Wanawake....let's be kind to men!!

[Dr Lizzy]

kuna demu anaitwa Lizzy aliwahi kunipiga cold shoulder kila siku namuombea agongwe na bus au fuso la mchanga.

🤣🤣🤣 poleee. Ila dua la kuku halimpati mwewe si unajua??

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Najua Nina deni hebu Ngoja nitulie nililipe. Just calm down

I'm waiting M'Jr ....usiniangushe 😏😏

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Ila unapoandika uwe unafanya audience analysis hicho kiswakinge wengine humu kinawatesa na wanateseka kwelikweli

Kuandika kiswahili fasaha nayo kazi ujue??? Ntajitahidi lakini.

 

[LadyRed]

Hivi inakuwaje hadi unakuwa bwege kwa mwanamke?

Ana makosa yake pia na anajua alichomfanyia huyo dada

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Am going through this right now. Halafu ni mwanamke ambae tumepanga kuoana. Mpaka nafikiria ku cancel tu nianze na moja. Upo so right dada yangu

Pole sana rafiki.

Jitahidi kuongea nae maana mara nyingi kinachofelisha mahusiano mengi ni black of communication kwasababu bila hivyo misunderstanding linakuwa nyingi. So...just talk to her. Jaribu kumuelewa yeye huku ukiendelea kumuelewesha upande wako.

 

[LadyRed]

Thanks lizbert but never ever judge by listening the one side. Mwanaume anampenda mmewe that is true but ni nini chanzo cha mwanamke kua hivyo? Alimuoa akiwa hivyo hivyo? Amedate Naye akiwa hivyo hivyo? Kitu ambacho hakiibgii akilini. Ninachojua tu kuna some point mwanamke ukimkosea kila Siku kwa kuchukulia advantage kua huwa anakusamehe matunda yake ni haya unabadilisha tabia yake mazima. Na ndo mana hawezi muacha mkewe ni km analipia madhambi yake.

Happy new year too mrembo, nimemisi hadithi yako sijui iliendelea?

Thank you
Am 200% sure mwanamke akisimulia utanyoosha mikono juu..mwanamke huyo didnt change frm nowhere kuna sababu

Kuna kitu jamaa kafanya na on top bado anasaliti ndoa yake
How can u be loving to a man like that?.,

 

[LadyRed]

Yes, anamfumo Dume, mimi sijawahi kumuomba samahani na sitakuja kumuomba samahani, maana mimi ndo nimeoa yeye anataka tushindane yaani yeye anataka kuwa juu mimi niwe chini kitu ambacho hakiwezekani na wala sitaruhusu kitokee

Imefikia kipindi mimeamua kuacha kutumia busara sasa ni makofi tu

Samahani ni neno dogo sana ila lina nguvu ya kufuta maudhi mazito mno rohoni

Wewe ni binadamu ipo siku unakosea
Ukikosea tumia samahani
Haijalishi ni mwanamke au mwanaume
Ndoa zisizo na hili neno samahani ni jehanamu

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Thank you
Am 200% sure mwanamke akisimulia utanyoosha mikono juu..mwanamke huyo didnt change frm nowhere kuna sababu

Kuna kitu jamaa kafanya na on top bado anasaliti ndoa yake
How can u be loving to a man like that?.,

Agreed....BUT...being a woman myself najua kwamba wakati mwingine Sisi wanawake huwa na tendency ya ku-overreact. Mtu anaweza kukosewa kidogo akakuza weeee.....gubu likatawala mpaka mwanaume anapachukia kwake. Na hapo ndo mwanzo wa kutafuta pakukimbilia.

 

[EJM_]

I'm waiting M'Jr ....usiniangushe [emoji57][emoji57]

So it’s a long story but will try to make it short and utanisamehe kama nitakuwa naiweka kwa awamu.

That day nilikwambia I will give you the feedback we met and talk in details. The aim was to put some basic principles if we had to go on or close the chapter if we thought it had come to the end. Unfortunately, we left there each of us promising to improve because kwenye mazungumzo yetu we talked about closing the book but it seems like we both needed to read more.

Now to understand our situation I have to start from the beginning and sometimes will have to talk about our previous lives because our old lives play a major role in the decisions that we found ourselves doing in our relationship.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

So it’s a long story but will try to make it short and utanisamehe kama nitakuwa naiweka kwa awamu.

That day nilikwambia I will give you the feedback we met and talk in details. The aim was to put some basic principles if we had to go on or close the chapter if we thought it had come to the end. Unfortunately, we left there each of us promising to improve because kwenye mazungumzo yetu we talked about closing the book but it seems like we both needed to read more.

Now to understand our situation I have to start from the beginning and sometimes will have to talk about our previous lives because our old lives play a major role in the decisions that we found ourselves doing in our relationship.

Go on....go on 🙂🙂

 

[EJM_]

Go on....go on [emoji846][emoji846]

We met in a very ridiculous situation in a far Region with a situation that didn’t look like it could lead to a relationship. By then I was working outside Dar and she lived in Dar. She came there for an event and along the way she ended up in my house coZ the power went off and she had to submit a report and that day was a deadline. So in the middle of her frustration, a person who was with her knew me so he asked if she could use my laptop, I gave them the keys to my house and that lead to communication and pap (baby, darling, honey) came, by then I had also moved to Dar.
Now when I met her I had a girlfriend, she was married but they were separated by then divorce process on going (So by then I didn’t feel like I was going out with a married woman due to that situation)
This went on until we started going to each other’s homes and started introducing each other to friends and family before we know it we started living together.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

We met in a very ridiculous situation in a far Region with a situation that didn’t look like it could lead to a relationship. By then I was working outside Dar and she lived in Dar. She came there for an event and along the way she ended up in my house coZ the power went off and she had to submit a report and that day was a deadline. So in the middle of her frustration, a person who was with her knew me so he asked if she could use my laptop, I gave them the keys to my house and that lead to communication and pap (baby, darling, honey) came, by then I had also moved to Dar.
Now when I met her I had a girlfriend, she was married but they were separated by then divorce process on going (So by then I didn’t feel like I was going out with a married woman due to that situation)
This went on until we started going to each other’s homes and started introducing each other to friends and family before we know it we started living together.

Enhe.......😏😏😏

 

[Malaika wa Kifo]

Samahani ni neno dogo sana ila lina nguvu ya kufuta maudhi mazito mno rohoni

Wewe ni binadamu ipo siku unakosea
Ukikosea tumia samahani
Haijalishi ni mwanamke au mwanaume
Ndoa zisizo na hili neno samahani ni jehanamu

Nafahamu hilo,
Ila huyu naweza sema ni mkorofi, maana anaeeza kutafuta sababu yoyote ile ili kunikwaza tu

Pia anajaribu kunitawala yaani anataka mimi niwe chini yake ( naweza kusema anataka mimi niwe mwanamke na yeye awe mwanaume )

Mfano hii leo na mvua hii inayonyesha imetokea dharula anataka mi nikamchukulie kitu sokoni ( katoka kujifungua ) mi nikamwambia na mvua siwezi kutoka kwa nini asingenunua au asingeniagiza tangu jana nirudi nacho mpaka aniagize leo asubuhi muda anaotaka kutumia?

Akajifanya kukasirika kufika saa 17:23 mvua ikapoa nikataka kwenda kumchukulia anadai basi kaghairi, kufika saa 20:00 anamwambia mzee kuna kitu anahitaji mimi nikamnunulie, mzee kuja kuniambia mimi nikapiga kimya

HUYU ANATABIA NYINGINE AMBAYO HII NDO ITAKUWA SABABU KUU YA KUMTALIKI
NI KWAMBA ANAWEZA KUNIKOROFISHA MAKUSUDI MWISHO WA SIKU MIMI NDO NAONEKANA MBAYA MAANA HUWA ANATABIA YA KUWAAMBIA NDUGU ZAKE NA HUYU RAFIKI YAKE AMBAYE NI MKE WA MPANGAJI MWENZANGU NA MAMA MWENYE NYUMBA

NA WAO BILA KUCHUKUA MAELEZO YA PANDE ZOTE MBILI WAISHIA KUNIONA MIMI MBAYA

Wacha niishie hapa maana mambo yapo mengi sana na hapa nilipo tayari nimeshaita wanafamilia kwa ajili ya kikao kesho naamini kesho ndo nitatoa maamuzi rasmi maana huyu mtoto wa pili hataki mimi nitoe jina anataka ampe yeye jina la mama yake wakati mtoto wa kwanza aliniambia nisitoe jina la kulithi kutoka kwa babu wala bibi ila yeye anataka kumpa

Kupika chakula kagoma badala yake kaenda kununua chips kala na mtoto mi kula kwa mama ntilie

Hayo yote niliyosema yametokea leo bado sijasema ya siku za nyuma yaliyopelekea niwe nampiga makofi

Nasubiri amalize arobaini mimrudishe kwao maana kikao cha kesho wanafamilia nitawajulisha hili tu basi

AISEEE...! NAONA BASI INATOSHA NDOA IMEKUWA NDOANA

 

[Prisoner of hope]

Nafahamu hilo,
Ila huyu naweza sema ni mkorofi, maana anaeeza kutafuta sababu yoyote ile ili kunikwaza tu

Pia anajaribu kunitawala yaani anataka mimi niwe chini yake ( naweza kusema anataka mimi niwe mwanamke na yeye awe mwanaume )

Mfano hii leo na mvua hii inayonyesha imetokea dharula anataka mi nikamchukulie kitu sokoni ( katoka kujifungua ) mi nikamwambia na mvua siwezi kutoka kwa nini asingenunua au asingeniagiza tangu jana nirudi nacho mpaka aniagize leo asubuhi muda anaotaka kutumia?

Akajifanya kukasirika kufika saa 17:23 mvua ikapoa nikataka kwenda kumchukulia anadai basi kaghairi, kufika saa 20:00 anamwambia mzee kuna kitu anahitaji mimi nikamnunulie, mzee kuja kuniambia mimi nikapiga kimya

HUYU ANATABIA NYINGINE AMBAYO HII NDO ITAKUWA SABABU KUU YA KUMTALIKI
NI KWAMBA ANAWEZA KUNIKOROFISHA MAKUSUDI MWISHO WA SIKU MIMI NDO NAONEKANA MBAYA MAANA HUWA ANATABIA YA KUWAAMBIA NDUGU ZAKE NA HUYU RAFIKI YAKE AMBAYE NI MKE WA MPANGAJI MWENZANGU NA MAMA MWENYE NYUMBA

NA WAO BILA KUCHUKUA MAELEZO YA PANDE ZOTE MBILI WAISHIA KUNIONA MIMI MBAYA

Wacha niishie hapa maana mambo yapo mengi sana na hapa nilipo tayari nimeshaita wanafamilia kwa ajili ya kikao kesho naamini kesho ndo nitatoa maamuzi rasmi maana huyu mtoto wa pili hataki mimi nitoe jina anataka ampe yeye jina la mama yake wakati mtoto wa kwanza aliniambia nisitoe jina la kulithi kutoka kwa babu wala bibi ila yeye anataka kumpa

Kupika chakula kagoma badala yake kaenda kununua chips kala na mtoto mi kula kwa mama ntilie

Hayo yote niliyosema yametokea leo bado sijasema ya siku za nyuma yaliyopelekea niwe nampiga makofi

Nasubiri amalize arobaini mimrudishe kwao maana kikao cha kesho wanafamilia nitawajulisha hili tu basi

AISEEE...! NAONA BASI INATOSHA NDOA IMEKUWA NDOANA

Aiseeh pole sana Chief....

 

[Prisoner of hope]

Nimependa the way ulivyo flow...honestly maneno hayo tungeongea sisi wanaume wenyewe, pengine tusingeeleweka kiurahisi....may be yangeonekana as mechanism defense!!!!

Ni kweli kabisa, sisi wanaume ili tuwe vizuri mentally....huwa ina depends na haiba ya mwanamke, aliyopo pembeni yetu. Tena maskini ya Mungu, ukitukuta sisi wengine ambao tupo too innocent....huwa hatupendagi kabisa kuwa na side chick, wala any blah blah hasa linapokuja suala la mahusiano. Ila unfortunately hatuwapatagi wanawake sahihi kwetu, wenye kufahamu UZURI WETU.....muda mwingi huwa tunaishia kudondekea mikononi mwa manyang'au tu!!! Very sad....

Anyway ngoja niishie hapa, thank you Lizzy kwa kutusaidia kuongea.....God blesss you.

Hi guys [emoji112][emoji112]

"Wanawake tunatumia muda mwingi kutafuta makosefu ya wanaume badala ya kuangalia nakua-acknowledge ya kwetu."

Ni muda mrefu sana sijaandika kitu humu ila leo nimeona nishee jambo na nyie kabla mwaka haujaisha kwasababu somo lenyewe nimelipata mwaka huu.

Naturally, I'm very judgmental na sikuwahi kuona sababu ya mtu kucheat kwenye mahusiano yake no matter what. Nilikuwa nafika mahali namchukia kabisa mtu ambae anahangaika wakati ana mwanamke/mwanaume wake hata kama hanihusu. Yani I took it personal kabisa.

Sasa what happened is, kuna mkaka I really liked from the first day I met him (not romantically though [emoji846][emoji846]). He is really an awesome person. Kwa position aliyonayo angeweza kuwa mtu mwenye mbwembwe na majigambo sana but he is not like that at all. Anyway, he is successful, married with kids but far from Happy. [emoji52] Nilivyogundua kwamba he had a side chick (alafu hata hamfichi, yani mtu yoyote anaweza kufikisha taarifa kwa mke wake)...I was pissed & heartbroken kwakweli. Nilijiuliza maswali mia moja elfu kidogo and I felt sorry for his wife.

Nikaona isiwe tabu, now that we are friends au tuseme tumeanza kuzoeana sana, ngoja nitafute siku nimchane tu live.
Mungu sio Lizzy siku ikafika nikasema leo ndio leo. Ile najiandaa psychologically kuambiwa "mind your own damn business" au "You are being disrespectful to me right now and we can't work together anymore" akampigia mke wake simu. Mnajua jinsi ambavyo simu zetu huwa hazina siri sometimes kama haupo sehemu yenye makelele. Pokea yake tu was a downer!![emoji17][emoji17] Even though mshkaji alikuwa anampigia kumpa good news (he was trying to do something nice to support her business) ila by the time the phone call ended...furaha yote aliyokuwa nayo wakati anadial # ilishapotea.

Kitu kikubwa nilichonotise ni kwamba his wife was acting the same way I did with my EX a while back. I can't deny mimi ni mkorofi sana and my best weapon mtu akiwa ameniboa ni kumpa COLD SHOULDER...Yani hata aniambie kitu kizuri namna gani I will act uninterested. Mwisho wa siku atajiona lofa kweli for trying.BUT HEY.... I'M LEARNING how to handle my issues better so please don't judge!![emoji85][emoji85]Anyway, she was really COLD towards him!! Bila kujali intention ya mshkaji. Na yeye mshkaji ni kama alikuwa ameshazoea ile hali...yani alikuwa anajitahidi knowing very well she probably won't care. Baada ya hapo we talked a lot...(I'm easy to talk to I think) , he told me his issues and I remember asking him, "Would you consider marrying your side chick as the 2nd wife or leaving your wife??" And the answer was NO to both questions (with details as to why not ofcourse.) Kadri siku zilivyoenda nikajikuta sasa namuonea yeye huruma badala ya mke wake....and that is because, wanaume they are physically & mentally strong and all that blah blah ila THEY CAN EASILY BE BROKEN EMOTIONALLY. And once a man is broken emotionally anakua weak hata mentally kwasababu furaha yake kubwa inatokana na mpenzi wake. tofauti na sisi wanawake ambao ni rahisi kupata furaha yetu kwa watoto, family & friends maisha yakaendelea kunoga. Ila for a man (hapa siongelei wale waliooa ilimradi, naongelea wale wanaowapenda kweli wake/wapenzi wao) hamna kitu kigumu kama kuwa at odds na mwenzake nyumbani. Kurudi nyumbani inakuwa kama adhabu maana there is nothing for him at home zaidi ya gubu na drama. Mtu anabaki kusema "I love her but I DON'T LIKE HER." And hey....who can stand someone they don't like???? No one!!!

Unakuta mwanaume anadeal with a lot of issues kwenye kazi/biashara zake ila mtu muhimu kwake hana msaada wowote kwake. Kikitokea kitu kizuri hivyo hivyo,anaona shida Kushare na wewe... who is he supposed to go to??? Marafiki nao, there is only so much you can tell them. Mwisho wa siku ndo mtu anajikuta anakuwa DEPRESSED au anadondoka mikononi mwa mtu ambae anaweza akaongea nae, akamuelewa, akampa moyo and such. And NO!!! Sitoi ruksa kwa wanaume kucheat....ila natoa RAI kwetu wanawake. We need to do better majumbani kwetu. Hata kama tumetoka kugombana, ifike mahali ATTITUDES zetu zisicontrol mahusiano yetu. Let's all be reasonable, forgiving and understanding. Tusilete hasira za ugomvi mdogo mdogo zizae matatizo makubwa zaidi. Ukiacha wale wanaume ambao kwao kucheat ni kitu ambacho hakihitaji sababu..kuna wachache ambao tunawasukuma wenyewe, yani tunawaFORCE kabisa.

Fortunately, mwaka wa hii couple unaisha vizuri kwasababu after some massive damage, they're both taking a break from their wicked ways trying to make things work. Makes me really happy I could help.

Kwakumalizia niseme tu...it's kind of a responsibility kwetu sisi wanawake kuwa-ENCOURAGE, kuwa-SUPPORT , kuwa-APPRECIATE, KUWASIFIA na kuwaruhusu kaka zetu (wa makazini, majumbani na mitaani), waume na wapenzi wetu wajue when they are doing something right. Maneno kama "Well done!! Umetisha!!Big up!! Asante!!You are the best!! Keep it up!! Endelea kupambana!!" etc. will go a long way. Trust me ladies. Let's all be the force of LOVE na sio the force of EVIL to these gentlemen. Let's make their lives a little more enjoyable [emoji846][emoji846]

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO Y'ALL.[emoji323][emoji323] BE GOOD & BE HAPPY!![emoji846]

 

[geniusMe]

[emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787] poleee. Ila dua la kuku halimpati mwewe si unajua??

mimi mwenyewe mwewe unajua , ikishindikana nitanunua bus mwenyewe

 

[Dr Lizzy]

mimi mwenyewe mwewe unajua , ikishindikana nitanunua bus mwenyewe

Msamehe tu bana....usiingie gharama za bure.🤓

 

[Kuchakuro Ps]

DooooH! kinda right

You are kinda right hapo kwenye bold, I think!! Ila I hope ataona efforts za jamaa na yeye ajitahidi lea upande wake.
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[geniusMe]

kwa mademu wote nitakao waumiza wajue kuna mtu alisababisha some where sasa hivi ni ngumu kum-treat any demu with respect katika mahusiano labda ndio njia ya kuepuka kutokua disappointed again ,nilikuja kugundua no matter how you care abt them they take it for granted,

 

[The Professor]

LOVE too much hurt so much.
HOPE too much hurt so much.
TRUST too much hurt so much.

Umeandika vizuri sana wala sikukosoi ila ningeona mahala umetushauri na sisi wanaume tujifunze ku balance shobo ningefurahi zaidia ya hapa .. all in all kama ningeusoma huu uzi before 2019 ungekua uzi wangu bora wa mwaka.