Kuna vitu viwili napenda niviongelee hapa.
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.EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
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.CHEMICAL BOND
Sasa lengo la kuwa romantic mwanaume kwa mwanamke ni kutengeneza EMOTION CONNECTION, sasa what does it mean?
Emotiona connection, ni kumfanya mwanamke kuungana na wewe kihisia zaidi, how?
Moja lazima utenegeneze ATTRACTION, Kwake hapa naongelea AETHETICS attraction, yaani kumvuta mtu kwa muonekano wako yaani your general personality sasa hapa unahitaji kuwa smart sana, kuanzia usafi wa kichwa,mavazi,unyunyu hapa nazani kwa unyunyun tumia greed aventus,invctus, ukiwa smart ni rahisi kumvutia mtu yeyote, wanasema your personality is your busness card
Ukifaulu kwa AETHETICS ATTRACTION, ni rahisi tena kumvuta mwanamke kwa PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, hapa ni kumfanya apende kuwa karibu na wewe kupiga stori and so on, sasa ukifanikisha haya naenda kukuelezea EMOTION CONNECTION
EMOTION CONNECTION =ATTUNMENT
A=ATTEND, means give undivided attention when needed, attend equal affection, is the request for connection with her hapaa inaangukia kwenye point ya kumpa KAMPANI mwanamke, yaani kuwa nae karibu kwa muda mwingi, kumsaidia kazi, kutembea nae,kumshauri n.k kumbuka MWANAMKE anatafuta SECURITY ,kwa mwanaume, yaani ajione yuko safe kwa mwanaume kivipi? Yaani uwe mtu wa kwanza kukuambia shida yake yoyote inayomsibu, yaani anakuwa huru na wewe anakufunulia kila kitu cha moyoni mwake bila woga wowote kwasababu anajua yuko safe na wewe.
TT=Turn Toward, face to face, eyeball to eyeball yaani ukiwa unatekeleza ATTEND, basi ukiwa unamsikiliza hakikisha unakodolea kale keusi kwenye macho yake, yaani unamuangalia bila kukwepesha ndani ya jicho lake, sio kwa nje hapana, yaani yeye anakuona kama unamwagalia kikawaida but wewe unahakikisha kale kajitu keusi kwenye macho yake mawili unakodolea hapo kwa macho ya ulegevu makali ukiwa unamsikilza bila kukwepesha macho yako hapa unaifanya TASWIRA yako ikae ubongoni mwake kwa muda mrefu kupitia jicho lake, kozi the way unamumuulika ndani ya macho yake kwa concetretion ndivyo unavyo create affection kwenye UBONGO wake.
U=Understudy, yaani ukiwa unaaply hizo point hapo juu, jitahidi ubongo wako kuufanya uelewe mwanamke anahitaji nini pindi aongeapo na wewe, akikuuliza swali jitahidi ulielewe faster ukishaelewa USITOE JIBU hapohapo, mjibu indirectly yaani mpe kwanza maelezo mengi kabla hujampa jibu , why?? Unamfanya awe na shauku ya kusubilia jibu, tofauti na ukimjibu papokwapapo utakata concetretion yake, atajua kwamba kumbe is very simple that question, so hapa utahack muda wake na kumfanye awe na hamasa ya kukusikiliza wewe.
N=Non defensive listening hapa akiwa anaongea usiwe mutu wa kubishana nae , oky? Hapa uwe kama unachora graph za kupanda na kushuka, msikilize kwanza hadi mwisho akimaliza uongee na wewe sasa, hapa atajua kuwa unamuheshimu sanaa, mwanamke anapenda kusikilizwa na shida zake uweze kuzielewa kwa wakati huo.
E=Empathy, kwa Kiswahili ni huruma uwe unamoyo wa huruma sio unakuwa katiri matatizo yake, shida zake zote zivaa ziwe shida zako, sio mtu anaumwa hata kumufulia nguo,kupika,kudeki unashindwa, wazazi wake wanashida hata kutoa 10000 unashindwa, huruma ni TUNDA la ROHO mtakatifu kama ulisoma KATEKISIMU, empathy kuleta faida nyingi, upendo,Baraka n.k
nazani hadi hapa tuko sawa kuhusu kuwa ROMANTIC mwanaume kwa mwanamke
summary
being
ROMANTIC= ATTRACTION(AETHETICS+PHYSICAL) + ATTUNMENT Finally you will have EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
hapa ndo mtu unamfanya awe mtumwa kwakwo, kwasababu unachukua 60% ya furaha yake unaweza ku OFF na ku ON furaha yake, so atajiona bila wewe nothing can go on
hadi hapa sijaongelea mambo ya fedha! EMOTIONAL CONNECTION is more powerful than MONEY
2. CHEMICAL BOND/CONNECTION
Hapa ni tofauti kidogo na mwanzo kwamba ya kwanza unaweza ukawa mzuri lakini hii ukawa mbovu nah ii inanguvu zaidi ya kwanzaa, kwasababu hii inaoonglea hormones, ile ilikuwa inaongela EMOTIONS both negative and POSITIVE( yaani kuamsha HISIA JUU(positive emotions, na kushusha hisia CHINI(Negative emotion)) sasa huku ni mziki mwingine na huu hauitaji FEDHA
What is chemical bond in love??
Hapa unaungana na mwanamke kimuhemko(kihomoni zaidi) which homoni?? Sex hormones oky??? Kuna mnyama anitwa OXYTOCIN hormone, unamfahaamu?? Ulalapo na mwanamke ukamfuck hadi akafika kileleni, huwa kwenye ubongo kuna homoni hutolewa ambayo ni happy homoni inaitwa oxytocin hormone, hii ndio inamfanya mwanamke ajisikie furaha pale anapoorgasim.
Sasa kadri unavoweza kutrigeer hii homoni kwa mwanamke itolewa na ubongo mala nyingi, ndivyo unavyotengeza chemical bond nae, yaani hapa ndo unasikia mke wa waziri anatembea na fundi cherehani, kumbuka miili yetu inaongozwa na vichocheo ambavyo ni hormones so they are out of our control, kuwa na nyege is out of your contro it just happen, so hata uwe msomi wa level gani, ukiwa na kiu ya kutoa oxytocn lazima uitafute dawa popte pale panapowezekana, oky?
Na inasemakana OXYTOCIN ndio inayomuunganisha MAMA na MTOTO wake, yaani mototo akiwa mdogo amjue mama zaidi ya BABA, Aahaha!
Summary namba mbili
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION + CHEMICAL BOND = CRAZY BOND
Sasa hadi hapa sijaongelea mambo ya FEDHA sasa naenda kuongelea fedha katika mapenzi
Tunasema woman don’t LOVE MEN, they LOVE what WE provide to them what are those?
1.NEEDS
2.DESIRE
Haya needs namanisha mahitaji ya msingi kama chakula,nyumba, life expenses hapa ndo fedha inaangukia, sasa ili ufulfill hivyo inakubidi uwe na pesa tofauti na hapo unafeli.
Ila fedha kwenye BRAIN AFFECTION haina madhara sana so usichukulie kwamba ukiprovide needs to woman atakupenda daima , atakupa mapenzi daima hapana, kwasababu SEX is 90% more in brain than other areas.
Mbili DISIRE, hii teali nishaongelea, ni hamasa inayotokea ndani ya mwili wa mtu
DISIRE= EMOTION + CHEMICAL BOND,
Sasa nazani umeona nguvu ya FEDHA na ROMANTIC BEHAVIOR kwenye mapenzi
Ni mawazo yangu tu, nazani wanasaikolojia wataongezea?
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