Am not materialistic but I still can't keep a man

[gwijimimi]

Well, i figure if she ain't about a man's figures, it's b'cuz she can handle her own damages.

Wish cud offer u some whisky for this,

 

[Kigundu]

Good evening,

Am in my late 20s about completing my MMED. Ever since I got out of my first relationship with my first and d only man I have ever loved I have not been able to keep other men coming my way.

Am not really a bad person, am not even materialistic because even as an undergraduate I was working. No man I have ever dated that doesn ’ t not wish to settle down with me but one thing will lead to another and there will be change in plan.

In fact am losing hope of ever getting married may be I should just get pregnant for my first love and be a single mother. Right now am single and I have been for more than a year. Please do u have any advice for me?

Thanks

For advice call me 0767840793

 

[Roger Sterling]

Wish cud offer u some whisky for this,

Haha. 'ppreciate it, man. Cheers!

 

[asakuta same]

Pole sana!

 

[housegirl]

Excuse me mama,do u even knw how much u have disrespected women whow are married to/dating Tanzanian men??
This kasumba of"tanzanian men type" ni ushamba wenu tu do u think wazungu they do not fu.cking care about altitudes??
The ego u have is the very same problem she has
U think u r too classy for tanzanian men but the funny thing is "sitashangaa ukiwa umeolewa with the same type,tanzanian man"
Wote walioolewa na wanaodate na watanzania ni Wajinga but U?too stupid kwakweli

EXCUSE ME YOU MINDLESS FOOL, THE ONLY STUPID ONE HERE IS YOU AND WHO EVER BROUGHT YOU UP.

Some people in the thread think OP has the "attitude" and almost everyone agrees that Tz men want submissive women HENCE she should change if she is to keep a Tz man.

If being submissive is "an insult" then you and I are apparently on the same team.

Hayo mambo ya classy umeyaongea wewe. people will be with whom they want and your opinion matters the LEAST.

My love life is non of your business and am not and will never be married to a Tz man. Deal with it.

 

[stephot]

What about your attitides ..yo might not be materialistically but may be yo too much complaining or having some characteristics which push them away

Well said.

 

[housegirl]

Sijakuelewa hapa my dear fafanua zaidi

Wanaume wengi tunapenda kunyenyekewa, yaani binti ajishushe ili tu aonekane yuko chini yetu hata kama anakuzidi kila kitu sasa ukimpata anayejielewa huu ujinga hafanyi yaani akutii tu hata kama maamuzi yako ya ovyo si ndo kukuabudu huko awe ndiyo mzee.
.

That is what I mean. In the typical Tanzanian household like the one I was raised in, a woman has no say. Yani baba akiongea, watoto na mama mnansikiliza na kumuitikia.

I CANNOT be in such a relationship. Kama huwezi kuniona kama mtu mzima nwenzako mwenye haki, uhuru na uwezo wa kufanya maamuzi hatuhutaji kuwa wote.

You are NOT above me in any way, shape or form. There are differences btn the sexes but they are not in any way measures of superiority or inferiority.

(DO NOT show such an attitude to a Tz man or you wont keep him. lol)

 

[housegirl]

HAHAHa wewe dada pole ila bado mdogo sana, jifunze ku date wanaume ni mafala sana ukijishusha.

namwambiaga mama yangu mimi kuolewa na mwanamume kama baba siwezi. sitaki kuishi maisha ulioishi.

anasema "we hujui kula na vipofu". hahaaaa.

kwahiyo wanaume hawa ni kuwaTreat kama watoto!! mimi naona ni dharau kubwa zaidi.

 

[chuma cha reli]

This is the new disease for young people of this generation, it happens to everybody

Nyie watu wa Medicine mnakompricate sana mambo na mnapenda kureason kila kitu bila kujali, I used to date a girl from your field n she was the one who came to me after 10 yrs of separation back in o'level yaani ilikuwa ni usumbufu na kutaka kuwa juu zaidi yangu na kureason kila kinachotokea.

You people need to know that love is an Art of Acting , as an Art it has rules that need to be obeyed..

So you need to learn how to act my dear na usijaribu kukumbuka your first boyfriend ambaye jinamizi lake bado linaambaa kwenye akili yako..do not torture yourself be free

 

[RRONDO]

EXCUSE ME YOU MINDLESS FOOL, THE ONLY STUPID ONE HERE IS YOU AND WHO EVER BROUGHT YOU UP.

Some people in the thread think OP has the "attitude" and almost everyone agrees that Tz men want submissive women HENCE she should change if she is to keep a Tz man.

If being submissive is "an insult" then you and I are apparently on the same team.

Hayo mambo ya classy umeyaongea wewe. people will be with whom they want and your opinion matters the LEAST.

My love life is non of your business and am not and will never be married to a Tz man. Deal with it.

never say never.....

 

[RRONDO]

U still sho yo ego n u said u r working on yo altitude
The guy kusema peke yake haimaanishi he is the problem,watu wametulia tu wanaangalia
So if u came with this to enjoy us well be my guest but if u real meant wht u wrote well I suggest u chek yo altitude first,ur ego will reward u with loliness

do u mean height above sea level??? or attitude??

 

[Atoto]

In a few words, do not nag. Give him his time to hang out with his fellas. Leave him up to his deeds that do not involve, concern nor affect you and the relationship.

Do not interfere with every single aspect of his life. Dont push him to telling you anything if he doesnt want to.

Make your presence felt, but do not suffocate him.

Mmmmh!! Kwahiyo ni kazi ya mwanamke pekee kumsoma na kumuelewa mwanaume na kusucrifise all, ila mwanaume aachwe tu afanye kila analojisikia. Daaaah!!

 

[Ngahekapahi]

Una matatizo.

 

[white rose]

P....r...a...y

 

[housegirl]

never say never.....

its like the way you would never be with a non-submissive woman! haha

 

[ISO M.CodD]

Mmmmh!! Kwahiyo ni kazi ya mwanamke pekee kumsoma na kumuelewa mwanaume na kusucrifise all, ila mwanaume aachwe tu afanye kila analojisikia. Daaaah!!

Did I say that, or in any obvious way imply it?

 

[Atoto]

Did I say that, or in any obvious way imply it?

Exactly, thats what you insinuated.

 

[ISO M.CodD]

Exactly, thats what you insinuated.

All I did was explain what 'silence' in the context of men's wants in a relationship means, as that was what was asked of me. I have not spoken of reciprocity in any way and would like to keep my fingers off that.

Please understand the context of my post and discard any extraneous thoughts you might have about it.

 

[Atoto]

All I did was explain what 'silence' in the context of men's wants in a relationship means, as that was what was asked of me. I have not spoken of reciprocity in any way and would like to keep my fingers off that.

Please understand the context of my post and discard any extraneous thoughts you might have about it.

Duuuuh unaniumiza kichwa na hiki kingreza hadi njaa imeuma, okey nimekuelewa, ila ulichokiongelea ndivyo wanaume wengi hutaka, men are sooo selfish kwakweli, kazi tunayo wanawake.

 

[iJamii]

Usijifanye independent sana, mwanaume anajisikia vizuri anapogharimia hata kidogo na wewe ukiappreciate mchango wake. Pia dont be too nice utamboa maana hapati changamoto. Muoneshe ni wajibu wake kukunulia say lotion hata kama una million mia bank. Nawe mnunulie kitu kingine kama deodorants au boxer in return. Usijifanye kuwa humuhitaji financially au materially as you put it.

Eeh!!! Hapa nnaona umeongelea type ya wanaume uliowahi kukutana nao.... Mamaee kuna akina Gadnna na Mziwandaa hao ni mwendo wa ganda la ndizi ukijidai una pesa wao ndiyo wanafurahia balaa