Ave Ave Maria
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Hii ngumu kumeza. A guy acheat alafu bado niseme eti ananipenda? Hapana kwakweli, hili huwa siliamini hata kidogo!
Exactly... nakumbuka tuliizungumzia hii last week... kua mtu (hasa a guy kulala na mwingine) haimaanishi kua hampendi alonae.... Sasa why bother kumuuliza?? lol
Thanks NN your answers means a lot....and when its too late,which way can you start corrections from the wrongs!?Nimefurahi kuwa umeipenda.
We human beings are not infallible. On occasions we do fail. But occasional failure shouldn't always define who we are. We should strive to improve ourselves, correct the wrongs we do, strengthen our weaknesses, and in the end be defined by the totality of the life we have lived rather than just a few and isolated incidents where we failed.
So to directly answer your question, no, failure doesn't necessarily make you a bad person. In fact failure can make you a better person especially if you use it as a teachable moment and learn from it. But of course it all depends on a lot things and it is not that cut-and-dry.
Dada asha , nilichojifunza katika maisha, wengi wakisemacho sicho wakitendacho... are you agree?I know NN... I know what you mean and i know where it is coming from...
She is what she is for she can not be what she is not... and that applies to all....
And of coz nampa HEKO pia...
NN nimekaa na marafiki wengi wa kike na wengine wakiwa kwenye ndoa,, what i know wengi huwa hawaonyeshi wala hawasemi wafanyayo... huwa wanona tu ya wengine hili unalizungumziaje? coz unaweza kuta mtu mzinzi kupita kiasi anahubiri uvumilivu kwenye ndoa na mwingine yuko honest ndio anaweza thubutu hata kumuuliza maswali magumu mchungaji au kiongozi wake wa dini na hili limekaajeNazungumzia ideally na ndiyo maana nikaweka kwenye mabano "at least hapa kwenye forum". Mimi on face value I like her stances with regards to relationships.
Mengine nje ya hapa JF siwezi kuzungumzia sana maana sina jinsi ya kuyafuatilia na kuthibitsha mwenyewe.
<br />Unakuta kabibi kana 50 kanavaa kimini halaf kanakulembulia macho, halaf ukikiamkia "shkamoo" kanaitikia "poa tu", tumataftiana ubaya tu
NN nimekaa na marafiki wengi wa kike na wengine wakiwa kwenye ndoa,, what i know wengi huwa hawaonyeshi wala hawasemi wafanyayo... huwa wanona tu ya wengine hili unalizungumziaje? coz unaweza kuta mtu mzinzi kupita kiasi anahubiri uvumilivu kwenye ndoa na mwingine yuko honest ndio anaweza thubutu hata kumuuliza maswali magumu mchungaji au kiongozi wake wa dini na hili limekaaje
Nashukuru sana ashadii kwa kweli nimepata majibu mengi sana ya maswali niliyokuwa nuliza, nilikuwa harusini kesho nafikiri tutaendelea freshShantel nafikiri mpaka hapa tumefika... Jibu utapata in between posts na hivo kukamilisha ombi lako.... Be good dear... Sasa napumzika....
kwa kweli, marafiki naowajua wengine ni member humu tofauti wakiandikacho..nimeamini msemo wa dont judge the book by it coverNN nimekaa na marafiki wengi wa kike na wengine wakiwa kwenye ndoa,, what i know wengi huwa hawaonyeshi wala hawasemi wafanyayo... huwa wanona tu ya wengine hili unalizungumziaje? coz unaweza kuta mtu mzinzi kupita kiasi anahubiri uvumilivu kwenye ndoa na mwingine yuko honest ndio anaweza thubutu hata kumuuliza maswali magumu mchungaji au kiongozi wake wa dini na hili limekaaje
Nimependa michango yako sana NN kwenye hii threadUko sahihi kabisa Shantel. Ni kawaida ya binadamu kuona kasoro za wengine na kukosoa wenzao lakini ya kwao hawayaoni.
Mimi katika pita pita zangu mitaani nimeshawahi kumsikia dada poa mmoja akimsema mmoja wa hao wenzake eti ni 'malaya'. Yaani amini usiamini hii niliisikia kwa masikio yangu.
Mfano mwingine ni mega-church pastor mmoja Marekani aitwaye Eddie Long. Huyu bwana alikuwa anahubiri mahubiri ya kupinga ushoga. Sasa mwaka jana ikaja kubumbuluka kumbe na yeye mwenyewe ni shoga na ushahidi ulikuwepo.
Alikuwa anamegana na wavulana wa hapo kanisani kwake. Hao wavulana wakamshitaki kwa kukiuka fiduciary responsibilities zake. Mwisho wa siku wamekuja ku settle nje ya mahakama.
Kwa hiyo hata hapa ni hivyo hivyo tu. Binafsi nasoma maandishi ya mtu na kama nakubaliana nayo basi nitasema nakubaliana nayo na kama pongezi nitazitoa. Lakini kwa wakati huo huo natambua kuwa hapa tunazungumza kwa maandishi tu tena nyuma ya keyboards.
Mtu anaweza akawa tofauti kabisa na anavyojiweka kimaandishi hapa. Lakini kwa vile maandishi ndiyo tunayoegemezea maoni yetu hapa, hatuwezi kuhukumu kwa uhakika kuwa hicho mtu aandikacho ni cha uongo au cha ukweli labda uwe unamjua huyo mtu kwa kiwango binafsi.
But on balance, I agree with you that talking is one thing, but doing is an entirely different beast altogether.
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Asha Dii.... Sijui nisemeje! Are you kinda consenting this? Kama ndo hivo basi acha tu wananume wetu wachiti so long as si kwamba hawatupendi ni hamu tu wanapunguza au wameanguka majaribuni and its just owkey!
Hii ngumu kumeza. A guy acheat alafu bado niseme eti ananipenda? Hapana kwakweli, hili huwa siliamini hata kidogo!
Dada asha , nilichojifunza katika maisha, wengi wakisemacho sicho wakitendacho... are you agree?
Hayo maneno katika post yako nilikua naongea wakati kigoli....lol.. Hio imenifanya nijue hujaolewa.... Ukiolewa you will understand where it is coming from... Hopefullly
<br />Dear I am not consenting... I am just being realistic... Na ni kitu ambacho siwezi sema na kuadmit in front of my Man - But I do know it is there... bht frankly speaking wake wangapi wanajua kua waume zao weme cheat, wanaishia kugombana, but life goes on ndani ya nyumba... Inauma and it does not make it right... ila it is real. For further ufafanuzi Please Check Post # 117 in this thread...
NN nimekaa na marafiki wengi wa kike na wengine wakiwa kwenye ndoa,, what i know wengi huwa hawaonyeshi wala hawasemi wafanyayo... huwa wanona tu ya wengine hili unalizungumziaje? coz unaweza kuta mtu mzinzi kupita kiasi anahubiri uvumilivu kwenye ndoa na mwingine yuko honest ndio anaweza thubutu hata kumuuliza maswali magumu mchungaji au kiongozi wake wa dini na hili limekaaje
kwa kweli, marafiki naowajua wengine ni member humu tofauti wakiandikacho..nimeamini msemo wa dont judge the book by it cover
kutamani kutakuwepo na ma stranger nao watakuwepo.....inategemea na uhusiano uliokuwa nao huwezi ng'ang'ania kuwa na uliyenae hata
kama unaona haiwezekani, u better try any chances ambayo itafanya ukutane na mtu atakaekufanya uwe happy
<br />Inawezekana shantel kumpenda mtu hujawahi muona ila nafikiri tunapaswa kucontrol hisia zetu hasa kama umependa wakati tayari upo katika mahusiano mengine.<br />
Kama umependa mtu kwa sababu umemsikia tu au unamsoma hapa jeief nakushauri kuwa makini, sio wote wanayoyaongea ndio wanayoyatenda....... Anaweza kuonekana msafi kumbe ni mchafu. Watu wa mtandaoni hupenda kuonekana namna wangependa wawe (wengi huonekana sivyo walivyo). Wapo wanaopenda kuonekana ni wastaarabu/wakorofi kumbe sivyo. Wengine hupenda kuonekana ni watu wa dini, wengine kuonekana ni watoto/wakubwa, kuonekana wameoa/hawajaoa.<br />
Kila mtu ana maisha yake ya kimtandao na yanaweza kuwa tofauti na maisha yake ya nje.<br />
Control hisia zenu angalau mtakapoonana na kuendelea kufahamiana zaidi ndio mnaweza kupiga hatua nyingine mbele.