Am not materialistic but I still can't keep a man

[Atoto]

hio ni shida yake namba moja

no no yes yes...you know i know...siwapendi mademu wa hivi mimi

Am say is she english speak?? Khaaaaah hizi lugha nawaachia wenye nazo, mie hata ras simba kanishindwa.

 

[rubii]

Wewe Mungu alikutoa ubavuni kwa mtu utarudi tu hukohuko just wait Mpaka afike muhusika wako...

 

[Trayvess Daniel]

Ooh kumbe si wewe uliyeomba ushauri...basi ignore them msg. Nilikuwa naziaddress kwa muomba ushauri nadhani yeye ndo angenielewa sababu hata baadhi ya maneno nimequote kutoka kwake.

ohhhhhhh alright was quite surprised.... infact am also learning something coz me n her share some trains msichoke kutoa constructive comments

 

[Khantwe]

Sijaspecify hata ni MMED ya nini so am sure bado nimekuacha kapa....focus on advicing me rather than bringing up something else my sis...you're better than this

Hahahaa [MENTION]brenda18 [/MENTION]nisamehe kama nimekukwaza mdogo wangu ila nna hakika umenielewa tofauti na vile nilivyoomanisha mimi.....sipo huko kabisa unakofikiria

 

[NDAGLA]

Acha kumpotosha mwenzako!

Unachotakiwa kumwambia ni aache kuwa desperate, aendelee kungoja atampata mwenza wake. Lkn sio kumshauri azae bila ndoa.

Afu kwani nani amewaambia muwaabudu wanaume mbona mnaexaggurate vitu??.nyinyi mmeambiwa mtii..au kutii ndo kuabudu mtu? Kwani we unavyowatii wazazi wako ni kwamba unamwabudu?..

Mkuu,

Kwanza elewa Mimi siyo SHE.

Sidhani kama kuna upotoshaji hapo kiongozi ndo hali halisi.

Wewe unayemwambie asubirie tu,je asipopatikana muoaji kabisa itakuwaje? Maanake huu ndo umri alipaswa awe na mahusiano yanayoelekea kwenye ndoa ama tayari ana family. Mind you kuna menopause na kupata watoto ktk umri mkubwa huishia kupata mazezeta tu.

Wanaume wengi tunapenda kunyenyekewa, yaani binti ajishushe ili tu aonekane yuko chini yetu hata kama anakuzidi kila kitu sasa ukimpata anayejielewa huu ujinga hafanyi yaani akutii tu hata kama maamuzi yako ya ovyo si ndo kukuabudu huko awe ndiyo mzee.

BTW: Mleta mada si tu kwamba ni mtu mzima bali ni kichwa hasa MMED siyo lelemama so atapembua ushauri unaofaa na kuufanyia kazi.

 

[madenge8]

Ngoja nijaribu kukusaidia
Kuna vitu vinavuomKEEP mwanaume (by the way some years back nilileta uzi wa how some are only attractors and not KEEPERS).
1. Altitute (heshima,usikivu,ucheshi, care etc)
2. Sex (utamu, utundu/ufundi, usafi)
3. Skills (usafi,upishi,motherhood,ushauri wa kimaendeleo etc)
4. Looks (usafi, kile ulichomvutia siku ya kwanza)

Sasa kuna vitu tumezaliwa navyo na kuna vitu twaweza jifunza au kujiboresha. Unaweza usiwe say 'mtamu' lkn ukawa mbunifu na mshauri ktk biashara/maendeleo na say una heshima. Kwa maneno mengine unatakiwa uoneshe kwa matendo na tabia jinsi gani atapoteza kama atakupoteza wewe. I mean aone gap lako. Sasa it is okay kusema you are fine the way you are and let no one change you; but again ni wewe ambaye unapata shida ya kushindwa kumkeep mpenzi so take a very good look of yourself halafu ona wapi unaweza kubadilika. Kuwa mnyenyekevu kidogo haimaanishi wewe ni weak. Kwa sisi wakristu Bwana wetu alishuka kutoka kwenye utukufu hadi kifo cha msalaba. So sio siku zote kushuka ni kupoteza elimu yako.

nimekupenda buree.......hii kitu wadada wengi hawana!!utasikia utajilaumu tukiachana lakn hakuna special anachokionesha mkiwa wote......ts like she doesnt exist.........

 

[NDAGLA]

nakuelewa sana aiseee you sound so damn realistic.... Sasa what's the solution?coz kupretend dumb au kumwabudu too much ni ngumu most of the time

Kama hawezi kujishusha na kumnyenyekea mwanaume wake kwa maisha yao yote ya ndoa,bora azee tu.Sababu watatalakiana tu ni vigumu mno ku-pretend .

 

[Zuphora]

Good evening,

Am in my late 20s about completing my MMED. Ever since I got out of my first relationship with my first and d only man I have ever loved I have not been able to keep other men coming my way.

Am not really a bad person, am not even materialistic because even as an undergraduate I was working. No man I have ever dated that doesn ’ t not wish to settle down with me but one thing will lead to another and there will be change in plan.

In fact am losing hope of ever getting married may be I should just get pregnant for my first love and be a single mother. Right now am single and I have been for more than a year. Please do u have any advice for me?

Thanks

You are just like me, almost in everything you've explained. Just few days ago I met a spiritual person who said it might be a curse or the effects of your mother/ first born of your family who had abortion.

My advice is 1. Pray to God for a husband and /or 2. Seek a spiritual help from your faith leaders.

It may be normal or something beyond your power.

Asikudanganye mtu kuhusu attitude, muonekano, usomi etc, kuna watu wenye worse behavior au looks lakini wanaolewa/ kuoa kila kukicha hata ukisoma humu ndani wenye matatizo kwenye ndoa zao ni karibu wote. So either subiri au fwata ushauri wangu.

 

[madenge8]

brenda18 nimetafsiriwa subiri nijipange nije nikushauri,
Ila sijui hata nakushauri nini wakati hata mie nina tatizo kama lako!! Ngoja kwanza nisome comments za watu nami nijifunze maana huu moyo umenigomea kabisaaaaa kupenda tena.

this is crazy hahahaaaaaa nimecheka sana lol atoto

 

[Atoto]

this is crazy hahahaaaaaa nimecheka sana lol atoto

Jamani unanicheka tena badala ya kunihurumia, teh teh teh

 

[chalii wa ara]

Nina mengi ya kusema mabaya kuliko mazuri yake..lakini kiukweli he was a good man na mvumilivu,I might have pushed him away..through this post am starting to think maybe there are things abt me that should change....thank you

Good to understand it dear... Hope through this Ur going to make some changes of Ur life style that ll make u much netter

Penye Nia Pana Njia ,,, Pamoja na Mawazo haya ya Kibinadam Usiache Kumshirikisha Mungu Pia Kwa Maana Anajua Mwanzo wetu hata Mwisho wetu Pia

 

[man.d]

May be u have not find wats best for ya..

 

[Khantwe]

Ngoja nijaribu kukusaidia
Kuna vitu vinavuomKEEP mwanaume (by the way some years back nilileta uzi wa how some are only attractors and not KEEPERS).
1. Altitute (heshima,usikivu,ucheshi, care etc)
2. Sex (utamu, utundu/ufundi, usafi)
3. Skills (usafi,upishi,motherhood,ushauri wa kimaendeleo etc)
4. Looks (usafi, kile ulichomvutia siku ya kwanza)

Sasa kuna vitu tumezaliwa navyo na kuna vitu twaweza jifunza au kujiboresha. Unaweza usiwe say 'mtamu' lkn ukawa mbunifu na mshauri ktk biashara/maendeleo na say una heshima. Kwa maneno mengine unatakiwa uoneshe kwa matendo na tabia jinsi gani atapoteza kama atakupoteza wewe. I mean aone gap lako. Sasa it is okay kusema you are fine the way you are and let no one change you; but again ni wewe ambaye unapata shida ya kushindwa kumkeep mpenzi so take a very good look of yourself halafu ona wapi unaweza kubadilika. Kuwa mnyenyekevu kidogo haimaanishi wewe ni weak. Kwa sisi wakristu Bwana wetu alishuka kutoka kwenye utukufu hadi kifo cha msalaba. So sio siku zote kushuka ni kupoteza elimu yako.

Hiyo kwenye red mbona kama ipo nje ya uwezo wangu au nahitaji tuisheni.....

 

[brenda18]

hio ni shida yake namba moja

no no yes yes...you know i know...siwapendi mademu wa hivi mimi

Mademu wa hivi huwapendi because they symbolize what exactly???
At this centuary language should not be a big deal
Yani katika watu woote peke ako ndio umecomment hivyo,itakuwa ni wewe mwenye tatizo

 

[Khantwe]

brenda18 nimetafsiriwa subiri nijipange nije nikushauri,
Ila sijui hata nakushauri nini wakati hata mie nina tatizo kama lako!! Ngoja kwanza nisome comments za watu nami nijifunze maana huu moyo umenigomea kabisaaaaa kupenda tena.

Kazi ya moyo ni kusukuma damu Kupenda kiherehere chako tu

 

[brenda18]

Mimi na yeye daima, huu ni upepo tu
BTW nani mdogo wako?? ntakupasua ohoooo!!

Hahahaa dear usimsikilize atoto mimi na wewe damdam

 

[brenda18]

una miaka mitano ufike menopouse. Hilo ndiyo balaa lenyewe

Lakini menopause ni kuanzia 45 mkuu nikiwahi sana 40

 

[Trayvess Daniel]

Mademu wa hivi huwapendi because they symbolize what exactly???
At this centuary language should not be a big deal
Yani katika watu woote peke ako ndio umecomment hivyo,itakuwa ni wewe mwenye tatizo

one of those people who just type coz they got the keyboard onfront of them... Ignore him.... narrow minded

 

[brenda18]

I've not mentioned kuwa ts wrong for a woman to be able to support herself...tena ni vizuri sana tu.Ila badilisha kauli zako. Kauli zako zimejaa kujikweza sanaa.

Afu nashangaa kitu kimoja iv umekuja kuomba ushauri au kuanzisha malumbano ya hoja?Sababu km kweli unaomba ushauri ilitaliwa ukae tu usome nn watu wanakushauri thn ww mwenyewe utadigest upi wa kuuchukua upi wa kuuacha.

Kwa kifupi tu nilivyokusoma wewe ni mtu wa kujikweza sana. Hupendi kushuka chini na kusikiliza unachoambiwa...unapenda kulumbana "much know". Sasa hiyo hulka si nzuri haswa kwa mtoto wa kike.

Ukifunguliwa ktk hilo..utaweza kukaa na mwanaume.

Yani baada ya kujibu tu naonekana najikweza kwani kila nilichojibu nilikuwa nabisha mbona nimekubaliana na ushauri wa watu wengi?

 

[brenda18]

Pole sana mdogo wangu, sasa nikutafutie mwingine au now you ll be able to handle her?

haha,Unanipeperushia njiwa wangu atoto kwanini lakini?