Am not materialistic but I still can't keep a man

[brenda18]

Daaah hiyo MMED imebidi nigugo

Sijaspecify hata ni MMED ya nini so am sure bado nimekuacha kapa....focus on advicing me rather than bringing up something else my sis...you're better than this

 

[brenda18]

kama ulivyo na multiple ID's,utakuwa na multiple personalities!
Ndo mana hujielewi na hueleweki kwa wanaume! brenda18

This is too low for me..I'll pass....

 

[deaproc]

What if i tell you,there's no such thing as true love...ina depend na maamuzi pamoja nakujitolea.

 

[Kaunga]

Ngoja nijaribu kukusaidia
Kuna vitu vinavuomKEEP mwanaume (by the way some years back nilileta uzi wa how some are only attractors and not KEEPERS).
1. Altitute (heshima,usikivu,ucheshi, care etc)
2. Sex (utamu, utundu/ufundi, usafi)
3. Skills (usafi,upishi,motherhood,ushauri wa kimaendeleo etc)
4. Looks (usafi, kile ulichomvutia siku ya kwanza)

Sasa kuna vitu tumezaliwa navyo na kuna vitu twaweza jifunza au kujiboresha. Unaweza usiwe say 'mtamu' lkn ukawa mbunifu na mshauri ktk biashara/maendeleo na say una heshima. Kwa maneno mengine unatakiwa uoneshe kwa matendo na tabia jinsi gani atapoteza kama atakupoteza wewe. I mean aone gap lako. Sasa it is okay kusema you are fine the way you are and let no one change you; but again ni wewe ambaye unapata shida ya kushindwa kumkeep mpenzi so take a very good look of yourself halafu ona wapi unaweza kubadilika. Kuwa mnyenyekevu kidogo haimaanishi wewe ni weak. Kwa sisi wakristu Bwana wetu alishuka kutoka kwenye utukufu hadi kifo cha msalaba. So sio siku zote kushuka ni kupoteza elimu yako.

 

[wajingawatu]

Usijifanye independent sana, mwanaume anajisikia vizuri anapogharimia hata kidogo na wewe ukiappreciate mchango wake. Pia dont be too nice utamboa maana hapati changamoto. Muoneshe ni wajibu wake kukunulia say lotion hata kama una million mia bank. Nawe mnunulie kitu kingine kama deodorants au boxer in return. Usijifanye kuwa humuhitaji financially au materially as you put it.

Yuko desperate: umri umeenda(29+), ana/anatarajia kupata MD,yuko financially stable, ....hizi ni viungo murua kwa mwanamke kubakia single, single girl sensu KLyin

 

[brenda18]

Am not pushing them away,it's just that they are too weak to handle me

Thats where you are problem relily.WHEN ARE YOU NORMALLY REDISCOVERYI THEIR WEAKNESSES?,.
IF YOU SEE THAT MORE THAN 3 THREE MEN ARE WEAK AFTER YOU HAVE COMMENCED A R/SHIP,YOU HAVE A GREAT WEAKNESS....Try to ask them(Ur Xs);where are you making mistakes in loving....they may tell you openly.)

Which ever education level you will have ;You are a woman,You have to wear the characters of an african woman.Money&Education can't give you every.Its a povert man who can feel the void

I would lov to know what is wrong with me but still going back to my xs and asking them is the last thing I would think of...
I might be successful, educated and everything else but if I get the wrong man in my life everything else will be miserable.. I have not met my man yet

 

[LebronWade]

Hapana sijawahi tumia elimu yangu kujikweza..japo kwa kawaida my head is always high and I accept nothing less than that sio kwa nia mbaya ila watu wachache hunielewa
Nitaangalia one of them leo,noted thanks

"Head is Always High and I accept Nothing Less"-Brenda18

Yaani una change from being "normal" coz tu una elimu?Una raise head high so what?Ili iweje sasa?Hiyo ni sort ya intimidation...just be normal,be a person,live kawaida,no one is fronting on what u have..there kuna tatizo

 

[Mgugu]

atoto monday ntakupitia twende kwa ras simba lkn mbona kiinglishi alichotumia BRENDA ni simple sana hakina mavokaburali magumu kama ya Nyani Ngabu

 

[brenda18]

Kuna wenzako huku mtaani hawaelewek kabisa yan!! Tuna waangalia tuuu..siwaombei waje kuumiza vichwa ikifika 30+ ila nyie wasichana mbadilike..mara nataka gari, iphone, siezi kufua, kupika ntaweke H.G!!! .sometimes mnakua mmeIzidi

Pole.. Wakipita hapa baadhi yao wenye hizo tabia watakuwa wamekuelewa

 

[Riwa]

You must be the nagging type....or perfectionist type..

Late 20s...MMED in the pipeline...couldn't agree more with The Boss

 

[brenda18]

Kitu kikubwa naona ni kuendana na mazingira yako. Naturaly utafit katika mazingira. Unaweza kuta msichana anajifanya ni too western ilhali watu anaoishi nao na wanaomzunguka wapo kawaida.

Ama mwingine unakuta kusalimia tuu ngebe, akitupiwa dada mambo matusi yanaanza. Watangaza nia ndo haohao unaokutana nao njiani.

Naishi kutokana na mazingira kaka yangu
"When in Rome,do as the Romans do"
Wakipita watakuelewa

 

[Karucee]

Give them a reason to stay girlie.

 

[brenda18]

brenda18, be encouraged. Mwanaume ambae atakuwa intimidated na wewe hakufai. You have a strong character and only a strong man can handle you. Usibadilike kwa ajili ya mtu, develop a better version for yourself and find male friends kama alivyosema The Boss. Have fun, dont be desperate and love will come and find you.

Asante Dada angu,I have a feeling watu wachache humu wamenielewa including you...
Kuna vitu natakiwa nibadilishe but still I won't accept anything less for the sake of men
Wacha niendelee na maisha yangu love itanikuta mbele ya safari

 

[Atoto]

atoto monday ntakupitia twende kwa ras simba lkn mbona kiinglishi alichotumia BRENDA ni simple sana hakina mavokaburali magumu kama ya Nyani Ngabu

Unipitie tu kwakweli, wee kingreza inatakiwa watu wenye afya zao sie na afya zetu mgogoro unaweza anguka mbele za watu bureee ukijitutumua kuongea kingreza, nilisoma mpaka mwisho nikaishia kuumwa kichwa tu hata sielewi, hivho cha nyani ndio hata sijuagi kama ni kigumu naonaga ni kingreza tu!! Kumbe kigumu aisee

 

[Kaunga]

Again balance ni muhimu, nimeona wadada wasomi kibao wanatetemekea wanaume hadi inawaboa hao wanaume. Sijui bwana naweza sema be yourself lkn kumbe 'YOUrself' is a disaster.
Ushauri wangu wa mwisho, if there is no rope to hold on; hold on to God. Yeye pekee anaweza tenda muujiza hata wakumuumba atakayekupokea jinsi ulivyo.

 

[Karucee]

"Head is Always High and I accept Nothing Less"-Brenda18

Yaani una change from being "normal" coz tu una elimu?Una raise head high so what?Ili iweje sasa?Hiyo ni sort ya intimidation...just be normal,be a person,live kawaida,no one is fronting on what u have..there kuna tatizo

Babu we, I beg to differ.

Haimaanishi eti kisa nimesoma na ni mpweke so nimchukue tu mwanaume yeyote. We all have standarda honey

 

[brenda18]

C'mon man! slow your role, and let her be. Hops never roll like that Chief, 'less you ain't one. And Everybody's business ain't your business, thought you listened to Scarface?!

Hahah, thanks for having my back

 

[Kaunga]

Give them a reason to stay girlie.

You said better in one sentence kile nilichojaribu kukisema kwa posts Godknowshowmany

 

[brenda18]

Attitude, girl..! work on your attitude.

Really?you think it's my attitude..
Nipe mfano mmoja mshenga,ni wapi humu nilicomment ukaona nina attitude kwasababu inawezekana ni kweli... be honest

 

[Karucee]

brenda18, this is a very useful post.

Ngoja nijaribu kukusaidia
Kuna vitu vinavuomKEEP mwanaume (by the way some years back nilileta uzi wa how some are only attractors and not KEEPERS).
1. Altitute (heshima,usikivu,ucheshi, care etc)
2. Sex (utamu, utundu/ufundi, usafi)
3. Skills (usafi,upishi,motherhood,ushauri wa kimaendeleo etc)
4. Looks (usafi, kile ulichomvutia siku ya kwanza)

Sasa kuna vitu tumezaliwa navyo na kuna vitu twaweza jifunza au kujiboresha. Unaweza usiwe say 'mtamu' lkn ukawa mbunifu na mshauri ktk biashara/maendeleo na say una heshima. Kwa maneno mengine unatakiwa uoneshe kwa matendo na tabia jinsi gani atapoteza kama atakupoteza wewe. I mean aone gap lako. Sasa it is okay kusema you are fine the way you are and let no one change you; but again ni wewe ambaye unapata shida ya kushindwa kumkeep mpenzi so take a very good look of yourself halafu ona wapi unaweza kubadilika. Kuwa mnyenyekevu kidogo haimaanishi wewe ni weak. Kwa sisi wakristu Bwana wetu alishuka kutoka kwenye utukufu hadi kifo cha msalaba. So sio siku zote kushuka ni kupoteza elimu yako.