Ni ngumu sana mwanamke kukuheshimu ukiwa mwema sana kwake. Mwanamke anamuhesmimu mwanaume anaemuogopa. Hapa siongelei physical appearance, violence au abuse.
Am talking about the respect that stems from knowing you are a man of strength, principle and authority. Without that dynamic modern women will test your limits, disrespect you and challenge your position at every opportunity.
Wanawake wa kisasa wengi hawawaheshimu wanaume walionao. Wanaona wema na sacrifices za mwanaume ni udhaifu sio uimara na kuwapa wanaume kama hao majina ya dhihaka mfano danga, msukuma wangu n.k.
Kama unampa kipaumbele, una-sacrifice furaha yako kwa ajiri yake, unafuata kila anachosema hata kama kinaingiliana na bajeti, msimamo au ratiba zako, atakuona wewe ni dhaifu na hapo ndipo nae ataanza kupigania madaraka kwenye hayo mahusiano kwa sababu katika macho yake wewe haukidhi vigezo vya kuwa kiongozi.
Wanawake wa kisasa wamepumbazwa kwamba traditional male leadership ni utumwa, kwaiyo wanataka ku-control mahusiano hapo hapo wanataka mwanaume utimize wajibu wako wa kama provider, protector na problem solver. Kinachosikitisha wapo wanaume wengi wamekubaliana na huu upuuzi na kuishia kudharaulika kwenye mahusiano yao.
Imagine you embody authority, decisiveness and unshakable principles. You set boundaries, enforce them and refuse to tolerate disrespect. Suddenly her behaviour changes because she knows there are consequences to stepping out of the line. Women crave strong leadership even if their modern ideologies tell them otherwise.
Ukweli wa mapenzi na heshimu ni kwamba: mwanamke hakupendi kwa wema na sacrifices zako kwake. Anakupenda kwa uimara wako na uwezo wa kuongoza.
Vilevile zingatia sana, utakapompata mwanamke mtiifu, anakuheshimu na kukubaliana na uongozi wako bila ya yeye kutaka kupigania madaraka- basi umeokota dhahabu, nyakati tunazoishi wanawake wa hivyo wapo wachache sana,
You should value her because she is the kind of woman who will make a home. She is not there to compete with you, she knows her strength lies in complementing your role not challenging it.
Kijana achana na wanawake wapigania madaraka. Be the man she respects, not the one she manipulates. Na kama hawezi kunyooka pamoja na uimara wako basi achana nae. Unastahili amani na heshima.
That's masculinity, that's leadership, that's what you were born for.