Wanawake....let's be kind to men!!

Wanawake....let's be kind to men!!

Lizzy said:
Heheheh....sio bwege bana. Kupenda muhimu!!!And....he is man enough to know nae amekosea na kujaribu kurekebisha mambo.
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Wee sema kupenda muhimu...siku anachungulia six feet under alafu watu wanaendelea kumgegeda na maisha yanaendelea ndio atajua kuwa kosa kubwa mwanaume kufanya ni kumpenda mwanamke.

Muheshimu mwanamke kama msaidizi wako but never ever fall inlove with her. Msaidizi yoyote ukishaanza kuleta mapenzi hamna jema litatendeka. Vuruvuru tuu ndio kitakachofuata
 
Maisha ya sikuhizi unakuwa na uhusiano na binti hajui kwao wala tabia za wazazi wake. Na yeye mkiwa nae anajifanya kukuletea mapenzi ya kizungu. Unampenda mnaowana hapo ndo tabia zake halisi anazikunjua, mwanaume unabaki kuwa na stress
Lizzy said:
Well...if she doesn't too bad maana he is really trying his best.
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Lizzy said:
Hi guys 👋👋

"Wanawake tunatumia muda mwingi kutafuta makosefu ya wanaume badala ya kuangalia nakua-acknowledge ya kwetu."

Ni muda mrefu sana sijaandika kitu humu ila leo nimeona nishee jambo na nyie kabla mwaka haujaisha kwasababu somo lenyewe nimelipata mwaka huu.

Naturally, I'm very judgmental na sikuwahi kuona sababu ya mtu kucheat kwenye mahusiano yake no matter what. Nilikuwa nafika mahali namchukia kabisa mtu ambae anahangaika wakati ana mwanamke/mwanaume wake hata kama hanihusu. Yani I took it personal kabisa.

Sasa what happened is, kuna mkaka I really liked from the first day I met him (not romantically though 🙂🙂). He is really an awesome person. Kwa position aliyonayo angeweza kuwa mtu mwenye mbwembwe na majigambo sana but he is not like that at all. Anyway, he is successful, married with kids but far from Happy. 😐 Nilivyogundua kwamba he had a side chick (alafu hata hamfichi, yani mtu yoyote anaweza kufikisha taarifa kwa mke wake)...I was pissed & heartbroken kwakweli. Nilijiuliza maswali mia moja elfu kidogo and I felt sorry for his wife.

Nikaona isiwe tabu, now that we are friends au tuseme tumeanza kuzoeana sana, ngoja nitafute siku nimchane tu live.
Mungu sio Lizzy siku ikafika nikasema leo ndio leo. Ile najiandaa psychologically kuambiwa "mind your own damn business" au "You are being disrespectful to me right now and we can't work together anymore" akampigia mke wake simu. Mnajua jinsi ambavyo simu zetu huwa hazina siri sometimes kama haupo sehemu yenye makelele. Pokea yake tu was a downer!!😔😔 Even though mshkaji alikuwa anampigia kumpa good news (he was trying to do something nice to support her business) ila by the time the phone call ended...furaha yote aliyokuwa nayo wakati anadial # ilishapotea.

Kitu kikubwa nilichonotise ni kwamba his wife was acting the same way I did with my EX a while back. I can't deny mimi ni mkorofi sana and my best weapon mtu akiwa ameniboa ni kumpa COLD SHOULDER...Yani hata aniambie kitu kizuri namna gani I will act uninterested. Mwisho wa siku atajiona lofa kweli for trying.BUT HEY.... I'M LEARNING how to handle my issues better so please don't judge!!🙈🙈Anyway, she was really COLD towards him!! Bila kujali intention ya mshkaji. Na yeye mshkaji ni kama alikuwa ameshazoea ile hali...yani alikuwa anajitahidi knowing very well she probably won't care. Baada ya hapo we talked a lot...(I'm easy to talk to I think) , he told me his issues and I remember asking him, "Would you consider marrying your side chick as the 2nd wife or leaving your wife??" And the answer was NO to both questions (with details as to why not ofcourse.) Kadri siku zilivyoenda nikajikuta sasa namuonea yeye huruma badala ya mke wake....and that is because, wanaume they are physically & mentally strong and all that blah blah ila THEY CAN EASILY BE BROKEN EMOTIONALLY. And once a man is broken emotionally anakua weak hata mentally kwasababu furaha yake kubwa inatokana na mpenzi wake. tofauti na sisi wanawake ambao ni rahisi kupata furaha yetu kwa watoto, family & friends maisha yakaendelea kunoga. Ila for a man (hapa siongelei wale waliooa ilimradi, naongelea wale wanaowapenda kweli wake/wapenzi wao) hamna kitu kigumu kama kuwa at odds na mwenzake nyumbani. Kurudi nyumbani inakuwa kama adhabu maana there is nothing for him at home zaidi ya gubu na drama. Mtu anabaki kusema "I love her but I DON'T LIKE HER." And hey....who can stand someone they don't like???? No one!!!

Unakuta mwanaume anadeal with a lot of issues kwenye kazi/biashara zake ila mtu muhimu kwake hana msaada wowote kwake. Kikitokea kitu kizuri hivyo hivyo,anaona shida Kushare na wewe... who is he supposed to go to??? Marafiki nao, there is only so much you can tell them. Mwisho wa siku ndo mtu anajikuta anakuwa DEPRESSED au anadondoka mikononi mwa mtu ambae anaweza akaongea nae, akamuelewa, akampa moyo and such. And NO!!! Sitoi ruksa kwa wanaume kucheat....ila natoa RAI kwetu wanawake. We need to do better majumbani kwetu. Hata kama tumetoka kugombana, ifike mahali ATTITUDES zetu zisicontrol mahusiano yetu. Let's all be reasonable, forgiving and understanding. Tusilete hasira za ugomvi mdogo mdogo zizae matatizo makubwa zaidi. Ukiacha wale wanaume ambao kwao kucheat ni kitu ambacho hakihitaji sababu..kuna wachache ambao tunawasukuma wenyewe, yani tunawaFORCE kabisa.

Fortunately, mwaka wa hii couple unaisha vizuri kwasababu after some massive damage, they're both taking a break from their wicked ways trying to make things work. Makes me really happy I could help.

Kwakumalizia niseme tu...it's kind of a responsibility kwetu sisi wanawake kuwa-ENCOURAGE, kuwa-SUPPORT , kuwa-APPRECIATE, KUWASIFIA na kuwaruhusu kaka zetu (wa makazini, majumbani na mitaani), waume na wapenzi wetu wajue when they are doing something right. Maneno kama "Well done!! Umetisha!!Big up!! Asante!!You are the best!! Keep it up!! Endelea kupambana!!" etc. will go a long way. Trust me ladies. Let's all be the force of LOVE na sio the force of EVIL to these gentlemen. Let's make their lives a little more enjoyable 🙂🙂

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO Y'ALL.🎊🎊 BE GOOD & BE HAPPY!!🙂
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Umenitoa mchozi…!!! NIISHIE TU HAPO...
 
mzabzab said:
Wee sema kupenda muhimu...siku anachungulia six feet under alafu watu wanaendelea kumgegeda na maisha yanaendelea ndio atajua kuwa kosa kubwa mwanaume kufanya ni kumpenda mwanamke.

Muheshimu mwanamke kama msaidizi wako but never ever fall inlove with her. Msaidizi yoyote ukishaanza kuleta mapenzi hamna jema litatendeka. Vuruvuru tuu ndio kitakachofuata
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mzabzab don't be so sceptical bana. Life is not meant to be taken too serious....
 
dark angel said:
Kwanza Lizzy napenda nikupongeze kwa lugha uliyotumia, inavutia, inashawishi kusoma. Nimesoma hadi nimesikia raha.
Can we be friends????
Back to topic.. UMESOMEKA myself I'll work on it ASAP.
Happy new year in advance Sis.
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Asante darling and YES we can!!

I'm glad utafanyia kazi somo langu. Wanawake tuna nguvu kuliko tunavyodhani....let's use our powers for good.
 
Lizzy said:
mzabzab don't be so sceptical bana. Life is not meant to be taken too serious....
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No its not abt being skeptical its about being real....women have from the beging of life been the down fall of many a man. So that is a serious lesson to keep in mind at all times.

Many a man inlove with the dimple have made the mistake of marrying the whole gal.
It should be take serious coz ukicheka na mwanamke kwenye hili suala utalia wewe.

Nyie ni dada zetu na maa zetu and i shall respect u for that and also kama wake zetu but i will never ever love a gal hilo sitafanya. Mambo yakuanza kufa mapema nani anataka.
 
Detective J said:
I hope wanawake wenzio watauelewa huu ujumbe. Wengi wao wamekuwa ni wa kulaumu even if root ya tatizo imeanza kwao.
Wajue jukum la ndoa si la mwanaume tu.. hata wao wana part ya kucheza.

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Wanaume tumeumbwa, Mateso. Inafikia mahali ili kumaliza tatizo, kosa la mwanamke mume ndo anaomba samahani.


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kapalamsenga said:
Maisha ya sikuhizi unakuwa na uhusiano na binti hajui kwao wala tabia za wazazi wake. Na yeye mkiwa nae anajifanya kukuletea mapenzi ya kizungu. Unampenda mnaowana hapo ndo tabia zake halisi anazikunjua, mwanaume unabaki kuwa na stress

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Honestly, kujuana sana sio issue kwasababu most of the time watu wanaficha makucha mpaka pale wanapoona upande wa pili hauna ujanja ndo wanaanza kuyaonyesha.

Mtu unaweza ukapata mwenza mzuri lakini akabadilishwa na circumstances. The best we can do is be real...and make our partners comfortable enough to be honest with us kila wakati na kwa kila namna. Na kuomba tusisahau kwa wale wanaoamini....
 
mzabzab said:
No its not abt being skeptical its about being real....women have from the beging of life been the down fall of many a man. So that is a serious lesson to keep in mind at all times.

Many a man inlove with the dimple have made the mistake of marrying the whole gal.
It should be take serious coz ukicheka na mwanamke kwenye hili suala utalia wewe.

Nyie ni dada zetu na maa zetu and i shall respect u for that and also kama wake zetu but i will never ever love a gal hilo sitafanya. Mambo yakuanza kufa mapema nani anataka.
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You are right mzabzab and I respect you opinion. Most of the time mawazo yetu yanatokana na experience so it's owwkey to feel certain ways at times. Ila don't shut down the idea completely...stay hopeful.😉😉

Hapo kwenye BOLD...that's a mistake a lot of people make. Both man and women. Tunasahau kwamba what matters is on the inside, not on the outside. Na mbaya zaidi ni kwamba most good looking people huwa wanachukulia advantage muonekano wao na kuutumia kama excuse ya kuwa WABAYA behaviour wise....kwahiyo tunajikuta tunashoboka na sura, pesa na maumbo tunasahau kwamba mwisho wa siku we'll have to deal with the person's ATTITUDE towards us and not their looks.😌😌
 
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