Work place bullying and sabotage: HELP!

[KateMiddleton]

Tatizo limeanzia hapa! Inaonesha huo u-supervisor umejipachika mwenyewe kwa vile tu unalipwa mshahara mkubwa kuliko wao. Lakini wao wana experience kubwa kuliko wewe (hasa hao wazee). Sasa ukilinganisha na experience yao wanakuona si chochote. Cha kufanya ishinikize management (kwa kujadiliana na mkurugenzi) iweke kwenye mwandishi kwamba wewe ndiye supervisor wa hiyo timu. Na ukishapewa maandishi weka msimamo, usirogwe hata siku moja kulalamika kwao kwamba labda wanakufanyia hivyo kwa vile wewe ni mwanamke au binti! Simamia misingi ya utumishi na hakikisha kila mtu anatimiza wajibu wake, huyo anayewahi kuondoka kabla ya muda mwambie ukweli kwa onyo la mdomo, akirudia mtwange barua ya onyo na copy kwa management! Mbona watarudi wenyewe, endelea kucheka na nyani utavuna mabua!

Woww thank you
You read my mind

Ht km ingekua mim ngemchukulia poa
Boss gani hatuambiwi!?

 

[KateMiddleton]

In my opinion
Act ur level
Be the normal employee you are
Supervise nobody

Soma tena job description yako and js do that..only that

 

[mzabzab]

Hello everyone it’s been a while ! Where i am right now is 01:25 am. I am unable to sleep! Thousand thought in my mind.

Straight to the point , I work for a very big NGO , the pay is good and I love what I do. The challenge is the work environment is toxic! Toxic co workers . I work at a new branch made up of 4 employees me and three others , away from the main branch. I’m supposed to be the supervisor of this place, although it was not clearly communicated to my co workers because they don’t want to hire a “supervisor” at the moment due to pay issues. The reason I say I’m the supervisor is because I’m the most senior here, higher pay grade, I’m responsible for most of the decision making and in case anything goes wrong I’m the one who gets questioned and reprimanded even if I’m not the one responsible. ( they say a good leader is responsible for the mistakes of people who work with him).

Now the challenge I’m facing is the people I work with sabotage me,try to discredit me any chance they get, they tell on me, they blow things out of proportion. They don’t offer me the help I need even when I ask for it, So instead of doing what I was actually hired to do I find myself putting off fires, explaining myself to management etc, doing their jobs because if it’s not done guess who gets blamed , ME!

They are not perfect themselves, they come late, one come to work drunk , some leave work earlier but I don’t call management to report each and everything because I feel like it’s not the work I was brought to do. And I believe as a leader I should be able to solve problems myself than involving management on trivial matters.

In conclusion I would really like if you can advice me on what I should do, I want to do my job well, but how do I handle these toxic co workers ? How do I rise above? How do I save my credibility and reputation? .

Yaani wee boss alafu wachini yako wanathuburu kuja kazini kwa kuchelewa?

 

[JF Member]

Take time to explain to a person who is closer to you and who knows you very well, will help to resolve your problems.

No one knows you in this platform, you might be the one having problems that you need to change instead of your colleagues.

Meanwhile I see you are week to some extent. If your have accepted the supervisory role regardless of the paycheck , why can't you demand for a clear communication ? This is your biggest mistake. Stand out of that foolishness it will not help you.
Go on Monday and demand for that power.

Ask for a help from your supervisor, he/she is responsible of making sure that you are full and well trained , equiped and powered. Will also help to deal with you weekness.

Don't be shy at all and don't be destructive. Uphold work standards.

 

[Millionaire]

Yani upo na kakikundi ka watu watatu unalalamika namna hiyo.
Tafuta kakozi ka management usome hata online, au vitabu vya kuujenga ubongo namna ya kuwa'manage binaadam haswa cowokers kwa case yako.

 

[Planett]

acha ujuaji na majigambo, acha kujiona wewe ndio kila kitu.

 

[Kamanda Moshi]

Hello everyone it’s been a while ! Where i am right now is 01:25 am. I am unable to sleep! Thousand thought in my mind.

Straight to the point , I work for a very big NGO , the pay is good and I love what I do. The challenge is the work environment is toxic! Toxic co workers . I work at a new branch made up of 4 employees me and three others , away from the main branch. I’m supposed to be the supervisor of this place, although it was not clearly communicated to my co workers because they don’t want to hire a “supervisor” at the moment due to pay issues. The reason I say I’m the supervisor is because I’m the most senior here, higher pay grade, I’m responsible for most of the decision making and in case anything goes wrong I’m the one who gets questioned and reprimanded even if I’m not the one responsible. ( they say a good leader is responsible for the mistakes of people who work with him).

Now the challenge I’m facing is the people I work with sabotage me,try to discredit me any chance they get, they tell on me, they blow things out of proportion. They don’t offer me the help I need even when I ask for it, So instead of doing what I was actually hired to do I find myself putting off fires, explaining myself to management etc, doing their jobs because if it’s not done guess who gets blamed , ME!

They are not perfect themselves, they come late, one come to work drunk , some leave work earlier but I don’t call management to report each and everything because I feel like it’s not the work I was brought to do. And I believe as a leader I should be able to solve problems myself than involving management on trivial matters.

In conclusion I would really like if you can advice me on what I should do, I want to do my job well, but how do I handle these toxic co workers ? How do I rise above? How do I save my credibility and reputation? .

Why there’s no clear communication about you being the boss from top management? I think if this is solved then automatically hayo ya co-workers yatakuwa solved!
By the way, office yako haina mambo ya performance management? Maana seems hili halipo kabisa!

 

[Cannabis]

Soma hiki kitabu

 

[uttoh2002]

Hello everyone it’s been a while ! Where i am right now is 01:25 am. I am unable to sleep! Thousand thought in my mind.

Straight to the point , I work for a very big NGO , the pay is good and I love what I do. The challenge is the work environment is toxic! Toxic co workers . I work at a new branch made up of 4 employees me and three others , away from the main branch. I’m supposed to be the supervisor of this place, although it was not clearly communicated to my co workers because they don’t want to hire a “supervisor” at the moment due to pay issues. The reason I say I’m the supervisor is because I’m the most senior here, higher pay grade, I’m responsible for most of the decision making and in case anything goes wrong I’m the one who gets questioned and reprimanded even if I’m not the one responsible. ( they say a good leader is responsible for the mistakes of people who work with him).

Now the challenge I’m facing is the people I work with sabotage me,try to discredit me any chance they get, they tell on me, they blow things out of proportion. They don’t offer me the help I need even when I ask for it, So instead of doing what I was actually hired to do I find myself putting off fires, explaining myself to management etc, doing their jobs because if it’s not done guess who gets blamed , ME!

They are not perfect themselves, they come late, one come to work drunk , some leave work earlier but I don’t call management to report each and everything because I feel like it’s not the work I was brought to do. And I believe as a leader I should be able to solve problems myself than involving management on trivial matters.

In conclusion I would really like if you can advice me on what I should do, I want to do my job well, but how do I handle these toxic co workers ? How do I rise above? How do I save my credibility and reputation? .

Why did they give your a leadership role and you are not a leader? A leader can solve all the problem you mentioned if they have authority!

Either:

1. You are a great mwongo na Hii ni chai.
2. Iyo Organization ni ya hovyo!

 

[uttoh2002]

Stand your ground and stop being nice to these folks...
Don’t do more than what is required, bully them back ( but be strategic about it)

Huyu mwongo! Si wa kujibu, Organization haiwezi kuwa na Sifa zote hizo Halafu ni ya hovyo!

 

[Determinantor]

Hujawahi pata shida za ofisini wewe!

Kwanza kufanya kazi na watu wazee,jinsia zote then uwazidi Elimu au uwe boss wao ni kazi mno! Utasikia tu wanasema umekuja juzi tu hapa,unaleta Elimu yako hapo,tutanona kama hata mwaka utamaliza! Kwanza huwa hawajiamini kwenye kazi zao,wao ni urogi,matusi,kufoka na kukutegeshea kitu kibaya unase,wacheke

Unaingia ofisini kwenye kiti chako unakuta kuna unga kama wa sembe,siku nyingine unaingia ofisini saa mbili unalala kama ndiyo umeingia ndani chumbani kwako saa nne usiku! Kila unachotaka kufanya mwili unasema acha tu,utafanya kesho! Unapewa taarifa kabisa kesho kuna safari,lakini huna muda hata wakujiandaa! Upo upo tu,unadhani ukirudi nyumbani kwa nini usikose usingizi?? Makazini kuna mambo ya ajabu sana

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Mimi nimewahi kuajiriwa kabla sijaacha, niliwahi kuwa na mabosi katili Tena waziwazi, niliwahi kuwa na Boss Mama wa Kizimbabwe, mtemi jeuri na dharau kama zote, nikawa na Boss wa Kinaijeria nae anakuona kama takataka tu, ana majivuni mhaya atasubiri sana, nikawa na Mama wa kighana, utadhani dume ni jeuri utadhani anavuta bangi, funga kazi ikawa ustaadhi wa Kipakistani, mkorofi na mnafiki balaaa......

Kwahio ukisema kuwa eti "sielewi" Mimi naona wewe ndio huelewi. Ukisoma Uzi wa huyu Binti, anasema Hana hata barua ya promotion ya hio position ila huwa "anaulizwa" maswali yeye, yes, ukiwa kiherehere utakua unaulizwa wewe!

Soma vizuri, analazimisha heshima, eti kwakua amewazidi elimu na salary, hio ndio justification ya kuwapandia wenzako kichwani?
Leadership na Management ni vitu vinavyohitaji busara sana, ukifanya kazi na Mimi aiseeee Hadi tuje tukwaruzane basi ujue umevuka mipaka pakubwa saaaana.

Haya mambo ya kuongoza binadamu yanahitaji kwanza uwe na uelewa kuwa Kila Mtu yupo pale kwa shida zake binafsi, pili mko hapo Ili ku+achieve a common goal, tatu, kwamba kwenye mikusanyiko ya Watu differences and misunderstanding lazima zitokee, nne, kuwa ni muhimu kutenganisha muda wa Kazi au masuala ya Kazini with your social life na kwamba differences Kazini hazimaanishi UNACHUKIWA kwahio stop taking it too personal.....

Mkiyajua haya na mengine mbona mtakula Bata batani, anyway Wacha niishie hapa.

Ukiona ngumu sana acha kazi kama Mimi uje tujiajiri. Kuna maisha nje ya ajira pia.

 

[kina kirefu]

Wew si unanona wenzio wanachat kiingereza..? Punguza uswahili sasa hii mada ni ya watumishi wa NGOs.

punguza ubinafs nchini Tanzania lugha zote mbili zinaruhusiwa kutumika kwawakati mmoja

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[Nelly]

Usikute unawaongelesha wenzio haka ka kiingereza

 

[Biggs]

Hi, excuse my English!

I think you are not being clear yourself as a Team Leader. These folks are trying to outplay you now to prove to management that you’re not a suitable candidate for the post. I also faced the same in my first assignment. I suggest the following

1. Introduce office operating procedures and communicate clearly to both the team and management
2. Pay attention to details and get off emotional intelligence for now
3. Put all instructions in writing and do not entertain small talks
4. Regular meetings and one to one interviews is key at this stage
5. Be clear in the weekly / daily objectives and issue your observations in writing copying management
6. Be manager and not a leader until this transition is completed (if you know what I mean)

Well and clear path for him !!

 

[Toofast]

it looks like those folks they believe that you are not a suitable person for that position ,so what you are suppose to do right away, is to play the role of fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you....

 

[pwilo]

NGO'S hivyo vitu vya kawaida sana mtu kumtupia mwenzake mzigo likitokea tatizo.

 

[Supu ya kokoto]

punguza ubinafs nchini Tanzania lugha zote mbili zinaruhusiwa kutumika kwawakati mmoja

Sharing is caring

Punguza uswahili andika kiingereza mbona wenzio wanajibizana kilugha na wanaelewana. Kama haufanyi kazi kwenye NGOs kaa kwa kutulia. Waache wapeane uzoefu,wewe endelea kusubiria kikokotoo kipya.

 

[dist111]

I think this is where you need to he a dictator, then use wisely the divide and rule principle.

 

[Kayombo Tips]

Hello everyone it’s been a while ! Where i am right now is 01:25 am. I am unable to sleep! Thousand thought in my mind.

Straight to the point , I work for a very big NGO , the pay is good and I love what I do. The challenge is the work environment is toxic! Toxic co workers . I work at a new branch made up of 4 employees me and three others , away from the main branch. I’m supposed to be the supervisor of this place, although it was not clearly communicated to my co workers because they don’t want to hire a “supervisor” at the moment due to pay issues. The reason I say I’m the supervisor is because I’m the most senior here, higher pay grade, I’m responsible for most of the decision making and in case anything goes wrong I’m the one who gets questioned and reprimanded even if I’m not the one responsible. ( they say a good leader is responsible for the mistakes of people who work with him).

Now the challenge I’m facing is the people I work with sabotage me,try to discredit me any chance they get, they tell on me, they blow things out of proportion. They don’t offer me the help I need even when I ask for it, So instead of doing what I was actually hired to do I find myself putting off fires, explaining myself to management etc, doing their jobs because if it’s not done guess who gets blamed , ME!

They are not perfect themselves, they come late, one come to work drunk , some leave work earlier but I don’t call management to report each and everything because I feel like it’s not the work I was brought to do. And I believe as a leader I should be able to solve problems myself than involving management on trivial matters.

In conclusion I would really like if you can advice me on what I should do, I want to do my job well, but how do I handle these toxic co workers ? How do I rise above? How do I save my credibility and reputation? .

Bullying them back won't help to fix the problem. You should go to them and talk to them, that you don't like what they are doing to you. Let them know who you are, your position and your power. Since you are a top of them, the easier is to solve this minor problem. You also need to change your attitude.

 

[Kayombo Tips]

Stand your ground and stop being nice to these folks...
Don’t do more than what is required, bully them back ( but be strategic about it)

He/she should sit with them, talk to them that what they are doing ain't good. That he/she needs respect in that workplace and no any kind of bullying will be tolerated.