Bibi Kizee
JF-Expert Member
- Feb 18, 2008
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umelonga mkuu, lazima tukemee vitendo hivi, vituo vya watoto waishio katika mazingira magumu vinaongezeka, kama huna uhakika na unachokifanya tumia nyenzo!!
Duuu mkuu mimi siwezi kuongea zaidi kuhusu hili swala kwa ujumla najuwa sio vizuri kumtelekeza mzazi mwenzio...
Pili Je ilikuwaje mpaka ukajirubuni kuzaa nae kama kweli unasema hujampenda??Maana ninachojuwa mimi ukifikia mwanamke umekubali kulala nae bila condom na kumzalisha basi utakuwa umekubaliana nae vitu vingi sana ndio maana amekubali kuzaa....sasa hivi wewe unasema kwamba humuhitaji anaona kama umembadilikia ndio maana
Tatu je wakati unalala nae bila condom hukujuwa kama siku zake zinakaribia au zimeshapita lakini hajawa sawa???
Nne je unaonaje hao watoto ambao walizaliwa nje ya ndoa na wanavyoishi na mama wa kambo wapo sawa kabisa au unaonaje kwa mtazamo wako??
Tano inaonekana ulimpenda sana tena sana wakati upo nae huyo mdada ila baada ya kuzaa nae na kulala nae kwa sana inaonekana umekinai na sasa hivi umemzalisha inaonekana kwamba umeshamchoka....
Sita bro hata mimi kama mimi siwezi kulazimishika kuowa sehemu nisiyokuwa nayo katika roho yangu au sehemu nisiyopenda so cha kufanya hapo think your self before you take any action.
Nadhani hayo ndio maoni yangu sina la zaidi ila mkuu nimekukubali umepiga mzigo sasa unaachia ngazi ndio maana yake...Kipindi hicho ulikuwa unapita tu si unajuwa tena!!
Shishi na mi nilitaka kupoint hapo..kwamba akitaka kufunga ndoa atakuja 'mzazi mwenzake' na kumwambia padre kuwa mimi hapa ndio mkewe kwa sababu nimeshazaa naye...
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Vipingamizi hivi huwa ni burudani tu za kuchangamsha na kusababisha minong'ono na umbeya lakini havina nguvu ..kuzalisha siyo ndoa... na wala haiwezi kuwa sababu ya kutokufungisha watu ndoa.Kipingamizi kinachotambulika ni kile cha kisheria ( ndoa zote - bomani, kanisani au kwa shehe zinatambulika kisheria).Maadam unazungumzia kanisa..basi kipingamizi ni endapo mhusika ana ndoa nyingine tena ya Kanisani!
Exactly WoS, utakubaliana na mimi kuwa hiyo ni embarrassment tosha.
Pili, nadhani bado anaweza kuweka zuio mahakamani ili apate uhakika wa matunzo ya mtoto waliozaa pamoja....au?
MJ umenena vyema, ila I am very concern na haki ya mtoto, suala la kuoa au kuishi na mwanamke linaweza kubadilika muda wowote haswa ukizingatia mapenzi yana sura nyingi, tunaona ndoa nyingi zinavyovunjika kuachana na huyo uliyemzalisha si tatizo, kubwa ni juu ya mtoto, hata tukisema ilikuwa bahati mbaya, one touch etc, bado mtoto hana kosa na ana haki zake, anahitaji mapenzi na malezi toka kwa baba,
ni kweli mtoto ni wa mama, lakini ulezi si kazi ndogo na haswa maisha yanavyobadilika, pia wanaume ni kigeukigeu, pindi akimchoka mwanamke atamwita kila aina ya jina ahh ilikuwa part time, sikumpenda, etc na ni chanzo kikubwa cha watoto wa mitaani nalikemea hili kwa nguvu, sidhani kama mungu anapendezwa na maisha wanayoishi watoto wale,
Its quite funny becouse you know in the begin unprotected sex can lead you either unwanted pregnancy or HIV.so why did you had unprotected one?Did you tell her that what ever come out you will never be responsible?You dont know how she feel that why.Didnt promise marry her but why did you pregnancy her? We can understanding if your under 18.Dont moorning too much take your responsibility.Why dont you take your kid and rise with that the one you feel she is the one you love.If these woman has been emberass you can get court oder to stop her and look custody for your child or you can sort out of the court by drow the matter to the family meeting as at the end of the day she is a mother of your kid.If you cant face her family you can send some older people from your family to talk to her family.If that doesnt work you can open the case eventhough by the law kid had to stay with her mother till 7 year .Also they will tell you how much you have to given to rise the kid depend how much you earn per monthly.Social worker can brake down for you how much can you spend for your kid.And you can carry on with your life .But remember what goes around come arround.She is hungry for what she seen as you have ruine her life.
Wish all the best,
Susu,
London-UK
thank U!
Susu.
NB:why are you people blaming me on the UNPROTECTED SEX?hivi mimi ndio mkosaji sana katika hili?
ITS BECAUSE U R APPRECIATED AS A RESOURCEFUL PERSON..... sasa being careless in this matter inafanya watu wakasirike LOL
Unajua WOS wengi sheria za ndoa hatujui kumbe mi nilikuwa najua mtu ukisha zaa nae ukitaka kujiolewa mwingine basi yule anaweza weka pingamizi kuwa huyu ni mme wangu wkt hamjafunga ndoa ya kanisani au kimira au bomani kumbe anakuwa hana nguvu ya kukuzuia wewe kubeba kitu kingine...ok sasa nimefunguliwa macho.
Jamani sio mnapiga ovyo ovyo alafu mnachukulia kigezo hicho aaah nitaoa mwingine hii sio fair.
SO AM I SOMEBODY TO BE BLAMED?
mbona yeye hamumlaumu kwa kuwa careless?na ikumbukwe SIKUBAKA
Zuio hapana Mkuu, ila akitaka kuwa nasty.. she can sue Geoff as a putative father and ask for maintenance of the child.
SO AM I SOMEBODY TO BE BLAMED?
mbona yeye hamumlaumu kwa kuwa careless?na ikumbukwe SIKUBAKA
maneno mazito haya!sheria zifuatwe kuhusu haki ya mtoto, mkataba mtakaofanya wewe na yeye ni rahisi kukiukwa kuliko kama utafuata sheria, wazazi washirikishwe, ustawi wa jamii nk, lakini kusema tu
lakini jambo likifanyika kisheria, sheria itaku-SUE kama hautotimiza!!
kukosa mmekosa wote, dhambi ni za wote, lakini mtoto hastahili hukumu yeyote!!
for maintenance kama hutoi.... Au unatunza mtoto?wos is jst kidding!
Sue me for what??