"Msukule" wa Mapenzi...

[MwanajamiiOne]

Hata mimi nina ex ambaye haachi kunitoneshatonesha vidonda.............................kwa kudai bado ananiwazawaza.........................lakini mimi humpuulizia mbali........................mara nyingi tunahitaji vitu ambavyo hatuna siyo kwa sababu ni vizuri ila huwa msukumo wa tamaa tu............claiming that it is one more time of finger licking pleasure.............................what a lie..........

Pole Ruta hawa laiti wangekuwa wanajua kinachowazwa vichwani mwetu, sidhani kama wangethubutu kurudia.

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

Dahhh,...ungeniona nilivyokenua kwa jinsi ulivyonijibu vizuri!...In real life ukiwa unanijibu hivi potelea mbali niitwe msukule!

Hah wewe.....kumbe ipo ya kujitakia pia??

...nadhani hii pia inatokana na kasi ya maisha,...kwa sasa hatuna muda wa kukaa chini ya mwembe kusubiria dodo lianguke, au alfajr unaamkia chini ya miembe kutafuta yaliyoanguka usiku...Kizazi hiki ni cha kukimbilia Shoprite au Imalaseko kununua Mango juice ya Azam, tamu kuliko tunda lenyewe... yaani tunaishi maisha ya short cuts kibao,...na siku hazigandi vile vile...Tukubali mabadiliko. Zama za kuandikiana barua, niifukizie poda na marashi, kisha niitume kwa posta mpaka ikufikie wakati kuna emails/sms leo hii nitaonekana sijali muda.

Hizi theories, kusoma vitabu, au kubandika post JF upate msaada wa mawazo ni kiashiria kwamba hatuna muda wa kukaa na wazee wetu, mashangazi na wajomba kupata busara zao juu ya maisha kwa ujumla. Kama mnakumbuka ile Topik ya Wheel of Life?, kuna wengi waliipinga kwamba muda hautoshi kabisa. Twendeni na wakati kabla wakati haujatuacha tukabakia tunashangaa...

...Mzee DC bado anashangaa shangaa haya mambo tunayoongelea,....kwani kuzaa na mtu lazima muwe mlipendana nae kiviiile? Vile vile kuna zile One night stands ambazo mw'mke ana conceive kisha anachukulia mtoto kama bakora ya kukuchapia. Mwanaume unaishia kulambishwa kimtego mtego, ....mtoto hupewi, kwa mkeo hajulikani,....uhakika wa mtoto mwenyewe kama ni wako au sio wako hujui...ukijifanya kusahau unakumbushiwa...almuradi unachezeshwa makida-makida tu... mnh, maisha haya, misukule ipo ya aina nyingi!

..............Eh hapa umenisaidia kuelewa somo, si somo la mapenzi peke yake, bali hata maisha! Ni kweli Mzee DC anashindwa kuelewa maana kwenye ulimwengu huu wa mapenzi Mzee hiyi anautafsiri tofauti kabisa na vijana wengi wa dot.com........mimi nikitaka kuisoma post yake huwa naandaa kabisa na kikombe cha kahawa kwa sababu ukimaliza yaani unajikuta unatafakari na kutafakuri utafikiri kuli anapanga namna ya kuwahi mzigo kabla wenzakr hawajampiga bao. I learn a lot from him kwa kweli.

 

[Maty]

Hah wewe.....kumbe ipo ya kujitakia pia??



..............Eh hapa umenisaidia kuelewa somo, si somo la mapenzi peke yake, bali hata maisha! Ni kweli Mzee DC anashindwa kuelewa maana kwenye ulimwengu huu wa mapenzi Mzee hiyi anautafsiri tofauti kabisa na vijana wengi wa dot.com........mimi nikitaka kuisoma post yake huwa naandaa kabisa na kikombe cha kahawa kwa sababu ukimaliza yaani unajikuta unatafakari na kutafakuri utafikiri kuli anapanga namna ya kuwahi mzigo kabla wenzakr hawajampiga bao. I learn a lot from him kwa kweli.

mamito unajua wanaume ni wabishi kuamini kwamba kuna watu huwa wanaachana kimoja kwani ndio zao, anakuacha halafu anakurudia tena na inaonyesha wanawake wengi huwa hawakatai. Mi walahi nikishakuacha sirudi nyuma hata uje na gia gani huwa hatujiulizi tu kama ye anakutamani wengine hawakutamani mpaka urudie matapishi? Yaani natamani binti yangu aige mfano wangu

 

[Mbu]

...thread hii inamenikumbusha mbwa na ukali wake wote kwa chatu anaufyata mkia...anajipeleka akafanywe kitoweo!...

 

[Mr Rocky]

...thread hii inamenikumbusha mbwa na ukali wake wote kwa chatu anaufyata mkia...anajipeleka akafanywe kitoweo!...

Ndio hapo sasa ujue pamoja na ubabe wetu sisi wanauume linapokuja swala la mwanamke kutaka kukucontol ana kila sababu na nyenzo za kufanya hivyo na utajjikuta huna sauti wala hufurukuti mbele yake

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

Ndio hapo sasa ujue pamoja na ubabe wetu sisi wanauume linapokuja swala la mwanamke kutaka kukucontol ana kila sababu na nyenzo za kufanya hivyo na utajjikuta huna sauti wala hufurukuti mbele yake

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........klazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

 

[Mr Rocky]

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........klazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

Kaangalie upya ni wapi ulipojikwaa na wapi lulipopoteza hiyo nyenzo maalum ya kuwa mwanamke

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........klazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

Perhaps you need a private tutor to teach you how to use your feminine wiles to your advantage. I'm just playing....But on a serious note, I think it's different from person to person.

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........klazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

Kaangalie upya ni wapi ulipojikwaa na wapi lulipopoteza hiyo nyenzo maalum ya kuwa mwanamke

Haswaaa ndugu yangu maana nadhani ni nyenzo muhimu sana hiyo......nilikuwa wapi siku zote?! Maana nina uhakika nyenzo hii ni zaidi ya heshima, upole, upendo na ujuzi wa kupika- zile tunazofundishwaga tunapokuwa eti ukitaka mumeo atulie akusikilize basi mfanyie hayo. ....!!

Perhaps you need a private tutor to teach you how to use your feminine wiles to your advantage. I'm just playing....But on a serious note, I think it's different from person to person.

You do volunteer, dont you?

 

[Mr Rocky]

Haswaaa ndugu yangu maana nadhani ni nyenzo muhimu sana hiyo......nilikuwa wapi siku zote?! Maana nina uhakika nyenzo hii ni zaidi ya heshima, upole, upendo na ujuzi wa kupika- zile tunazofundishwaga tunapokuwa eti ukitaka mumeo atulie akusikilize basi mfanyie hayo. ....!!

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Mhhh hizo ni za kukufanya wewe uwe mtumwa na sio eti kumfanya mwanaume atulie au aishiwe mbinu
Duh mbona hizo hata house gal anaziweza tuu na unajua tena akizidisha mbinu hata wewe mwenye nyumba unapinduliwa
Angalia ni wapi ulipopoteza na kuishiwa mbinu

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

You are ready to volunteer, arent you?

Unfortunately, since I am a red blooded young stud straight from Ikungulyabashashi, I am not well versed in how a female can exploit her feminine wiles to get her what she wants when she wants it. Others, I believe, have more experience with that so I'd rather defer to them than act like I am mister know-it-all when I really don't know diddly-squat about it.

But on the flip side, I am enthusiastically ready and willing to be your life coach. Are you ready and willing for me to be your life coach? ( Please say yes)

 

[Mr Rocky]

Unfortunately, since I am a red blooded young stud straight from Ikungulyabashashi, I am not well versed in how a female can exploit her feminine wiles to get her what she wants when she wants it. Others, I believe, have more experience with that so I'd rather defer to them than act like I am mister know-it-all when I really don't know diddly-squat about it.

But on the flip side, I am enthusiastically ready and willing to be your life coach. Are you ready and willing for me to be your life coach? ( Please say yes)

NN what is your ultimate goal here

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

Unfortunately, since I am a red blooded young stud straight from Ikungulyabashashi, I am not well versed in how a female can exploit her feminine wiles to get her what she wants when she wants it. Others, I believe, have more experience with that so I'd rather defer to them than act like I am mister know-it-all when I really don't know diddly-squat about it.

But on the flip side, I am enthusiastically ready and willing to be your life coach. Are you ready and willing for me to be your life coach? ( Please say yes)

Mwe........mie na kidhungu changu cha Shule za Kata NN mpenzi nimetoka kapa hapa!! Sijui ndo umenitusi, shushua au kunisaidia!!

Aksante baba- obheja lohlo' Bhebhe anghu!!

 

[katelero]

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........klazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

mwanajamii one umenichekesha sana, hata mimi sijui wanafanyiwa nini mpaka wanakosa control

 

[Mbu]

Inabidi nikaukague upya uanamke wangu...........lazima ulichakachuliwa mahali. How comes sijafanikiwa!?

...aaahhh, sasa utaharibu. Be Yourself! ...ndio maana unapendeka na kuthaminiwa hivyo ulivyo.

mwanajamii one umenichekesha sana, hata mimi sijui wanafanyiwa nini mpaka wanakosa control

..Curiosity killed the Cat,...lol...

 

[Mr Rocky]

...aaahhh, sasa utaharibu. Be Yourself! ...ndio maana unapendeka na kuthaminiwa hivyo ulivyo.


Anataka na yeye atafute msukule wake ndo maana

 

[Mbu]

Haswaaa ndugu yangu maana nadhani ni nyenzo muhimu sana hiyo......nilikuwa wapi siku zote?! Maana nina uhakika nyenzo hii ni zaidi ya heshima, upole, upendo na ujuzi wa kupika- zile tunazofundishwaga tunapokuwa eti ukitaka mumeo atulie akusikilize basi mfanyie hayo. ....!!

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[Mbu]

Anataka na yeye atafute msukule wake ndo maana

...mbaya zaidi, wanawake wengi huharibikia hapo. Tabia za kujifunzia 'ukubwani'...eti ukitaka kumkomoa mumeo mfanyie A, B, C...No way, hawezi kupata msukule kwa tabia za kufundishwa...ataishia kujiliza yeye.

Mwj mamie,...waachie wenye 'taaluma' zao, wanaodhani kuchezea mioyo ya watu is a way of life.
Mara nyingi huishia na mwisho mbaya sana.

 

[Mr Rocky]

...mbaya zaidi, wanawake wengi huharibikia hapo. Tabia za kujifunzia 'ukubwani'...eti ukitaka kumkomoa mumeo mfanyie A, B, C...No way, hawezi kupata msukule kwa tabia za kufundishwa...ataishia kujiliza yeye.

Mwj mamie,...waachie wenye 'taaluma' zao, wanaodhani kuchezea mioyo ya watu is a way of life.
Mara nyingi huishia na mwisho mbaya sana.

Mwambie wazi ataishia kwa walimu vichwa maji wasioelewa mwanzo wala mwisho na then mwisho atalizwa yeye badaya ya kupata msukule atapatikana yeye. Watu wana professional zao sio za kufundishwa na wakizitumia hata kama ni act inakuwa real

 

[BAK]

...Emotional Roller Coaster,...are you enjoying the ride or suffering?

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2.) When your emotions go up and down like a rollercoaster. For example, you keep slipping in between happiness and sadness.

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...leo tujadiliane hii kitu emotional rollercoaster. Pale mwenza wako (Psychological Abuser) anavyoutumia udhaifu wako. "Sleeping with the Enemy" ni sinema mojawapo inayotoa mfano mzuri wa hili.

Ex-wako ana ku distract maishani mwako kwa simu, sms, email, unwelcomed visits, unexpected appearances, etc almuradi kila wakati ujiskie umo maishani mwake. Usimtoe mawazoni mwako.

Ex-wako ana ku distract na midnite calls akilia, au kalazwa, kapata ajali, kaingiliwa na majambazi, kasimamishwa kazi, almuradi he/she wants to keep you on your toes!...kwa wale wazazi, utasikia 'haraka njoo, mtoto anaumwa!'...ukifika unakuta mtoto anacheza...

Tujadiliane Ex- wife/husband/partner anapoendesha hisia zako atakavyo; -Swahili Slang- 'kuwekwa kidoleni,' 'kushikwa pembe,' 'kuwekwa mkononi,' etc na athari zake, kwa muda mfupi na muda mrefu.

....lets share the experiences za "Msukule wa Mapenzi"

Mkubwa, ahsante sana kwa thread nyingine nzuri sana. Inawezekana kabisa huyo X anautumia udhaifu wako ili umtimizie shida zake mbali mbali, lakini kuna wengine wana mioyo iliyojaa huruma hivyo wanaweza kabisa kuwa wanasaidia katika matatizo mbali mbali ya huyo X kwa kutotaka tu kumuona X anaishi maisha ya dhiki au anapata matatizo ya aina yoyote ile. Pale wanapokuwa na uwezo wa kusaidia basi watasaidia kwa moyo mkunjufu kabisa bila kulalama kwa yeyote yule.

Tukumbuke pia kuna X wengine pamoja na kuwa mlishindana na hivyo uhusiano kufikia tamati lakini inakuwa vigumu sana kuwatoa mawazoni. Hivyo hawa kuna baadhi kwa kufahamu hilo wanaweza kabisa kutumia hali hii katika kupata msaada wa kila hali na wakati mwingine kwa kudhani kwamba labda kibao kikageuka na kujaribu tena kuwa katika mahusiano.

Kwa maoni yangu inapofikia X kuanza kudanganya kwa mfano "mtoto anaumwa" halafu unaenda kumuona mtoto na kukuta haumwi bali huyo X kukwambia "nilitaka kukuona tu" basi huo ni mwenendo mbaya sana ambao unaweza kabisa kuongeza uhasama uliokuwepo na hata siku nyingine inapotokea mtoto anaumwa kweli basi muhusika asiende kwa kudhani kwamba labda ndio yale yale ya "nilitaka kukuona tu" kumbe kweli mtoto yuko hoi bin taaban.

X wengine hawana hata adabu na heshima pale wanapoambiwa na waliowahi kuwa nao katika mahusiano kwamba nimeoa/nimeolewa lakini hawaelewi kabisa hutaka kuendelea kuwa na mawasiliano ya karibu mno (ya simu, emails, IM, sms n.k.) na hata kuomba misaada mbali mbali ikiwemo ushauri kuhusiana na maisha. Hali kama hii ikiachwa iendelee inaweza kabisa kuvuruga ndoa ya kuhusika iwapo mwenzie atafahamu kuhusu haya mawasiliano ya siri yanayofanyika nyuma ya mgongo wake.

Hali hii ipo sana kinachotakiwa ni kuwa na msimamo wa hali ya juu lakini kama utaruhusu hali hii ya X kutumia udhaifu wako ili tu aendelee kuwemo katika maisha yako ya kila siku au "mawazoni mwako" basi unaweza kabisa kuja kujuta siku za usoni.

NB: Ile avatar nyingine ni aje Mkuu? 🙂