MwanajamiiOne
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...dahhh, kaka ...si unaona hata hizo quote zenyewe zilikuwa 6:58am....au setting ya time yako inasomekaje? yangu GMT bana, ushauri umepokelewa, kwa waoow! noooooooo, really?....aaaaaahhhh, anyway! nyiiiingi!....sasa tusubiri matokeo tu...nitawapa feedback.
Mkuu sasa leo inabidi umwage lile darasa la hii ishu wewe unaichukuliaje kwa mtazamo wako? na dondoo za kale kakitabu, ingawa binafsi nitakatafuta japo online nikipata kamuda.
haina noma mkuu...
usiku mwema.
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Mbu..........................what is happening to you? Mbona huu wimbo kama una ujumbe mzito? Are you suffocationg in your relationship darling?? Unajiuliza mmeachana lini???? dah
Mkuu sasa leo inabidi umwage lile darasa la hii ishu wewe unaichukuliaje kwa mtazamo wako? na dondoo za kale kakitabu, ingawa binafsi nitakatafuta japo online nikipata kamuda.
1. Thinking about that time when things between you and your partner were at their best. Looking back, would you now say that things were really very good between you then?
2. Has there been more that one incident of physical violence in your relationship?
3. Have you already made a concrete commitment to pursue a course of action or lifestyle that definitely excludes your partner?
4. If God or some omniscient being said it was okay to leave, would you feel tremendously relieved and have a strong sense that finally you could end your relationship?
5. In spite of your problems, do you and your partner have even one positively pleasurable activity or interest (besides children) that you currently share and look forward to sharing in the future, something you do together that you both like and that gives both of you a feeling of closeness for awhile?
6. Would you say that to you, your partner is basically nice, reasonable intelligent, not too neurotic, okay to look at, and most of the time smells alright?
7. Does you partner bombard you with difficulties when you try to get even the littlest thing you want; and is it your experience that almost any need you have gets obliterated; and if you ever do get what you want, is getting it such and ordeal that you don't feel it was worth the effort?
8. Does it seem to you that your partner generally and consistently blocks your attempts to bring up topics or raise questions, particularly about things you care about?
9. Have you got to the point, when your partner says something, that you usually feel it's more likely that he's lying than that he's telling the truth?
10. In spite of admirable qualities, and stepping back from any temporary anger or disappointment, do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to like you?
11. Do you feel willing to give your partner more than you're giving already, and are you willing to do this the way things are between you now, without any expectation of being paid back?
12. Do both you and your partner want to touch each other and look forward to touching each other and make efforts to touch each other?
13. Do you feel a unique sexual attraction to your partner?
14. Does your partner neither see nor admit things you've tried to tell him/her to acknowledge that make your relationship too bad to stay in?
15. Is there something your partner does that makes your relationship too bad to stay in and that s/he acknowledges but that, for all intents and purposes, s/he's unwilling to do anything about?
16. This problem your partner has that makes you want to leave; have you tried to let it go, ignore it, stop letting it bother you? And were you successful?
17. As you think about your partner's problem that makes your relationship too bad to stay in, does s/he acknowledge it and is s/he willing to do something about it and is s/he able to change ?
18. Has your partner violated what for you is a bottom line?
* If my partner did……………………………………………………………………………..
…then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship
* If my partner didn't do……………………………………………………………………
…then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship
* If these things were true about my partner…………………………………
…then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship
20. Is there a clearly formulated, passionately held difference between you that has to do with the shape and texture and quality of your life as you actually experience it?
21. In spite of all the ways you're different, would you say that deep down or in some respect that's important to you, your partner is someone just like you in a way you feel good about?
LIST
* Things I look forward to in my new life when I think about leaving
* Things I'm afraid of in my new life that make me think about staying.
For each item on the list ask:
* Is this true?
* Is this likely?
then
* What else is possible?
* What's most likely?
22. With your new, more complete, more realistic set of information about what it would be like for you if you left, have you discovered new, more probable realities that now make leaving seem impossible, difficult or unpleasant?
23. With your new, more complete, more realistic set of information about what it would be like for you if you left, have you discovered new, more probable realities that now make leaving seem easier, more attractive and make staying no longer desirable?
24. Does your partner do such a good job of conveying the idea that you're a nut or a jerk or a loser or an idiot about parts of yourself that are important to you that you've started to really become demonstrably convinced of it yourself?
25. As you think about your partner's disrespect, is it clear to you that you do everything possible to limit your contact with your partner, except for times where you absolutely must interact?
26. Do you feel that your partner, overall and more often than not, shows concrete support for and genuine interest in the things you're trying to do that are important to you?
27. Whatever was done that caused hurt and betrayal, do you have a sense that the pain and damage has lessened with time?
28. Is there a demonstrated capacity and mechanism for genuine forgiveness in your relationship?
29. Is it likely that, if you have a reasonable need, you and your partner will be able to work out a way for you to get it met without too painful a struggle?
30. Is there some particular need that's so important to you that if you don't get it met, looking back you'll say your life wasn't satisfying, and are you starting to get discouraged about ever having it met?
31. Given the way your partner acts, does it feel as though in getting close to you what he's most interested in is subjecting you to his anger and criticism?
32. When the subject of intimacy comes up between you and your partner, is there generally a battle over what intimacy is and how to get it?
33. Does your relationship support your having fun together?
34. Do you currently share goals and dreams for your life together?
35. If all the problems in your relationship were magically solved today, would you still feel ambivalent about whether to stay or leave?
utapata tu ushauri
...dahhh, mwj1 mood yangu ya leo sio ya jana...enjoy mirindimo ya guitar bana, forget the lyrics...
mbu's a grown up now, hawezi ji suffocate kwenye mapenzi tena...yakimshinda atasema, so far all
is good, 'honeymoon' yenyewe hata miezi miwili bado haijesha...
...mkubwa,....a bird in hand worth two in a bush! ...amkamate aliyejaaliwa nae.
Waliotangulia walishashindana ndio maana wakaachana. Suala la wao kujirudisha sasa hivi ni kiashiria kwamba hawakutambua thamani ya walichokuwa nacho mpaka kilipowaponyoka...
excerpts za toka kitabuni, ni self evaluations if it's worth kuendelea na relationship, au to call it a quit!...mfano;
commercial.......break!
...am sorry, imekuwa ndefu kidogo but yanasomeka na kueleweka si ndio?
unaweza ku link hapo na majibu yangu, na msimamo wangu kuhusiana na 'misukule.'
Mkuu nimekusoma, na nakubaliana na jamaa kwenye hizo self evaluation, lakini hii kitu mapenzi wewe acha tu, samtaimu pahala panapotaka msimamo unakuta sisi tunakosa msimamo kwa kuzikisia feelings za wenza wetu. Hebu msikilize Kate Winslet hapa ujifunze kitu kutoka kwake pia.
Hapo red hapo mkuu!...naam, naam...
lyrics zimetulia maazee....ila ukweli unabakia siri sirini...
hata uwe muwazi vipi kwa mwenzio, huwezi jua siri iliyomo moyoni mwa mwenzako.
mpaka siku atayokutenda. Yaani haya mapenzi hata uyachungue vipi hutapata majibu aisee...
...ndio maana jana nikaweka ile video ya judy boucher,....imagine mdada anamwambia jamaa
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Kwa umri wetu (vizee) haishangazi sana, Inashangaza kuona dogodogo kama Lizzy anachimbua angle zote za mahusiano, unajua wewe heheh natafta kafree time tu na utulivu wa kutosha, sijamalizana na wewe bado lolNyie watu (Kloro&Mbu) nawapa likizo la hili somo la mapenzi maana mnachimbua mpaka basi weee!
Kwa umri wetu (vizee) haishangazi sana, Inashangaza kuona dogodogo kama Lizzy anachimbua angle zote za mahusiano, unajua wewe heheh natafta kafree time tu na utulivu wa kutosha, sijamalizana na wewe bado lol
heheeh hapo red hapo,Mhhh...tatizo mnatulazimisha na sie tuliojipumzisha tuchambue bana.Pumzikeni na sie tupumzike.
Hehehehe....nimeshaandaa utetezi...ni wewe tu.
heheeh hapo red hapo,
twenzetu basi tukajipumzishe, mi nilikuwa nakusubiri wewe tu tutoke, tumuache Mbu alinde sredi lol
Nyie watu (Kloro&Mbu) nawapa likizo la hili somo la mapenzi maana mnachimbua mpaka basi weee!Hehehehe....wewe bana...haya muage Mbu.
Heheheh sasa Mbu huu ni mtego mwingine. Huwezi kutega na kutegua kitendawili mwenyewe bwana....au ndio gia ya kutuweka hapa??
...hahahaha, haya kalaleni....mimi mpaka nitengue kitendawili hapa kwanini siku hizi kuna mapenzi ya mafungu(?)
yaani, mtu haridhiki na mtu mmoja?why? kwanini?...na mwingine anajikubalisha vipi kuwekwa standby!
klorokwini, akili yangu yote ilikuwa imarati...pheewww, tumetoka salama, heri tupu.
...hahahaha, haya kalaleni....mimi mpaka nitengue kitendawili hapa kwanini siku hizi kuna mapenzi ya mafungu(?)
yaani, mtu haridhiki na mtu mmoja?why? kwanini?...na mwingine anajikubalisha vipi kuwekwa standby!
klorokwini, akili yangu yote ilikuwa imarati...pheewww, tumetoka salama, heri tupu.
Heheheh sasa Mbu huu ni mtego mwingine. Huwezi kutega na kutegua kitendawili mwenyewe bwana....au ndio gia ya kutuweka hapa??
Watu wanapenda kwa wasiwasi siku hizi aisee....tena hiyo ni bahati.Wengi wanaingia kwenye mahusiano kibiashara zaidi ..mtu wa kumpendezesha....pesa..nyumba...gari....maisha mazuri...mtu wa kumridhisha kimwili and so on.Sasa ikiwa huyu wa maisha mazuri hatoshelezi kwingine ndo unakuta mtu anatafuta na mwingine ili huko nako mambo yaende. Yani wanaunganisha unganisha mpaka wapate kila kitu (source KLORO wa ukweli).
Heheheh na wanaokubali kuwekwa standby nao ndo hivyo hivyo ...MAHITAJI.
Kama anapata anachotaka basi mengine yote anayapotezea....alafu na yeye anatafuta mwingine wa kumpa hati miliki ya anayokosa alipowekwa standby.
Dah! hiyo buluu hiyo yaani leo tu kuna mkasa nimepatiwa uko exactly sawa na hivo mnavyoongea, ningekuwa sio ufinyu wa muda na michofu walahi ningeuweka wazi zaidi maana labda mngewasaidia pia hawa waathirika kupitia hii thread, yaani dume limemng'ang'ania mdada kwa kisa tu eti mahitaji yake yatasambaratika kwa jinsi walivyojijenga pamoja.
Tena nitataka ushauri wako with just two of us behind closed doors! kesho utapatikana muda gani?Khaaa...embu mwambie aache ujinga.
Kwani kabla yake ilikuaje hata aone hawezi kuendelea bila kua na dada beneti?
Tena nitataka ushauri wako with just two of us behind closed doors! kesho utapatikana muda gani?
hahaha muhimu umetoa time tu, hayo mengine yote yanatatulika loool.Hahahahah....we Kloro ushauri gani behind closed doors???
Tufanye kibarazani bana!!Ohh umm...10.00- 01.30 GMT+1.lolzz