Ni ushauri tu: You can either take it or leave it

Michelle said:

Nawe niku-bribe jamani?? sa nitaku-bribe nini? utakuwa unam-bribe kaka yako as ndo mwenye vyote nilivyo navyo.....kesi ya nini kaka yangu TF???:coffee:

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Kwanza how are things going between you and my brother

Michelle said:

Walikutuza mtoto wa watu,mambo yale hukuzoea...naomba niishie hapo???? vipi uliweza weka vidole juu???kama nakuona walahiii!!!

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Nilikuwa nashangaa tu laiti ungeniona ungejua tu huyu sio viwanja vyake either amekuja kwa kulazimishwa kuna vituko kule acha tu nafikiri unavifahamu nikianza kuvizungumzia hapa ni soo

The Finest said:

Kwanza how are things going between you and my brother

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Vere vere well,kikao kimeenda vizuri,tumefikia sehemu ya kugawana mali....ndo tukirudi after break tunapanga nani achukue kipi!!!!:coffee:

The Finest said:

Nilikuwa nashangaa tu laiti ungeniona ungejua tu huyu sio viwanja vyake either amekuja kwa kulazimishwa kuna vituko kule acha tu nafikiri unavifahamu nikianza kuvizungumzia hapa ni soo

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Taarab mi penda na huenda,na waga nafurahia sana....vituko vipo vingi sana ila kusema ukweli yahitaji ujilipue kidogo ndo uende..ukienda na fahamu na reasoning yako....utashangaa sana na hata kuzimia....kuona jinsia yako waki........duh,waweza ua mtu....na ulivyo mzuri....mh

Michelle said:

Vere vere well,kikao kimeenda vizuri,tumefikia sehemu ya kugawana mali....ndo tukirudi after break tunapanga nani achukue kipi!!!!:coffee:

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:scared::scared::scared::A S-confused1::A S-confused1::A S-confused1::faint::faint::hail::hail::hail:😛ray2:😛ray2:😛ray2:

Michelle said:

Taarab mi penda na huenda,na waga nafurahia sana....vituko vipo vingi sana ila kusema ukweli yahitaji ujilipue kidogo ndo uende..ukienda na fahamu na reasoning yako....utashangaa sana na hata kuzimia....kuona jinsia yako waki........duh,waweza ua mtu....na ulivyo mzuri....mh

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Acha tu mimi huwa sio viwanja vyangu kabisa hivyo siku nilichoka hata saa nzima sikumaliza nilitoka ndukii

Teh teh! Mkuu naona umegusa wadau kwa kiac kikubwa sana. Ni suala la kuvumiliana pande zote. Sisi ni binadamu na hatujakamilika. Kwenye mapungufu tusameheane,kwenye furaha tupongezane na kupeana moyo. Hivyo ndivyo maisha yanavyoenda.

The Finest said:

Where have you been hiding unapotea sana

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Mi nipo tu my dia,ila things get piled up at times plus the power cuts,just thank God we are breathing lol!

The Finest said:

:scared::scared::scared::A S-confused1::A S-confused1::A S-confused1::faint::faint::hail::hail::hail:😛ray2:😛ray2:😛ray2:

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ndo maisha wangu....roho inauma lakini inabidi.....:laugh::laugh:

The Finest .........Hongera sana this is the Post that opens year 2011..............I salute

In addition to what you have said, inategemea na situations but know that UVUMILIVU wa kila kitu una ukomo and that some people ni masadist ambao hupenda kuumiza wenzi wao na kuwaona wanavyowanyenyekea kiuoga.so kwa mtu kama huyo it will take ages to see the fruits of your Uvumilivu.

Cha msingi know your limits......unavumilia mpaka wapi. Uspokuwa na limits ina maana mwezio kama ni sadist atatake advantage. Mjuishe your limits kuwa kuna vitu na vitu unavyoweza kuvumilia but certainly some things you cant..............am just thinking wakati wa UBoyfriend na Girlfriend Boyfriend au Girlfriend anakuwa anakuwasha vibao kila mkikorofishana nawe unavumilia ina maana hata mkioana then atachukulia kuwa ile ni kawaida.......you have to show him/her your limits ambazo you cant tolerate...........

But all in all you are very RIGHT

MwanajamiiOne said:

The Finest .........Hongera sana this is the Post that opens year 2011..............I salute

In addition to what you have said, inategemea na situations but know that UVUMILIVU wa kila kitu una ukomo and that some people ni masadist ambao hupenda kuumiza wenzi wao na kuwaona wanavyowanyenyekea kiuoga.so kwa mtu kama huyo it will take ages to see the fruits of your Uvumilivu.

Cha msingi know your limits......unavumilia mpaka wapi. Uspokuwa na limits ina maana mwezio kama ni sadist atatake advantage. Mjuishe your limits kuwa kuna vitu na vitu unavyoweza kuvumilia but certainly some things you cant..............am just thinking wakati wa UBoyfriend na Girlfriend Boyfriend au Girlfriend anakuwa anakuwasha vibao kila mkikorofishana nawe unavumilia ina maana hata mkioana then atachukulia kuwa ile ni kawaida.......you have to show him/her your limits ambazo you cant tolerate...........

But all in all you are very RIGHT

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Mjukuu nashukuru kwa ushauri wako uliojaa hekima na busara nyingi ni kweli uvumilivu una kikomo chake kuna vitu havivumiliki kabisa

MwanajamiiOne said:

The Finest .........Hongera sana this is the Post that opens year 2011..............I salute

In addition to what you have said, inategemea na situations but know that UVUMILIVU wa kila kitu una ukomo and that some people ni masadist ambao hupenda kuumiza wenzi wao na kuwaona wanavyowanyenyekea kiuoga.so kwa mtu kama huyo it will take ages to see the fruits of your Uvumilivu.

Cha msingi know your limits......unavumilia mpaka wapi. Uspokuwa na limits ina maana mwezio kama ni sadist atatake advantage. Mjuishe your limits kuwa kuna vitu na vitu unavyoweza kuvumilia but certainly some things you cant..............am just thinking wakati wa UBoyfriend na Girlfriend Boyfriend au Girlfriend anakuwa anakuwasha vibao kila mkikorofishana nawe unavumilia ina maana hata mkioana then atachukulia kuwa ile ni kawaida.......you have to show him/her your limits ambazo you cant tolerate...........

But all in all you are very RIGHT

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mmmmhhhh....
Hivi hao watu waliumbwa hivo au ni kutokana na malezi?????
Do you think kwa kuwa ni ma sadists basi wanakusudia kuwaumiza wapenzi wao?????

Mimi kabla sijawa na mpenzi (for a veeeeery looong tym, maana sikutaka hii mikikimikiki) nilikua very up to the point, straight forward, no uvumilivu, "you pay for your actions"...mmmhhh kumbe nilikua sijapenda bwana.

Nimekuwa na huyu mpenzi mmoja kwakweli wakati naingia kwenye mapenzi nilisema I need a man, if God wishes let this one b the only man in my life, so sikuwa na lengo la "nakuja leo, ukinizingua kidogo tu naondoka kesho", hii imenisaidia sana, sometimes tunagombana mpaka natetemeka, nasema kesho nikiamka AM SO DONE WITH THIS CRAP, ila nikimpigia, au tukikutana, tukianza kuongea na kujadili we always, always reach to a suluhisho, hii ni kwa sababu wote wawili tuna lengo moja, just as The Finest said, we fight for what we have, lakini hio haimaanishi kwamba hatugombani...sasa utakuta mmoja yuko willing kuvuka milima na mabonde, ila mwenzie daaaah anajiona kama dhahabu, yani yeye ana mentality ya "sema su, am gone" that can never work.

COMMUNICATION Na kumuelewa mtu is the key, ni lazima mjuane, sio wananaume/wanawake wote wanaability za ku communicate, jee can you see beyond his/her communication? maana mi wakwangu ni mkimya au mzito kiasi flani kuongea, thats not an excuse but its a fact, kama nampenda siwezi siwezi kumsulubisha kwa sababu ya alivoumbwa, I have to take that into consideration, ila sasa na yeye upande wake ananielewa kuwa mi mpenziwe ni maneno mengi, so he sees past that................. it takes two to tangle......

Kufanya kosa bila kukusudia sio tatizo shida ni pale kosa linapojirudia rudia!!hapo ndipo mwenzio anapopata impresion kuwa hujali feelings zake, how come every now and then u do the same shit and u run to seek for an apology? kwenye mapenzi unapoomba msamaha mwenzio anaamini umetambua kosa ulilofanya, unajutia na unaadhimia kutorudia tena ili kudumisha mapenzi yenu.Inapotekea tena in no time the same shit happens ni ngumu kwa miasha ya kibinadamu mtu kuelewa eti hilo kosa halikukusudiwa!Ni rahisi kwa mwenza kufikiria ur taking advantage of her/his feeling na akaamua kugive-up

The finest this is vere vere useful post of the year 2011 dah! Yaani mi nilikua nashangaaga 2 m2 anaonekana anakupenda lakini ana mauzi ucpime. Thanks dearest 2tajitahid kuvumilia na pia 2kichukua na ushauri wa MJ1 hapo juu kwamba uvumilivu una kipimo

MwanajamiiOne said:

The Finest .........Hongera sana this is the Post that opens year 2011..............I salute

In addition to what you have said, inategemea na situations but know that UVUMILIVU wa kila kitu una ukomo and that some people ni masadist ambao hupenda kuumiza wenzi wao na kuwaona wanavyowanyenyekea kiuoga.so kwa mtu kama huyo it will take ages to see the fruits of your Uvumilivu.

Cha msingi know your limits......unavumilia mpaka wapi. Uspokuwa na limits ina maana mwezio kama ni sadist atatake advantage. Mjuishe your limits kuwa kuna vitu na vitu unavyoweza kuvumilia but certainly some things you cant..............am just thinking wakati wa UBoyfriend na Girlfriend Boyfriend au Girlfriend anakuwa anakuwasha vibao kila mkikorofishana nawe unavumilia ina maana hata mkioana then atachukulia kuwa ile ni kawaida.......you have to show him/her your limits ambazo you cant tolerate...........

But all in all you are very RIGHT

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very well said mjukuu mtiifu. Nimeipenda hii

leney said:

mmmmhhhh....
Hivi hao watu waliumbwa hivo au ni kutokana na malezi?????
Do you think kwa kuwa ni ma sadists basi wanakusudia kuwaumiza wapenzi wao?????

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Leney....frankly speaking I dont know if ni malezi au wamezaliwa hivyo........and mind you sadist people si lazima waexpress usadist wao katika mapenzi tu kuna wengine huwa wana hiyo passion yaani akiamua kutokupenda kukuona wewe unafaidi au unafurahia maisha basi kama anayo nafasi atamake sure unasuffer.....whether kimapenzi au lah.........They just love to see other people suffers.

By the way...........Jamani mie mwoga huku maeneo ya Mlimani City nimesikia vitu kama Fataki (Au bunduki!!) Naomba kujua leo Mlimani City kuna sherehe yeyote???

The Finest said:

Wakati mwingine mtu anaweza kufanya mambo ya kukuumiza moyo na sio kwamba anafanya makusudi bali ni kujisahau kutokana na mapungufu yake ya kibinadamu

Unajua katika mapenzi unaweza ukaishi na mtu akakupa tabu sana,ila uvumilivu ni kitu cha busara,kwani inawezekana akakusumbua sana,akukera kutokana na mapungufu yake ya kibinadamu lakini bado unahitaji kuendelea kuwa naye maana licha ya kukukera ,ila anakupenda kwa dhati. kumbuka kuwa uvumilivu ni nguzo ya pekee ili tuweze kufika mbali katika mahusiano ukizingatia kwamba hakuna marefu yasiyo na ncha.

Tusiachane jamani embu fikiria utaacha au kuachwa na wangapi kama ukiwa si mvumilivu,wakati mwingine mtu anaweza akakukera lakini hakukusudia bado anahitaji uwepo wako hivyo ni muhimu kumsaidia kutokana na matatizo aliyonayo huenda kuna siku ataelewa vipi aishi na mwenzie,ingawa inawezekana ikachukua muda mrefu hasa kama atakuwa hapendi kufanyia kazi ushauri wa mwenzake.

UVUMILIVU NI WA MUHIMU KWANI VINGINEVYO HATUTAFIKA NA PIA NI MUHIMU KUYAGUNDUA MAPUNGUFU ULIYONAYO ILI UJIREKEBISHE.

Ni hayo tu.

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zimwi likujuawalo halikuli likakwisha!!!

MwanajamiiOne said:

Leney....frankly speaking I dont know if ni malezi au wamezaliwa hivyo........and mind you sadist people si lazima waexpress usadist wao katika mapenzi tu kuna wengine huwa wana hiyo passion yaani akiamua kutokupenda kukuona wewe unafaidi au unafurahia maisha basi kama anayo nafasi atamake sure unasuffer.....whether kimapenzi au lah.........They just love to see other people suffers.

By the way...........Jamani mie mwoga huku maeneo ya Mlimani City nimesikia vitu kama Fataki (Au bunduki!!) Naomba kujua leo Mlimani City kuna sherehe yeyote???

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mmmhhh huwezi amini mi nilivosoma sadist, basi nikaweka maana yangu tofauti...yaani kama mtu mnyonge flani anaehitaji msaada, basi ulivoreply hii post nikaenda kuangalia the true meaning of a sadist...

Someone who obtains pleasure from inflicting pain on others

ur right my d, kama ndo maana yake mi hata hawa sikubaliani nao kabisa.... na hawa watu kuwajua ni rahisi sana.... they cant handle things not going their way........

About milmani city sina taarifa bado ngoja tusubiri wadau watujuze.....

Trustme said:

La muhimu ni kujua kwamba hajakusudia, sasa hapo ndo pagumu! Anakurera kila baada ya cku moja, ila hajakusudia! Hivi ndo nini hicho? Utajuaje? Unamsaheme then anarudia, kafanya mazoea ila hajakusudia!!!! That's very fun ! When it reaches the point of no return, na yeye unamwadabisha hata kama hajakusudia.

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Mi hata sielewagi hapo?!