Kuoa Single Mama ni sawa na kunywa soda iliyofunguliwa na kuonjwa

First of all WHY IS SHE A SINGLE MOTHER?
She is a single mother because she has break up with the father of her kid(s) or if she was married then she is a single mother because she has divorced with the father of her kid(s)


WHY HAS SHE BREAK UP/ DIVORCED WITH THE FATHER OF HER KID(S)?

There are two reasons :


1. The father of her kids has left her

Or

2. She has left the father of her kids



1. IF THE FATHER OF HER KIDS HAS LEFT HER:

If this is the case then she is a very big problem of which u cannot handle.

Hakunaga mwanaume anae jitambua ambae anaweza kuwa na ujasiri wa kumuacha au kumtaliki mwanamke ambae amezaa nae mtoto au watoto. Nasema tena hakunaga.

Personally i want to have a relationship with my kids which i had with my father. Nimekuwa nikiwaona baba na mama wakiwa pamoja na nimeziona faida za kulelewa na baba na mama. Kwa gharama yotote ile sitokuwa tayari kuona damu yangu ikilelewa tofauti na nilivyo lelewa mimi.

SOMEBODY CAN SAY " WHAT ABOUT WANAUME WALIO LELEWA NA SINGLE MOTHERS "? Hawa ndio hawapo tayari kabisa kuona watoto wao wakilelewa na single parent kwa sababu wame experience kwa vitendo ugumu na mateso ya kulelewa na single mother. And they will say " I WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS WHICH I DIDNT HAVE WITH MY FATHER".


Siwezi kukubali kuwaacha watoto wangu walelewe na mama yao peke yake au walelewe na mama yao na mwanaume mwingine.

Ukiona mwanaume hadi anafikia hatua ya kumruhusu aondoke mwanamke ambae amezaa nae watoto basi jua mwanamke huyo ni tatizo kubwa sana ambalo wewe hutoweza kuli handle.


IF SHE HAS BEEN DIVORCED ndio worse zaidi kwa sababu wote tunajua kwamba ukitalikiana na mwanamke unatakiwa kuwa unalipa pesa ya matunzo ya watoto kila mwezi na kwa wenzetu wa nchi zilizoendelea kama Marekani wapo very strictly kwenye malipo na malipo hutegemeana na kipato cha baba.

SASA BASI KAMA NINATOA PESA YA MATUNZO KWA MWANAMKE AMBAE NIMEZAA NAE NA AMBAE SIPO NAE TENA TAFSIRI YAKE NI KWAMBA " I AM PAYING MONEY IN ORDER TO DO NOT LIVE WITH HER!!!"

Its like umeenda kwenye Restaurant ukakutana na jamaa ambae yupo tayari KUTOA PESA ILI ASILE CHAKULA KWENYE HIYO RESTAURANT. Utakuwa na ujasiri wa ajabu sana kama utalipa pesa kula chakula hicho.


2. IF SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS LEFT THE FATHER OF HER KIDS.

Why did she left the father of her kids? Some one who is a very important person to the lives of her kids.

There is one reason.

She left the guy because he turned out to be a bad guy. She left him because she is an ass hole.

IF HE IS AN ASS HOLE THEN WHY DID SHE BE WITH HIM AT FIRST PLACE?

There are two reasons:

1. She is a POOR JUDGE OF CHARACTER.. A poor judge of character among other things is a person who is characterised with making poor and bad decisions

She did not know that he was an ass hole when she was dating him.

She went on ahead to become pregant for him.
Yani hakujua kama jamaa ni an ass hole wakati wanaanza mahusiano.

Akafikia mpaka hatua ya kubeba ujauzito wa an asshole tena kabla ya ndoa.!!!!

Yani mpaka muda wote huo hakujua tu kwamba she was dealing with an asshole?

Then she is a poor judge of character.

And in case for the divorced. Mwanamke ume anza kudate na mwanaume, mmekuwa wachumba, mmefunga ndoa, umezaa nae mtoto wa kwanza, wa pili, wa tatu ndio unakuja kujua kwamba he is just an asshole then it means that ur a poor judge of character.

U dont need to be trusted in as far the issue of making rational decision is concerned.

If she is a poor judge of character then guess what ? Next time when she makes her foolish decision you will be the victim of that decision and i cant tell what else she can do.This time around it will be worse. Because if she was capable of carrying a baby for an asshole then what any other thing that she cannot do?

Getting a baby with an asshole is as good as killing that baby. If she can kill her own kid then what else can she not do?

The point is whatever this poor woman is going to decide u will be the one to fall a victim. I am talking to you guy that thinks that it is cool to date or marry a single.mother.


2. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO IRRESPONSIBLE AND BAD GUYS.

A guy that has the guts to impregnate a girl and leave or abandon her with the kids is simply a bad guy, an irresponsible guy or an asshole .


The fact that she got a baby for him demonstrates that she is narurally attracted to bad guys.

She is not attracted to a " nice guy" like you. Ur not her type ndio maana when she was in her prime u couldn't be able to even see the place where she has urinated.

But now she is with you because she knows that the type od guys that she is primarily attracted to( the bad guys) are no longer interested with her.

So she has come to you because she think ur a " nice guy" and u can handle her kids.

She knows for real that the bad guy can never take that kind of shit.

Blv me atakapo kuzoea atarudi kwa aina ya wanaume ambao anavutiwa nao kiukweli ukweli ( the bas guys) na wewe utabaki kama financial supporter to fund her life style and take care of her kids.

Atakuonyesha mapenzi mengi ya uongo lakini kiukweli kabisa yeye mapenzi yake ni kwa bad guys.


Ur not her type. She is with you because she think ur a " nice guy" and to them a.nice guy means a foolish guy. The only good think about nice guys is that they are nice ( nice guys means foolish guys)

Am talking about the kinds of the nice ( foolish guys ) who can play the role of a very perfect step daddy but cannot take care of their own blood.
No wonder they say nice guys are always not nice to themselves.

SULUHISHO:


1. KUHUSU NDOA MWANAMKE ATAFUTIWE MUME NA BABA AKE MZAZI AU KAMA BABA AKE MZAZI HAYUPO HAI BASI BABA ZAKE WAKUBWA AU BABA ZAKE WADOGO AU WAJOMBA ZAKE.


Kwanini ? Kwa sababu most women are poor judge of characters. They are not capable of making rational decision when it comes to choosing their life partners ( husband)

Utaratibu huu upo toka enzi za Pontyo wa Pilato. Babu zetu waliufuata utaratibu huu ndio maana ndoa zao zilidumu.

Familia nyingi za kitajiri wanafuata utaratibu huu. Hata familia za baadhi ya viongozi wakubwa hufuata utaratibu huu.

Mfano mzuri ni kiongozi wa juu wa nchi moja jirani. Binti yake akiwa anasoma.nchini Marekani mzee akapata taarifa kwamba binti amepata mchumba raia wa Senegali ambae walikuwa wanasoma wote chuo kimoja. Jamaa huyo wa Senegali alikuwa mchezaji mzuri wa mpira wa kikapu na baadae alichukuliwa na timu moja ya NBA.


Baba alivyo sikia hivyo akasema usinitanie. Akamtuma mama wa binti aende Marekani kumwambia binti yake aachane na huyo mchumba wake mara moja.

Mzee akafanya vetting ya maana na akapatikana kijana mmoja raia wa nchi hiyo hiyo ambae familia yake na familia ya mh huyo zina uhusiano wa Karibu kwa miongo kadhaa. Kijana huyo alizaliwa na kukulia Canada na binti huyo alizaliwa Belgium.


Mwisho wa siku Ndoa ya wawili hao ilifungwa.



2. Stop dating or marrying single mother because ur encouraging their previous behaviour. Ifike mahali jamii ianze kulipa suala la usingo maza uzito unao stahili. Dating or marrying a single mother is not cool.

Katika mafundisho ya uislamu kuna fundisho linasema ukizaa mtoto kabla au nje ya ndoa mtoto huyo anakuwa sio mtoto wala hana haki ya kurithi mali zako na kama ni mtoto wa kike basi unaruhusiwa hata kumuoa.


Lengo la andiko hilo sio kuwa encourage watu wawaoe binti zao walio wazaa nje ya ndoa ama kuwa encourage watu wawanyime haki zao watoto wa nje ya ndoa ila lengo lake ni KUONYESHA KIWANGO CHA UBAYA WA KUZAA WATOTO KABLA AU NJE YA NDOA.



Kwa ajili ya kuilinda Taasisi Tukufu ya Ndoa na kwa maslahi mapana ya makuzi na malezi ya watoto( ambao ndio wanapaswa kuwa beneficiaries wakubwa wa ndoa) zitengenezwe sheria zina jinaisha mambo kama :

1. Kumuoa mwanamke mwenye mtoto liwe kosa la jinai lenye adhabu kali.


2. Kuoa mwanamke ambae ameachika na ambae wakati ana achika alikuwa na mtoto au watoto liwe kosa kisheria lenye adhabu kali.

3.
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Kwa ufupi makosa hayo yakulikane kama " UHALIFU DHIDI YA MIFUMO YA KIJAMII"
 
Un boa,
TUMIA LUGHA MOJA.....!

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Mbona umetokwa povu sana?.
Single mom kakukataa??
Hicho ulichoshauri hakiwezekani everybody is a free citizen trying their shots in life
 
LadyAJ said:
Bado una utoto mwingi sana! ila nikushauri muwapumzishe hawa wadada wa watu jamani,kama hamna hoja au mlikutana na kiloja basi msiwa generalize kwa ubaya na mabaya! Nao ni binaadam wanastahili kuzungumziwa mazuri
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Yaani andiko hill limekosa like hata mmoja? Tafsiri yake ni nini? bila shaka inaonyesha kiwango cha utovu wa maadili katika jamii kiasi cha kutoona point hata mmoja kwenye andiko lote hili.
 
Mada nzuri,tatizo lugha. Punguza "U-Ndalichako"
 
MUHIMU:MAADA HAIJALENGA SINGLE MAMA WOTE, NI BAADHI,

Katika vitu vinavyozidi kuharibu maadili ya mwafrika basi ni ushoga, Ushoga unachochewa na sababu nyingi sana na kila siku kunakuwa na vichochezi vipya vinavyopelekea mtu kuwa shoga, Moja ya vichocheo vipya navyohisi vinachochea mwanaume kuwa shoga ni malezi ya single maza japo ni baadhi

Kwa kiasi kikubwa kundi linalolengwa hapa ni hawa kizazi hiki kipya cha single mothers waliokulia mjini hususani yaani watoto wa mjini.

Mbaya zaidi siku hizi wanaume ni kama hawana sauti ofisi za ustawi wa Jamii kuhusu kulea mtoto pindi wakiachana na single mothers, na hali inaweza ikawa mbaya zaidi endapo ikawa ni mtoto wa kiume.

Malezi ya mtoto wa kiume kulelewa na mama pekee yanaweza kuanza kumfanya mtoto kuona kila kitu anachofanya mama yake ni sahihi kuanzia kuongea, kitembea na mavazi hususani ya kubana, Wa kumfundisha jinsi ya kuishi kama mwanaume anakuwa hayupo, matokeo yake kidogo kidogo anaweza kuanza kupiga mabusu wavulana wenzake ye akaona sawa tu maana anamuona sana mama anavyopigwa busu na rafiki zake au anavyojipiga selfie anavyoweka mapozi ya kubusu.

Pia wamama hawa wengi naona wanajali sana watoto wao hasa kwenye sweli la usafi na mavazi ila inaweza kuwa mbaya kwa mtoto, Wengi hutaka watoto wao wavae kama wasanii maana hawa ndio huonekana wanapendeza sana mbele ya macho ya wanawake wengi, unakuta mama anataka mtoto wake aonekane Hb anaanza kumpaka poda, kumfanyia kamake up aonekane kama kina Diamond, lipgloss na hata kuwatia dawa kwenye nywele, hiki kitu kinaweza kumuweka mtoto matatizo ni maana anaweza kuanza kujaribiwa kidogo kidogo na wenzake mfano pale anapokua ni mnene akavalishwa modo za kubana anaweza kumbana na watoto wenzake waliovurugwa,

Mtoto huwa anaathiriwa na tabia ya waliomzunguka na akilelewa na mama pekee kuna uwezekano wa kurithi vitabia vya kikike Vinavyowenza kumfanya aanze kuona ni kawaida kunengua kama mama yake, kuchamba wenzake kama mama ni mchambaji, kutembea n.k hali hii inaweza kupelekea ushoga.

Baba ni rahisi sana kufahamu mtoto anafanya upuuzi kuliko mama,. Mama anaweza kuwa mzuri kwe almost kila kitu ktk malezi zaidi ya baba ila akashimdwa kunotice jambo dogo sana linaloenda kuharibu maisha ya mtoto. Kwa wanaume tunapiga kikonzi ukisindikizia na Kofi pale mtoto wa kiume anapo leta swaga sizo za kubenjua benjua viuno,mikono na Mikao isiyo eleweka


Mama atampenda mtoto wake hata iweje,dingi humfunza mtoto descpln , maadili na majukumu. Nadahani ni wengi hapa tuliolelewa na baba tuna stori mbili tatu za vipigo vikali mno tulivyovipata vilivyoturudisha katika barabara kuu. Nakumbuka hata kuna msanii alifanyiwa intavyuu alisema mtoto hata awe jambazi mama atamficha ila baba ataita mapolisi kabisa afungwe ajifunze ili asije kuchomwa moto mtaani.

Kadri miaka inavyoenda mambo yanachanganya na inakuwa ngumu sana kurudisha nyuma tabia zilizogeuka tayari kuwa mazoea.

Kwa ushauri Wangu katika malezi mtoto wa kiume inabidi awe mazingira atayolelewa kwa umakini na baba ama ndugu wa kiume au hata bibi yake maana malezi ya bibi zetu waliofunzwa tamaduni za mwafrika uwa bora.
 
Kwa nini mnapenda kutunga story zenu kichwani na kuwalaumu watu wasiohusika maana Sijawahi kuona single mama kampaka mwanae lip gloss, wanja au poda ili awe handsome. sio fair kabisa na hamjui ni ngumu kiasi gani kwao kulea watoto wa kiume na wengine huwa wakatili kabisaa kwa sababu hakuna fatherly figure around.
 
Rej Rejea post namba 4
 
Oscar Awards said:
sijaona lip gloss au poda hapo zaidi ya picha moja ambayo mtoto kapiga pozi feminine kiasi. Mimi nimetoa experience yangu binafsi na ningeomba utafute hata picha mbili za watanzania waliowaremba watoto wao wa kiume maana sijawahi KUONA
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Unaposema "feminine kiasi" una maanisha nini?

Huo u feminine kiasi huoni kama unaendana na mada maoni ya mleta mada?

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Nadhani hapa unaongelea wale wadada wa mjini kutwa nzima wako club au wanashinda saloon,hawana mpango.ila kumbuka suala la malezi ni aina ya mwanamke ulie nae.Mama ndio anasiamamia malezi ya watoto kwa 80%.Unaweza kuwepo kama baba na bado mtoto akapotea pia,achana na hizo mentality .kuna wanawake wanajielewa hata kama yuko single ila hawezi onesha mahusiano yake kimapenzi na mtu wake kwa watoto wake.
 
Oscar Awards said:
sijaona lip gloss au poda hapo zaidi ya picha moja ambayo mtoto kapiga pozi feminine kiasi. Mimi nimetoa experience yangu binafsi na ningeomba utafute hata picha mbili za watanzania waliowaremba watoto wao wa kiume maana sijawahi KUONA
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Mkuu inaelekea unajifungia sana ndani na simu yako au hujichanganyi, Tembea uone, Watoto wadogo kabisa wa kiume wanawaiga hadi mama zao wnavyokata mauno, Baba akiwepo hawezi kuvumilia kuona mtoto wake wa kiume anakata kiuno
 
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