Lizzy mtu aliyeacha mara ya kwanza ni mwepesi ku move on mahusiano yanayofata yakimboa tena, sababu aliweza tu kuthubutu kufanya kitu ambacho wengi wanashindwa kukifanya, then mtihani anakuwa amemaliza, hapo ndio nilimaanisha mimi,kuna wanaojifunza sana kutokana na makosa, but hata wakiacha au kuachwa maumivu si kama yale ya kwanza, wa kwanza ni wa kwanza tu
Dah Mbu... Maneno mazito sana
Lakini kama kawaida, sisi ni human beings and sometimes we got soo sunk into the swamp of love that deep inside you know that, it is slowly developing a monster or a hooligan in you.
And out of denials, you find yourself becoming mroe "creative" and finally meet the outside world in a very flashy and exciting manner... in the end rather than completeley remembering the primamry role in our love life, we forget all the good work we did and end up craving for more of the "fiesta" we enjoy outside there
There comes a time where you dont miss the one you love, you dont care, you cant even think of spending time together unless there is a social responisbility around you
Yet, the pain/struggle in understanding all these lead to a menace........... both ways
NOW MY DECISION IN THESE CIRCUMNSTANCES WOULD BE TO CALL QUIT... WOULD YOU HANDLE IT DIFFERENTLY?
I am not speaking from experience but the bad boy in me is strongly advising me to move on... and for now i dont have even 25% of reasons, but just my body and mind dont want to sweat anymore
MTM,
Because you know what the problem is, it is easy for you to adress it. Kweli kabisa mapenzi mara nyingi yakifika sehemu fulani tunayafanya yanakuwa kama mazoea and we tend to take for granted things that any wise person would never have done that!
hapana aisee ku move on mara nyingi mie nachukulia kama u selfishness fulani,ila wakati mwingine yatupasa hatuna budi, maji yamefika shingoni, some time tunasucrifice furaha kwa ajili ya tuwapendao nilisoma kuna mmber alisema huu msemo niliukubali sana,imagine unakuwa na raha wewe peke yako, watoto wako maybe wanne na mama yao wanasurfer maisha yao yote, then at the end of the day unajiuliza, hivi hii furaha nayotafuta ni ipi?Wait a minute BB
Hivi kuacha mara nyingi ndio kusema huna furaha?? sio kwamba you have more options and you are a happier person for moving on when you want?
Wakuu,
Many of us have at least once enjoyed the best out of love life... I have had my best moments as well!!
I am just wondering how can one prepare for a life after the person you have loved and enjoyed life with for 10+ years, have you ever imagined how it feels?
MTM
Well, kama ni wewe naamini solution iko karibu. Lakini kama ni mwenza wako, inabidi ujitahidi sana kuimprove communication ili kama ataona kuna sababu, azinduke usingizini. Mwisho wa siku mapenzi ya kweli yanahitaji wote wawili mshiriki haswaaa. Sio penzi la upande mmoja. Na cha kushangaza bwana, kila hatua tunayopiga we meet new people whom we think they could be the ones!mmmh! sasa tutakuwa tunabadili wapenzi kila asubuhi au ni tamaa zetu tu! Kama inashindikana kabisa nenda mdogo mdogo....naona watu wakizeeka kabisa, wakati viuongo vya mwikli vimeanza kusalimu amri na kutotoa usumbufu wa aina yoyote tena, huwa wawili hao wanapendana sana!! LOLAgreed mkuu, but what if one part does not take love for granted and the other do so???
please advice
Memories do not die. They just stay with you forever. Just live with them and cherish the good times.Issue hapa ni how to kill all the memories
Dah Mbu... Maneno mazito sana
Lakini kama kawaida, sisi ni human beings and sometimes we got soo sunk into the swamp of love that deep inside you know that, it is slowly developing a monster or a hooligan in you.
And out of denials, you find yourself becoming more "creative" and finally meet the outside world in a very flashy and exciting manner... in the end rather than completely remembering the primary role in our love life, we forget all the good work we did and end up craving for more of the "fiesta" we enjoy outside there
There comes a time where you dont miss the one you love, you dont care, you cant even think of spending time together unless there is a social responsibility around you
Yet, the pain/struggle in understanding all these lead to a menace........... both ways
NOW MY DECISION IN THESE CIRCUMSTANCES WOULD BE TO CALL QUIT... WOULD YOU HANDLE IT DIFFERENTLY?
I am not speaking from experience but the bad boy in me is strongly advising me to move on... and for now i dont have even 25% of reasons, but just my body and mind dont want to sweat anymore
MTM hiyo creativity unayojikuta unaifanya hata unakutana na outside world .............haiwezikuwa applied 'ndani' kusafeguard hizo 10 years za sweet love??
Frankly speaking sijaielewa (au nimegoma kuielewa) hii thread!! .......pengine nina matatizo kwenye medula yangu ambapo pia inawezekana ni kweli siko mzima maana kila nikijaribu kukumbuka japo miezi ya sweet love na Ex wangu naambulia 'blank screen' sasa sijui nilikuwa naforce, pretend au fake? kwa kweli sielewi au ndo kusema kitufe cha kumbukuza za good memories kimejam.......mwe!
Nope just learning... new baraza in MMU raising the bar on MMU issues as well
Nothing personal
Nakuelewa MTM wakati mwengine relationship iliyoanza vizuri na kukupa raha for a very long time inafikia mahalia ambapo ni irreconciliable (point of no return) eg mwenzio anatembea nje wazi wazi na anataka talaka au ulienda kusoma ukarudi ukakuta kazaa/kazalishwa nje. You are left with no choice that is just a point of no return.
Mkuu hapo kutakuwa na maumivu makubwa ya moyo-major, severe, long term heart ache. One of the best way to overcome and heal ni kutulia na kutafuta mpenzi mwengine atakaekupa mapenzi na upendo utakaoweza kukuponya (kama alivyosema Lizzy). True love and time will help to heal a broken heart. Japokuwa maumivu bado yatakuwepo kwa kiasi fulani na sometimes aibu fulani eg kama wife wako kazalishwa nje etc. Its complicated mkuu.
Kamanda... any form of creativity has its entry point,
you cant go to dinner while the restaurant is cloed or under rennovation
you start a story because you need to answer like ten questions about the end
And i dont want to believe that you have a blank screen on your back end... coz somehow i learnt (here-here) that there are a few memoirs
The biggest matter sweetheart ni ile fear of the unknown!!
Let me just put this signpost here a little.. LOLOkay nimekuelewa but shushhhhhh its not easy meen!!
About Blank screen...believe me its true and its only recently that I diiscovered that for all those thought-good memories, I was 'making them'
Used to take ile screen yenye chengachenga na kuita good memories but now the network iko clear ndo I am realizing that they were not 'real'. I just question my 'lucky' under this sun....mhmmm!!
Lizzy mtu aliyeacha mara ya kwanza ni mwepesi ku move on mahusiano yanayofata yakimboa tena, sababu aliweza tu kuthubutu kufanya kitu ambacho wengi wanashindwa kukifanya, then mtihani anakuwa amemaliza, hapo ndio nilimaanisha mimi,kuna wanaojifunza sana kutokana na makosa, but hata wakiacha au kuachwa maumivu si kama yale ya kwanza, wa kwanza ni wa kwanza tu
Dah Mbu... Maneno mazito sana
Lakini kama kawaida, sisi ni human beings and sometimes we got soo sunk into the swamp of love that deep inside you know that, it is slowly developing a monster or a hooligan in you.
And out of denials, you find yourself becoming mroe "creative" and finally meet the outside world in a very flashy and exciting manner... in the end rather than completeley remembering the primamry role in our love life, we forget all the good work we did and end up craving for more of the "fiesta" we enjoy outside there
There comes a time where you dont miss the one you love, you dont care, you cant even think of spending time together unless there is a social responisbility around you
Yet, the pain/struggle in understanding all these lead to a menace........... both ways
NOW MY DECISION IN THESE CIRCUMNSTANCES WOULD BE TO CALL QUIT... WOULD YOU HANDLE IT DIFFERENTLY?
I am not speaking from experience but the bad boy in me is strongly advising me to move on... and for now i dont have even 25% of reasons, but just my body and mind dont want to sweat anymore
mtm, ni jinsi ya kuzi accomodate hizo differences.The grass looks greener upande wa pili kumbe zimeficha nyoka! Be careful.Hapa sasa mbu umenichenga, you wish to persuade, and at the same time differences zingeendelea... what is that??? does it meaqn you wish for the differences to go on?
Mh...
Let me just put this signpost here a little.. LOL
......Frankly Speaking If this is a dream, I just Wanna keep on dreaming...I Do Love You...S.M.L 2011