Story za mkeo/mpenz wa ndoa

[sakapal]

I am a man buddy but i beg to differ with your proposition..
Sio kweli kwamba stori za wamama wengi zimejaa majungu yasiyojenga..la hasha
Kuna cases na cases na kwa hili la huyu mdada inawezekana kuna kitu kinachokosekana kabla na baada ya stori..
Kwenye mahusiano kuna kitu kinaitwa 'cordial reception'..ambayo ni namna ya kumfanya mwenzako kupenda unachoongea..Ukisha kosa hiyo kitu hata kama zitakuwa stori zinazohusu mapesa..hamuwezi kufika mwisho.

Ninakubaliana na Kiranga kwamba mume kama kichwa cha nyumba na familia anayo 'stake' katika kubadili mwelekeo wa stori na 'flow' nzima ya maongezi. Tukiaminishana hapa kwamba wanawake wote wanapenda 'gossips' tutakuwa hatuwatendei haki..na mara nyingi tu unaweza kuta mwanaume the same stories ambazo anaziona za kishenzi kwa mkewe akipigiwa na mtubaki anafunguka ile kinoma...

yaani my love SnowBall, umesema vema, nakukubali all the way,

Hapo nilipopigia mstari chacha hapo, nachukia na huwa siongei kitu tena saa nyingine bila hata aibu anasifia mbele yangu wakati mimi nilishapresent kwake kitu kama hiyo akaiponda nakwambia hata 6*6 performance nitaifanya poor, it real demoralise woman am telling u man out there, if u have ears, listen this pls loooh!!
Thanx sana baby SnowBall...
muah!!

 

[Kiranga]

Usichulie wanaume wa MMU kama sample...unajua kwa nini?...mimi nadhani wengi wao ni waongeaji ndio maana wakawa members wa MMU in the first place.

Ni kawaida ya wanaume waongeaji kutokupenda wanawake waongeaji....kwa kuwa wanataka audience, sasa mkiongea wote nani amsikilize nani?

Mimi mwenyewe maishani mwangu sijawahi ku date mwanaume mwenye maneno ka chiriku. Maana najua tutakuwa tunapiga kelele si kuongea...na wala nisingeweza kudumu na mtu anaye ni shut nikiongea.

Na nikikutana na mtu awe ke au me anayeongea sana mi huwa nakaa kimyaaa. Kuna dada nimemjua kama mwaka hivi ni muongeaji....basi nikiwa nae mi natingisha kichwa tu maana simuwezi. Huyo dada ni mwanasiasa... na anajisifugi 'unajua sisi wanasiasa tunaongea sana'...mi nasema 'nawajua sana' aliwahi mpaka kugombea ubunge akakosa. Ila mume wake nimeshakutana nae ni mkimyaaa otherwise sijuhi kama angeweza kuishi na vuvuzela maana most ya mazungumzo yake ni nonsense.

Si kweli kwamba ni kawaida ya wanaume waongeaji kutopenda wanawake waongeaji.

Kuna wanaume waongeaji waliojaa vacuous talk, wamejaa majisifu kumpita Kiranga na kila mara wanataka waonekane wao wako juu (kumpita Kiranga, can you believe that?)

Kuna wanaume wengine wengi wa maneno na wanapenda wanawake wenye wingi wa maneno.

Mie mamaa wangu tukikaa hatuishi kuongea istilahi za Kiswahili, siasa, quantum physics, tamaduni za Watanzania kulinganisha na watu wa nje, etc.

Na heshi kuniburudisha kwa kila asemalo, maana ni kichwa. Na mie siishi kumpa vi quiz vya kiajabu ajabu, mara nimuulize maana ya maneno magumu ya kiswahili kuona kama anakikumbuka bado, mara kuongelea habari za Vladimir Putin na mkono wake wa chuma, mara muungano, mara familia zetu.

Basi ilimuradi karibu kila nitakalosema ni muziki masikioni pake, na yeye kila mara heshi kunishangaza kwa kunipa namna mpya ya kuangalia mambo, iliyojaa manzili, ucheshi wa shajara, haiba ya madaha, utanashati na mlahaka, nazaa zote za kike na nakawa iliyo hidaya maridhawa ya kuupa moyo wangu fanaka kuliko johari na libasi, iso dhihaka, uzembe wa kufikiri wala inda na kisirani.

Kwa hiyo twapeana utumbuizo murua sote, bila kashfa.

Na kukanusha maoni yako.

 

[sakapal]

Unajua kwa nini ndoa za siku hizi hazidumu?
Hili la wanawake kujifanya na wao wana vibesi ndani ya ndoa ndo vinachangia sana ndoa kuyumba.

sio vibesi tuanhitaji kuwa pampered na kubembelezwa sometimes japo life ni ngumu but as a wife nikideka nategemea kudekezwa hata kwenye teremka tukaze ntalala na mapenz yote utapata, nyama ya ulimi inajenga nyumba atiii

 

[FirstLady1]

hahahaha nimejikuta naangua kicheko
Mie kuna vistory nikianzisha nikiona sisikilizwi nabadilisha direction
Nikianza tu Mbunge wa Jimbo la Igunga kavuliwa Ubunge hivi ilikuwaje ?
Napata kampani nzuri sana ya maongezi...

 

[nyumba kubwa]

Kama unaona mna kopu jua wewe ndio mwongeaji yeye umemfundisha kuongea tu. Lol. Si unajua watu wakikaa muda mrefu wanafanana.

Mume wangu si muongeaji lakini si yule yule niliyeolewa nae...na yeye story ameshazijua ...lakini siwezi sema ni muongeaji bado.

Si kweli kwamba ni kawaida ya wanaume waongeaji kutopenda wanawake waongeaji.

Kuna wanaume waongeaji waliojaa vacuous talk, wamejaa majisifu kumpita Kiranga na kila mara wanataka waonekane wao wako juu (kumpita Kiranga, can you believe that?)

Kuna wanaume wengine wengi wa maneno na wanapenda wanawake wenye wingi wa maneno.

Mie mamaa wangu tukikaa hatuishi kuongea istilahi za Kiswahili, siasa, quantum physics, tamaduni za Watanzania kulinganisha na watu wa nje, etc.

Na heshi kuniburudisha kwa kila asemalo, maana ni kichwa. Na mie siishi kumpa vi quiz vya kiajabu ajabu, mara nimuulize maana ya maneno magumu ya kiswahili kuona kama anakikumbuka bado, mara kuongelea habari za Vladimir Putin na mkono wake wa chuma, mara muungano, mara familia zetu.

Basi ilimuradi karibu kila nitakalosema ni muziki masikioni pake, na yeye kila mara heshi kunishangaza kwa kunipa namna mpya ya kuangalia mambo, iliyojaa manzili, ucheshi wa shajara, haiba ya madaha, utanashati na mlahaka, nazaa zote za kike na nakawa iliyo hidaya maridhawa ya kuupa moyo wangu fanaka kuliko johari na libasi, iso dhihaka, uzembe wa kufikiri wala inda na kisirani.

Kwa hiyo twapeana utumbuizo murua sote, bila kashfa.

Na kukanusha maoni yako.

 

[sakapal]

a) Ni hivi dear, Unaweza uka'guess' pia kwamba I am a bit older(there are many factors that can help you come to that conclusion) so pia cycle yangu ya interaction ni kubwa kidogo but why bother...nadhani kwa sababu hapa tunafanya random commenting tungeallow a little room for error, we don't have to be 99.99% accurate!
At the end of the day we are just socializing.

b) Mimi naona wewe ni mvivu tu wa kumek intuitive deductions from matters my dear.

Tanawhatever - If me calling you dear bothers you then sue me!

heheee mmenichekesha sana na majibizano yenu, mmenikumbusha kuna kamsemu kalivuma miaka ilee ya 80s sijui mlikuwepo..?, ''WATOTO HAWA BWANA, KULA WANAKULA, KUVAA WANAVAA, LAKINI MMMH! KASHESHE!!''
heheheeeeee

 

[sakapal]

The Boss ndio maana nikasema stori zozote kwenye mahusiano ili zinoge lazima kuwepo na 'harmony'..
Unajua kikawaida stories zinaendana na movement..huwezi kumtaka mkeo akupigie stori za ujenzi wakati mko kwenye hadhara ya harusi..lazima mtapiga stori zinazoendana na muktadha. Binafsi naamini mazungumzo yananoga kama mna amani kwenye ndoa. Kama alivyosema Kiranga ni wajibu wa kila mmoja kuhakikisha kuwa amani inajengwa..na kila mtu anafurahia stori za mwenzie!

Love u more baby wangu lol, menimaliza kabisaa

 

[nyumba kubwa]

I wish ningekupa mifano hai hasa ya wanawake wanasiasa lakini ntakuwa sijawatendea haki.
Ni ngumu mtu muongeaji na muongeaji wakawa compatible believe it or not...
Sisi tuna kipaji cha kuongea na hakuna aliyeolewa au kuoa muongeaji ...and we are all happy with our partners.

Mtu mwongeaji anapenda kupata msikilizaji...sasa kama wote waongeaji nani atamsikiliza mwenzie????

Ila nakubali mkimya na mkimya mwenzie wanaweza kuwa compatible...ila mwongeaji na muongeaji...Mhhhh. Nyumba si itageuka kilabu cha pombe...kila mmoja anataka kusikilizwa?

Ndio maana nikasema hata mimi nikikutana na anayenizidi kuongea huwa nakaa kimya maana sipendi kelele...napenda story ambazo ni smooth.

Nadhani umefanya research yako wrongly..
Itakuwa kitu cha ajabu sana kama unadate mtu ambaye hamna 'compatibility'..
Miongoni mwa vitu vinavyowafanya watu wawe pamoja ni hili la kustorishana..
Sikatai inawezekana kuna 'extreme cases' ambapo me au ke ni mwongeaji kuliko mwenziwe kiasi cha kupigiwa mfano..
But my brain tells me kwamba pale ambapo kuna mwanamke muongeaji kuna mwanaume muongeaji pia..
Sema kwa muktadha wa mleta mada inaonekana 'wameanza kuchokana'..yaan mume hana furaha tena na stori za mkewe

 

[Kiranga]

Kama unaona mna kopu jua wewe ndio mwongeaji yeye umemfundisha kuongea tu. Lol. Si unajua watu wakikaa muda mrefu wanafanana.

Mume wangu si muongeaji lakini si yule yule niliyeolewa nae...na yeye story ameshazijua ...lakini siwezi sema ni muongeaji bado.

Huyu tumekutana, ndo maana tukamaindiana. Hakuna wa kumfundisha mwenzake, kila mmoja mjuaji.

Halafu haiba yake inamruhusu hata anapokosoa anakwenda kwa upole na hekima kama alilelewa katika kasri la Mfalme Suleiman vile.

 

[sakapal]

aaaaagh kwa kifupi wanaume hawapendi umbea, ndo maana nakukatiza na mistori yako....

heheheheeee sasa mbona huniambii au unanionea aibuuuu....? heheheheeee1 lol

 

[SnowBall]

Love u more baby wangu lol, menimaliza kabisaa

Mwambie shemeji akupe nyama ya ulimi bwana my dear sakapal
Akishindwa tutamsaidia.....lol! (i am kiddin)...

 

[sakapal]

madame labda unaongea kupitiliza, loh, punguza....

nimejaribu kupunguza na kuacha kabisa ila bado nikaambiwa nimekuwa kiburi kwa kukaa kimya sasa nifanye kipi? au hapendeki huyu? au ungekuwa wewe ungefanyaje...? jamani mbona vijimambo hivi?

 

[SnowBall]

hahahaha nimejikuta naangua kicheko
Mie kuna vistory nikianzisha nikiona sisikilizwi nabadilisha direction
Nikianza tu Mbunge wa Jimbo la Igunga kavuliwa Ubunge hivi ilikuwaje ?
Napata kampani nzuri sana ya maongezi...

Inaonyesha mumeo na wewe wote ni waongeaji ila mnapishana 'context'..
Wewe ukimletea za shigongo yeye anakuletea za Chadema.....duh!!!

 

[nyumba kubwa]

Mpaka nimeamua ku google...naendelea ku search mawazo ya wataalamu wa relationship

[h=1]Talkative wife and quiet husband?[/h]Hello friends, I wanted to ask the compatibility between spouses who are very different from each other, for example a wife who is talkative and a husband who is quiet and reserved. How is the romantic/love compatibility between them. Is it true that a talkative wife needs a husband who is macho in a bad boy sense. Do soft romantic/cuddly type husbands not turn them on. Just curious. It will be better if married people answer.

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[h=2]Best Answer - Chosen by Asker[/h]It is better if one is out going and the other is reserved. Or two reserved people. But two out spoken people do not work they always fight.

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• by Baldev Member since: 19 October 2007 Total points: 6,542 (Level 5)
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  Dear friend, first of all clear all your confusions and doubts that there is no relation between being talkative and being romantic, you don't have to be talkative to be romantic ok … on the contrary silent and reserved kind of people are more romantic … romance is about showing how much you love, the love that you have in your heart and not in your mouth …
  To show how much a man loves his wife he can do many things like giving her gifts, planning a romantic dinner or a movie, say I love you, care for her and all sorts of things … AND no matter how much talkative a girl is she cannot speak while kissing which is a everyone knows a way of showing love …
  
  And girls love to talk and always gets attracted to someone who listens … what can be a better match than this one …
  
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• by pleasure... Member since: 21 June 2011 Total points: 210 (Level 1)
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  Women have verbal ability more than men. Men are more rational so they talk less, think more. Women talk more think less because women are less rational as compared to men. History knows only male geniuses. Women talk without understanding the responsibilities while men say anything with responsibility. The chief responsibility of running a family always rests on the male members. So be responsible, head your family and control your wife by your ideological hegemony. The purpose of marriage is children and the continuity of the family line, not sexual satisfaction.
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• by roshan Member since: 13 October 2009 Total points: 199 (Level 1)
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  after marriage there is no question for comparison, talkative wife always want similar type husband, unless it will create big problems. im facing such kind of problems. im very talkative but he is silent, they want their wife also to be silent everytime, so it will make stress and sad, loneliness etc etc.. But there will not be any problem if wife tries or control to be silent everytime, communicate with others that is the best way.. or go for divorce
  
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• by CajunRed... Member since: 09 February 2010 Total points: 6,798 (Level 5)
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  well me and my husband are that way, but he's also very mono toned and apathatic by nature so he aggervated me to death, but he's a good guy. I do wish i would have married an extroverted fun talkative guy instead but my husband is a good dad, and a good man so i count my blessings....but i THINK the more you are ALIKE, the better the match, even though most couples are opposite...opposites attract.....but i think they then repel each other! lol
  
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• by Dana Pani Member since: 31 May 2011 Total points: 420 (Level 2)
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  Ext ream edge of both are worst, they cant live longer. Best is one has to compromise. Compatibility depends on other behavior at home, outside and on bed. Definitely a talkative person would love macho in bad boy but soft romantic/cuddly would also do the best because it would be all one way. No barrier for her to talk.
  
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• by R A V I Member since: 02 May 2006 Total points: 1,062 (Level 3)
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  Marriage itself compromising either in love or in arranged. If you have compromising mind then only your marriage life will good.Talkative,Soft,romantic doesn't matter.You have to scarify so many things for your partner. Every man is hungry tiger in bedroom, no need to worry about it.
  
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• by kissesxo... Member since: 05 November 2006 Total points: 1,068 (Level 3)
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  this is how my husband and I are but when it comes to sex he isn't so quiet any more lol.
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• by Rather be dead than red... Member since: 01 May 2006 Total points: 15,728 (Level 6)
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  Depends on whose the boss in bed.
  
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[sakapal]

sakapal tafuta hiki kitabu usome

nilikikuta sehemu nikakinunua tu nisome, nilichoka. yaani ni kama walikuwa wananizungumzia mimi. Nikawapa wadada 3, wakisome, yaani kila mdada aliona kama anazungumziwa yeye. huwa tuna makosa mengi sana tunayafanya tunapokuwa tunaongea na wenzetu, lakini hatujui kama tunakosea. sometimes timing mbaya (yupo busy na gazeti au TV wewe ndo unaanzisha stori), hatupo direct (tunazunguka zunguka tuuu, halafu tunategemea wataelewa)... na mengine mengi tu

Thanx Fixed Point, wacha nikitafute niongeze maujuzi

 

[SnowBall]

...Ni ngumu mtu muongeaji na muongeaji wakawa compatible believe it or not.....Ila nakubali mkimya na mkimya mwenzie wanaweza kuwa compatible...ila mwongeaji na muongeaji...Mhhhh. Nyumba si itageuka kilabu cha pombe...kila mmoja anataka kusikilizwa?.

nyumba kubwa tunaposema mtu mwongeaji hatusemi kupiga makelele..tunamaanisha 'charming' au 'engaging' person. Naona unachukulia mifano ya wanasiasa kama waongeaji wazuri..wengine wengi ni wapiga makelele...just 'noisy people'..Ila nashangaa unakubali compatibility ya watu wakimya ila unakataa ile waongeaji..

Nakubali kuwa mtu aweza kuwa mkimya but kama anapata mtu ambaye ni mstorishaji..taratibu aweza kuwa 'engaged' na kuwa mstorishaji mzuri aiseee...

 

[Kiranga]

Wanaume wasiopenda kuwasikiliza wake zao wanapoteza nafasi nzuri ya kuwajua wake hao, au hawataki kuwajua zaidi.

Yote mawili si mazuri kwa mapenzi. Kama kweli wanawapenda.Swala lenye huenda.

 

[Kiranga]

Mwambie shemeji akupe nyama ya ulimi bwana my dear sakapal
Akishindwa tutamsaidia.....lol! (i am kiddin)...

Mibazazi ishaanza.

Halafu inavunga kuvunga (i am kiddin)

 

[sakapal]

hapa mtoa mada umeonyesha jinsi ambavyo wanawake wako selfish..kwanini wewe uongee kila wakati? kwanini usikilizwe wewe tu kila wakati..mbona hutaki na yeye aongee mbona hutaki na yeye akupe story za kwake why should men always listen to women and not the other way around..sometimes sisi wanaume tunapenda ule ukimya kutafakari mambo mengi kichwani so kila mahali mkiwa mnaongea ni rahisi kupotezea...kwanza bora hata wa kwako anaongeza sauti ya redio..wengine wanaweza kua wanakuitikia we ukajua wanakusikiliza lakini mawazo yao yako mbali

bora akuitikie then upotezee kuliko kumkatisha shida itakuja pale anakuuliza swali wewe unaitikia eeh heheeee utakuwa umekamatika lol.
kwa suala la kuongea wanawake ni nature na wanaume wao nature yao kutembea so ikubali kama mapungufu ya mwanamke na uongee nae akupe muda mbona sie tunasikiliza vizuri tuu, sio umkatish vuup! nooh mueleze kwa upendo na hatuongei kila wakati coz masaa 12 anashinda job nami nashinda job so ni masaa 3 tu kweli unashindwa vumilia na si kila siku coz kuna siku nami nakuwa off mood sijisikii kuongea hata,

 

[sakapal]

Wanawake wengi nadhani tuna nature ya kuongea...lakini sioni kwa nini mume akasirike kama mazungumzo si mabaya. Mimi mume wangu nikiwa nae nikikaa kimya dakika kumi lazima tugombane...anapenda sana kusikiliza story zangu...mpaka inafika kipindi nachoka.

Kuna siku niliingia kwenye gari na novel nikaanza kusoma..akauliza NK mbona unanichunia leo? Yeye ni mkimya sana na ni patient anapenda sana kusikiliza na wala hakukatishi hata kama unachoongea kitakuwa kina bore. That is why I love him.

Mimi ni opposite nina tabia mbaya ni mwepesi wa kukatisha mtu akiwa anaongea nikiona story haina mpango.

Wakati mwingine ananunua gazeti la mwanahalisi afu ananambia nimsomee wakati anaendelea ku drive. I think I am very lucky.

Ila najua asichopenda ni kuleta stori tukiwa kitandani. Na hilo naepuka. Kitandani ni dirty talks tu basi.

Nadhani tatizo mlilo nalo nyie waume zenu pia ni waongeaji...muongeaji na muongeaji hawawezi kuwa compatible...nani atamsikiliza mwenzie???? Nikikutana na mtu mwenye maneno kama mie uwa nakaaga kimyaaa. Maana inakuwa kama tunashindana vile.

hongera nyumba kubwa, thats true kabisa, ni bahati kupata anaekuelewa, shida ni kwamba wakati mnaanzana alikuwa nasikiliza hadi wewe ndo unachoka now looh ukianza tuu anakwambia twende tukalale aaah!