BPM
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- Mar 10, 2011
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maana si kila muda unatakiwa uongee na mmeo masuala ya maisha na ndoa panga muda maalumu wa kuongea nae
kaa chini uzungumze na mumeo hamna kinachoshindikana chini ya jua usije ukasiliza maneno ya watu sio wote wanaokupenda jaribu kumshirikisha na Mungu
Just to recap;
Ndeonasiae
- He abuses you, verbally, emotionally and even physicially
- Hajatulia na Sio muaminifu, to the extent that wewe mwenyewe umeshamfumania more that once
- He does not provide for the family, nor is he a hard worker. Anakopa, anaspend na wewe ndiye mlipaji?
Maybe I should begin by asking you what exactly does marriage mean to you? Is it something to be tolerated, enjoyed or what? Anyhow I think you should ask for a separation, legal and physical . Have him use this time apart to prove to you, and the family( ie your kids)that he has changed and the so professed changes are sustainable. Achana na misamaha hii na machozi ya mamba , maana if ingekuwa sincere you wouldnt be where you at now! Im sorry to say this but he sounds toxic!. He goes out, messes up and the guilts you into accepting him back, which you do, but a little while later goes out and does the same thing, like a never ending cycle!
is ur first language english????????
it does sound like that.....
is ur first language english????????
it does sound like that.....
The Boss
Yeah right:smiling:!!!!.....................Hamna mwaya, Ila ni kuwa I type faster and more accurately in english. My job consists of a lot of typing kwa kidhungu!
me sikushauri uachane naye since mna watoto na wanamhitaji baba yao. bali unahitaji umwonyeshe kwamba u can survive bila yeye. yaani anza kumfungia pazia. ignore kila anachofanya, ishi hapo ndani kama vile yeye hayupo but at the same time mpe respect. usihoji kuingia wala kutoka kwake. piga pamba kali, kula vizuri always tabasamu. akileta biashara za kujaribu kukupiga mpeleke kwenye vyombo vya dola.
Sijui nianzie wapi?? naandika kwa masikitiko makubwa, miaka 7 iliyopita niliolewa na mwenzangu ambaye nilimpenda baada ya urafiki wa miaka kama 5 japo baadhi ya ndugu zangu hawakupenda niolewe nae coz hana kazi na wala hakusoma aliishia std7 na mimi ni graduate, hakuwa mtu wa kujishughulisha na biashara wala kuajiriwa bali mishen town tu, ila mimi nilimsaidia kamtaji sababu nilimpenda sikusikia wala kuona.
Mwenzangu huyu kiukweli kuna watu walikuwa wanasema hajatulia ila binafsi kwa upofu wa mapenzi sikulijali hili, lakini tatizo la shughuli kutokuwa na shughuli maalumu nililiona lakini mwenzangu alisisitiza kuwa hawezi kusoma labda biashara japo hakuonyesha juhudi niliamini angebadilika maisha yakaendelea. mie ni muajiriwa nakipato cha kuweza kuitimizia familia hata peke yangu. Niliingia kwenye ndoa nikiamini akiwa mume na baba angebadilika
Tumeingia kwenye ndoa ndio naanza kuona matatizo mengi hap tuna watoto wawili, si muaminifu kwa pesa za watu wala zangu akiazima basi inabidi nilipe kufunika aibu, ni muongo mara nyingi ni uongo usio na sababu sijui ninini?? yote tisa kumi kesi za wanawake ni kibao na ameshaattempt kuoa mara mbili yeye nikazikamata kwenye mtandao, anakaogonjwa na wanawake wazuri na weupe (hata mimi ni mweupe na mzuri lol) so kila nikimkamata ni ugomvi tu na mwisho anaomba mara msamaha lakini anarudia tena. Biashara nilimuanzishia japo biashara yenyewe alikuja kushindwa akafanya eneo la biashara ndio kituo cha kukutana na wanawake wake mpaka nikawa naogopa kupita hiyo mitaa.
Mbali na yote haya jamaa ni abuser, physically, verbally, and emotionally,, huwa napigwa mie nikijaribu kuargue kuhusu tabia yake au mambo ya ndani, pia ananihisi hisi na anapenda kunicontrol kama mtoto. kuna events nyingi sana nikiandika nitawachosha
Sasa wandugu imefikia kipindi mimi mapenzi yameisha na tunawatoto 2, tumejenga (90% ni mchango wangu), gari (90% mchango wangu) na kulisha familia 90% ni mimi, mapenzi yameisha kabisa sio mchezo sidhani kama yatarudi na ninataka kuachana naye, ndoa tulifunga kanisani, nimejaribu kumwambia nataka tutengane kwa muda analia anaomba nafasi ya mwisho anadia ananipenda na anawapenda watoto wake hawezi kuishi mbali nao ila mimi nahisi anaogopa ukali wa maisha na sio mapenzi kwangu, japo wanae kweli anawapenda sana. Natamani nisiondoke lakini ninavyomjua huwa anaomba msamaha zikipita wiki mbili mwezi vituko vinarudi pale pale so naogopa na umri unakimbia natakiwa niwe na misimamo mapema kwani naona hata kwa malezi ya watoto si vizuri kuwa na baba mwenye sifa ya uongo na utapeli mtaani au watu wanakuja hapo kudai watoto wataadapt hizo tabia. naomba nikiri udhaifu wangu katika kupenda naomba msinirushie sana mawe kwa hilo kwa nimeshajua wapi niliteleza.
Naombeni ushauri utakaonisaidia mimi na watoto wangu, based on your experiences maana naogopa hata kuwaambia ndugu zangu kwani watanichua haraka, wameshajitolea hadi nyumba ya mimi kuishi na wanangu, na vikao vimeshakaliwa vingi na kila siku wananiambia niachane nae lakini mimi nilikuwa kichwa hakijakaa vizuri bado, yani siamini kama nitaishi hivi maisha yangu bila mume coz sipendi wala sifurahishwi na
maisha ya kuwa single parent at my age of 32, na hili ndio linanifanya nifikirie sana kuhusu maamuzi yangu.
pole sana dada kwa uvumilivu wa kipindi kirefu huwa siku zote dalili ya mvua ni mawingu but huwa wanawake tunapenda sana kujipa mahope ya uwongo ooh mume wangu atabadilika , hata kabla msichana hajaolewa na anajua huyo mwanaume wake ni kimeo eti anakwambia atabadilika kakudanganya nani samaki hukunjwa angali mbichi wanaume wengi ni ngumu sana kubadilika huwa wanaprittend tu .nisiuze sana chai kazi ni moja una kazi nzuri huyo ndo mume wako wa kwanza (swtheart NO 1)sasa achana naye ameshakutia mikosi huyo lea watoto wako kaa karibu na familia yako coz ndo watu wanaojua thamani yako ndio maana hata wanakuonea huruma NA WANATAKA UTOKE HUKO na degree yako yote unambwelabwela tu tena WACHA USHAMBA TUPA KULE utaenjoy kishenzi no stress watoto ndo faraja yako thus all ,however 32 bado mrembo kabisa hachana na hilo kurundungu lililobebwa likashidwa kushikilia hata mabega. shwaaaaaani zakee