so what do you suggest i should do?
Daughter,
ON ONE HAND
I don't how long you have been in relationships, but relationships can sometimes be something of a challenge. If you've been dating ma man for awhile and you've fallen into a predictable routine you may start to feel as though you are being taken advantage of. Many women feel this when they realize that their once attentive man, now rarely calls them anymore. This is normal.
Men aren't always easy to figure out. Women always want to stay in close contact with their men. This means that women enjoy hearing from their me via the phone, text messages, etc. Of course, it can be disheartening and disappointing when a man says he'll be in touch and then he isn't. If your man doesn't call when he says he will, there are a few things you can do that will encourage him to become more communicative. None of these are pretence.
The worst possible thing you can do when your man doesn't call when he says he will, is to point it out over and over. If a woman repeatedly points out to a man that he failed to do what he said he will, he'll begin to feel like a failure. Men don't want to be viewed that way by the women they love. If you've mentioned it once, and he still isn't finding the time to call you when he says he will, you need to take on a new approach.
The best thing you can do if your man doesn't call when he says he will is to not call him. This means not calling him at all the day he said he'd call. If you still haven't heard from him, don't call him the next day either. You are going to be tempted to pick up the phone and dial or text to ensure he's okay, but he is.
Once the man in your life realizes that it's been some time since he heard from you, he'll call. The way you greet him when he does call is incredibly important as well. If you start asking him questions about where he's been and why calling you isn't at the forefront of his mind, he's going to think twice before calling you next time. Instead, be friendly and when he tells you he's been busy say that you've got a lot going on as well. You want him to feel that you weren't sitting by the phone waiting for his call, text, even if you were. Never let him know that.
If you don't call, and he's seriously interested in you, he will call if he really loves you. All you need is a little willpower to not call him yourself and some patience. If your boyfriend doesn't call when he says he will, don't be the one to make first contact. You'll be glad you didn't, when he calls wondering why you haven't tracked him down yourself.
You need to always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails and text in very different ways. If you make the mistake of calling too frequently, at the wrong time or before he's ready to hear from you, you can actually turn him off. Women unwittingly ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too over eager to hear from him. Don't let this happen to you.
You may think that there's no consequence when you pick up the phone to call or text the man in your life, but there is. Men pay close attention to when women call them and they'll make assumptions about you based on that. Learn when the perfect time to call him is so that he'll find you irresistible.
ON THE OTHER HAND
If he doesn't call you as often as he used to do, he probably have lost interest in you. It happens all the time. May be there is another woman he is thinking about. Crush is a crush it takes over your mind is blinds you, you become in your own little world and nothing else much matters (crush and love). Perhaps he has a crush on some woman and living in his own little world?
May be he lost interest and doesn't want to hurt you? Right away you may need to call him and tell him EXACTLY how you feel, ask him: listen why haven't you been calling me? No excuses! Tell me! If you don't think it's going to work tell me right away I don't want to waste my time! Have you been busy? Are you mad at me? Talk to him tell me everything don't hide anything, if he still likes you these kinds of things will only make your relationship develop further and better, and of course healthier.
MY SUGGESTION
Don't panic. If he is not calling, there are always reasons behind it but none that an overactive your imagination of thinking. Unless both of you agree to an open relationship, chances are he is not cheating on you or is trying to find the next woman to be in a relationship with.
Remember there was a life before you.
The chances of having a new wonam being the cause of his silence could be minimal. There are many reasons why men don't call their girlfriends, but simply moving on to a new relationship isn't one of them. Put your mind to rest and stop thinking of the worst case scenarios.
Take his number off speed dial and go out and have fun. Enjoy life as you once did. Do you have friends? Go out with your friends. If you don't have friends, there are plenty here at JF.
If he fully expects you to come searching for him, and you don't, he'll immediately wonder what you're thinking. It's also imperative that you don't answer the minute he does call you. Let him be the one who has to leave a voice mail and take a bit to return the call or his text. When you do finally speak with him, don't drill him about where he's been or why he hasn't called. If he apologizes for not being in touch and tells you the age old excuse that he's been busy with work, tell him it's no problem. Briefly explain that you've been swamped too. End the call quickly and tell him you'll talk soon.
Men are players. You need to be a player too.
That is my suggestion.
