and patient at the same time! It is a life & death situation!
kimatire
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What are the Warning Signs of a Cheating Husband or Wife?
The warning signs of a cheating spouse depend on several different factors. In particular, the quality of your relationship as well as the nature of the suspected affair.
1 - When they no longer want sex or makes excuses to not have sex.
2 - When they will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room. They may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes. Or they stay up to "work" or "play a game" on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
3 - When they begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.
4 - When they suddenly have to work late and have all kinds of new obligations that take them away from home repeatedly or for long periods of time. Or. . . they tell you they are working longer hours and discontinue allowing you to view their paycheck or pay stubs.
5 - If your loved one works with people, such as at a bar or restaurant especially as a waitress or bartender they might suddenly tell you not to visit them at work. This usually means they are hiding something at their workplace whether it be with a co-worker or a regular customer such as at a bar.
6 - When they suddenly need a cell phone or pager and you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it. They also may make certain their cell phone or pager cannot be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them wherever they go. They are secretive about their cell phone or pager bill and pay it themselves when you have always paid the bill in the past.
7 - When they arrive home smelling faintly of perfume/cologne or another person's body.
8 - When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath.
9 - When they have lipstick or strange hairs on their clothing or in the car. Finding strange phone numbers, receipts or condoms can also be clues.
10 - When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.
11 - When they begin to make "kinky" requests or suggest wildly erotic play during sex including things you have never done before. They may also show an increased interest in sex or sexual things, including porn.
12 - When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. They may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
13 - Her: When she gets spiffed up and dresses provocative to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair done." She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant, etc.) and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his buddies" or to "go fishing."
14 - When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason.
15 - When they become suddenly forgetful and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.
16 - When they are always tired or demonstrate a noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
17 - When they begin to intentionally look at or flirt with the opposite sex when in the past, this is something they would not have done.
18 - When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection.
19 - When they ignore or criticize your affections and thoughtful ways. Example : "Why are you so luvy duvy? I'm just not like that."
20 - When your phone bill shows an increase in unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often when a partner is acting too close or flirting with a best friend of the opposite sex, you will find their phone number listed excessively.
21 - When the passenger seat in the car has been changed and is not in the usual position or the mileage on the car is more than usual. Also increased gas purchases that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
22 - When they begin to keep a change of clothes hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of clothes changes at the gym.
23 - When you notice credit card charges for gifts (such as florist or jewelry) that you didn't receive.
24 - When they begin to make sudden and excessive purchases of clothes or an unexplained change in clothing style. Beginning to purchase sexy underwear or lingerie may be a clue.
25 - When you notice an increase in ATM withdrawals. Cheating costs money! To play you must pay!
26 - When you notice that your partner loses their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need or a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house, e.g., lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the child/children badly.
27 - When you notice an increased attention to losing weight or paying more attention to their appearance.
28 - When they begin to volunteer to go to the post office, rushes to check the mail before you do or opens up a new P.O. box perhaps without even telling you.
29 - When your partner shows up without their wedding ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as to why. This also goes for jewelry you might have purchased for them and you catch them not wearing it when they go out when usually they wear it at all times.
30 - When they get mysterious phone calls or when they hurry to answer the phone, leave the room to talk on the phone and when you ask who called, they say, "No one", "Wrong number", or "Why do you care?"
31 - Simple trips, such as to the grocery store or bank, take hours rather than the time it should take.
32 - Your loved one suddenly deletes all emails from the computer where as they used to accumulate. Same goes for calls on the cell phone or caller ID.
33 - Your loved one seems to pick fights or finds reasons to fight only to stomp out of the house and away from you.
34 - You find a diaphragm, condom, birth control, etc., however, you have had either a vasectomy or she has had a tubal ligation.
The warning signs of a cheating spouse depend on several different factors. In particular, the quality of your relationship as well as the nature of the suspected affair.
1 - When they no longer want sex or makes excuses to not have sex.
2 - When they will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room. They may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes. Or they stay up to "work" or "play a game" on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
3 - When they begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.
4 - When they suddenly have to work late and have all kinds of new obligations that take them away from home repeatedly or for long periods of time. Or. . . they tell you they are working longer hours and discontinue allowing you to view their paycheck or pay stubs.
5 - If your loved one works with people, such as at a bar or restaurant especially as a waitress or bartender they might suddenly tell you not to visit them at work. This usually means they are hiding something at their workplace whether it be with a co-worker or a regular customer such as at a bar.
6 - When they suddenly need a cell phone or pager and you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it. They also may make certain their cell phone or pager cannot be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them wherever they go. They are secretive about their cell phone or pager bill and pay it themselves when you have always paid the bill in the past.
7 - When they arrive home smelling faintly of perfume/cologne or another person's body.
8 - When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath.
9 - When they have lipstick or strange hairs on their clothing or in the car. Finding strange phone numbers, receipts or condoms can also be clues.
10 - When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.
11 - When they begin to make "kinky" requests or suggest wildly erotic play during sex including things you have never done before. They may also show an increased interest in sex or sexual things, including porn.
12 - When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. They may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
13 - Her: When she gets spiffed up and dresses provocative to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair done." She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant, etc.) and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his buddies" or to "go fishing."
14 - When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason.
15 - When they become suddenly forgetful and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.
16 - When they are always tired or demonstrate a noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
17 - When they begin to intentionally look at or flirt with the opposite sex when in the past, this is something they would not have done.
18 - When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection.
19 - When they ignore or criticize your affections and thoughtful ways. Example : "Why are you so luvy duvy? I'm just not like that."
20 - When your phone bill shows an increase in unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often when a partner is acting too close or flirting with a best friend of the opposite sex, you will find their phone number listed excessively.
21 - When the passenger seat in the car has been changed and is not in the usual position or the mileage on the car is more than usual. Also increased gas purchases that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
22 - When they begin to keep a change of clothes hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of clothes changes at the gym.
23 - When you notice credit card charges for gifts (such as florist or jewelry) that you didn't receive.
24 - When they begin to make sudden and excessive purchases of clothes or an unexplained change in clothing style. Beginning to purchase sexy underwear or lingerie may be a clue.
25 - When you notice an increase in ATM withdrawals. Cheating costs money! To play you must pay!
26 - When you notice that your partner loses their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need or a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house, e.g., lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the child/children badly.
27 - When you notice an increased attention to losing weight or paying more attention to their appearance.
28 - When they begin to volunteer to go to the post office, rushes to check the mail before you do or opens up a new P.O. box perhaps without even telling you.
29 - When your partner shows up without their wedding ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as to why. This also goes for jewelry you might have purchased for them and you catch them not wearing it when they go out when usually they wear it at all times.
30 - When they get mysterious phone calls or when they hurry to answer the phone, leave the room to talk on the phone and when you ask who called, they say, "No one", "Wrong number", or "Why do you care?"
31 - Simple trips, such as to the grocery store or bank, take hours rather than the time it should take.
32 - Your loved one suddenly deletes all emails from the computer where as they used to accumulate. Same goes for calls on the cell phone or caller ID.
33 - Your loved one seems to pick fights or finds reasons to fight only to stomp out of the house and away from you.
34 - You find a diaphragm, condom, birth control, etc., however, you have had either a vasectomy or she has had a tubal ligation.
Mtazamaji
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- Feb 29, 2008
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Kabla sijakwambia namna ya kufanya hicho mnachotaka kukifanya.
Muulize kwanza anampenda kweli mkewe? Kama anampenda basi basi aendelee kuhisi tu sio kutafuta ushahidi labda ushahidi ujilete wenyewe.
Kama hampendi tena anatafuta sababu ya kuvunja ndoa. Lete jibu nikufundishe njia ya kukamata hizo sms.
Muulize kwanza anampenda kweli mkewe? Kama anampenda basi basi aendelee kuhisi tu sio kutafuta ushahidi labda ushahidi ujilete wenyewe.
Kama hampendi tena anatafuta sababu ya kuvunja ndoa. Lete jibu nikufundishe njia ya kukamata hizo sms.
Mtoboasiri
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to sum up: Practically anything new that s/he has never done before???
Qulfayaqul
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Usijalibu hata kidogokumchunguza mkeo, kaka utakufa na presha kama sio muaminifu utajua haina sababu kufuatilia katika msg ni hatari sana utamuacha mke huku bado unampenda, halafu wenzio wanaendelea kum-mega, kumbuka ukimchunguza sana ndipo anapopata na kutafuta mbinu zaidi za kuficha ukweli.
St. Paka Mweusi
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Wivu ukizidi nyumbani mapenziiiiiiiiiii yapungua wivu usio na maana waleta hasara . Halafu haka kawimbo kanaishiaje jamani hebu mshaurini jamaa akasikilize labda katamsaidia
Nyani Ngabu
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Ahahahahaaaa ndio maana wengine tushaamua hakuna cha kuoa wala nini kwa sababu kama hizi. Kama mke hana cha kuficha kwa nini awe anafuta hizo jumbe kila mara?
Binadamu kwa asili tuko wadanganyifu. Tulichotofautiana ni viwango tu. Kwa hiyo mimi nakataa kabisa kukubali kuwa katika ndoa wote mtakuwa waaminifu milele hadi hapo mtakapotenganishwa na kifo. Ni vigumu sana. Kuna mahali mtu utatoka tu nje ya ndoa.
Kibaya zaidi (au kizuri kutegemeana na mtizamo wako) ni kwamba mambo ya kumegana mara nyingi hufanyika kwa siri. Ni wachache sana wenye ujasiri wa kuwaambia wenza wao kuhusu utokaji wao nje ya ndoa. Hivyo basi mtu unaweza kuwa na imani ya kwamba mwenzio kweli ni mwaminifu kwako wakati ukweli wa mambo ni kwamba hujui tu afanyayo au aliyokwishayafanya.
Kwa hiyo ili kuepukana kabisa na hiyo adha ya mwenzako kumega au kumegwa nje ya ndoa au uhusiano wenu, dawa yake ni moja tu nayo ni kutokuwa na mwenza. Yaani unamega au kumegwa lakini si kwamba unakuwa na uhusiano na huyo mtu/ watu. Namna hii unakuwa huru kujinvinjari na yeyote yule utakaye bila hofu yoyote ile.
Najua baadhi yenu mtauona msimamo wangu huu kuwa ni mkali sana na uko nje kidogo ya mazoea na utaratibu wa wengi lakini kwa kweli ndiyo njia pekee na ya uhakika ya kutokuumizwa moyo na mwenza wako kwa sababu huyo mwenza wa kukuumiza moyo huna!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ila nakiri kuwa si watu wote wawezao kuwa na msimamo kama wangu na kuusimamia kidete bila kutetereka kama nilivyo mimi wenu mtiifu. Inahitaji mtu wa kizazi cha kipekee na cha aina yake na tupo wachache sana dunia hii.
My motto: Mega kama vile hakuna kesho :becky:
Binadamu kwa asili tuko wadanganyifu. Tulichotofautiana ni viwango tu. Kwa hiyo mimi nakataa kabisa kukubali kuwa katika ndoa wote mtakuwa waaminifu milele hadi hapo mtakapotenganishwa na kifo. Ni vigumu sana. Kuna mahali mtu utatoka tu nje ya ndoa.
Kibaya zaidi (au kizuri kutegemeana na mtizamo wako) ni kwamba mambo ya kumegana mara nyingi hufanyika kwa siri. Ni wachache sana wenye ujasiri wa kuwaambia wenza wao kuhusu utokaji wao nje ya ndoa. Hivyo basi mtu unaweza kuwa na imani ya kwamba mwenzio kweli ni mwaminifu kwako wakati ukweli wa mambo ni kwamba hujui tu afanyayo au aliyokwishayafanya.
Kwa hiyo ili kuepukana kabisa na hiyo adha ya mwenzako kumega au kumegwa nje ya ndoa au uhusiano wenu, dawa yake ni moja tu nayo ni kutokuwa na mwenza. Yaani unamega au kumegwa lakini si kwamba unakuwa na uhusiano na huyo mtu/ watu. Namna hii unakuwa huru kujinvinjari na yeyote yule utakaye bila hofu yoyote ile.
Najua baadhi yenu mtauona msimamo wangu huu kuwa ni mkali sana na uko nje kidogo ya mazoea na utaratibu wa wengi lakini kwa kweli ndiyo njia pekee na ya uhakika ya kutokuumizwa moyo na mwenza wako kwa sababu huyo mwenza wa kukuumiza moyo huna!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ila nakiri kuwa si watu wote wawezao kuwa na msimamo kama wangu na kuusimamia kidete bila kutetereka kama nilivyo mimi wenu mtiifu. Inahitaji mtu wa kizazi cha kipekee na cha aina yake na tupo wachache sana dunia hii.
My motto: Mega kama vile hakuna kesho :becky:
TIMING
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- Apr 12, 2008
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ukimchunguza bata hutamla....
Iweje uanze kuingia kwenye message counter, nk?? kama ana guts kiasi hicho kwanini basi asimalizie kabisa kumuuliza?? some of these things zinatushusha wenyewe, hata kama anaibiwa, there is another way to search na cha kwanza ni kuwa karibu na mwenza, lazma utajua but if you grow apart you will never know
akishajua he needs to take time kupanga namna ya kukomesha au kuacha yiho njuruu... lakini kumtuma mtu akuhangaikie its a cowardice approach and that shows he is not a real man!!
Kaizer
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