Kuna a time ya luxury ya applying what i have said (following your heart and taking risks) na a time when you just have to go blind. Ndio maana inatakiwa kua makini saana kabla ya kuoa na kuolewa, for marriage as we know is for keeps... Kitendo cha ku apply what I have said ukiwa married.... that is selfishness (hio iko more applicable kwa walo single); for kama umeoa/olewa, then sasa inakua selfishess... Mwenza wako akitoka kwa ajili ya kutereza ama tamaa..... you are safe, atarudi salama ndani ya nyumba. Mwenza wako akitokea kumpenda mtu mwingine nje ya ndoa (na sometimes huwezi mlaumu ukute hajawahi kua na hizo feelings) then you are in trouble.... either wampoteza... ama akirudi atarudi kama fuvu! maana itakua kisha gundua there is beyond what s/he likes.... na that is "Love" hivo lazima aishi kwa kujisukuma humo ndani hata akiamua kustick hapo...
I have a saying... it is ok to fall in love over and over when you are young and single... It is selfishness to fall in love over and over whtn you are an adult especially if committed in a relationship... BUT how I wish it was that simple... roho aizeki Ndahani....