The Ugly truth: Tunaishi kwenye dunia iliyojaa watu wenye ubinafsi wa kihisia

The Ugly truth: Tunaishi kwenye dunia iliyojaa watu wenye ubinafsi wa kihisia

Culture Me said:
It hurts to love someone
and not be loved in return
But what is more painful is to love someone
and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel,

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right ones
So, that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift,

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion
and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person.

A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be
and that you just have to let go.

When the door of happiness closes, another opens but oftentimes we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you have ever had.

It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back!
Don't expect love in return;
just wait for it to grow in their heart,
but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.

There are things you'd love to hear that you would never hear from the person whom you would like to hear them from
but don't be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from his heart.

Never say goodbye if you still want to try
never give up if you still feel you can go on
never say you don't love a person anymore if you can't let go.

Love comes to those who still hope although they've been disappointed to those who still believe although they've been betrayed
to those who still love although they've been hurt before,
and to those who have courage
and faith to build trust again.

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth;
even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
Hope you find someone that makes you smile.
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Very strong and emotional words, let me copy and keep it for me .



Let's meet at the top, cheers 🍻
 
Mla Bata said:
Wasaalam!

Ni ukweli pasi na shaka, hakuna kitu kizuri duniani kama mapenzi, kupendwa, iwe na ndugu (familia), rafiki ama mpenzi.

Love is most beautiful feeling in the world, yet people are afraid to be in it. 😤

Whether we know it or not most of us are afraid of really being in love.

Kupitia nyuzi mbalimbali ndani ya majukwaa ya JF ama nje ya majukwaa hayo watu wengi wanaonekana kuhalalisha swala la kuingia kwenye mahusiano nusu nusu "mguu nje, mguu ndani" kwa kigezo cha kuepuka kuumia itapotokea uhusiano kuvunjika or whatever.

People afraid of investing their emotions kwa wapenzi wao au mahusiano yao kwa kigezo tu cha kuogopa kuumizwa.

Our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of relationship, we all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt.

These defenses may offer us a false illusion of safety or security, but they keep us from attaining the closeness we most desire.

I wonder how can someone be in relationship na aka control kiwango cha kumpenda mtu huku akijiangalia nafsi yake kujilinda na kuumia na maumivu ya mapenzi hapo baadae, for me that is "Selfishness" tunatengeneza mazingira ya kuua mahusiano yetu mwanzoni kabisa, kwa hisia zetu za ubinafsi.

Love must be Unconditionally as affection without any limitations/conditions.

Jamii, vijana tumejawa na ubinafsi wa kihisia huku kila mtu akiingia kwenye mahusiano kwa kujihami, tunawezaje kutegemea mahusiano kufika mbali kwa minajiri hiyo?

What drives our fears of intimacy? What keeps us from finding and keeping the love we say we want?

We have to stop being so emotionally selfish.

Selfishness destroys relationship, let's be real and honestly to our feelings.

No matter umekutana na changamoto gani kwenye mahusiano yako yaliyopita, tambua dunia bado ina watu wazuri sana wanaoishi. Set yourself free from the heavy burden of your past and let love leads.


Let's meet at the top, cheers 🍻
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True love na thamani ya upendo wa penzi haiexist kabisa..especialy in africa..najua mtanishambulia lakini wachache wenye akili wataelewa ninachoongea...sababu wanaume wa kiafrica kwa asilimia kubwa wamehalalisha michepuko kiasi kwamba mwanaume asiecheat anaitwa mgonjwa au hana hela...seriously? Dunia imefika pabaya na upendo wa wengi umepoa hadi kwenye ndoa ni vilio tu
 
kissgarage said:
True love na thamani ya upendo wa penzi haiexist kabisa..especialy in africa..najua mtanishambulia lakini wachache wenye akili wataelewa ninachoongea...sababu wanaume wa kiafrica kwa asilimia kubwa wamehalalisha michepuko kiasi kwamba mwanaume asiecheat anaitwa mgonjwa au hana hela...seriously? Dunia imefika pabaya na upendo wa wengi umepoa hadi kwenye ndoa ni vilio tu
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You're right though sidhani kama tatizo lipo kwa wanaume pekee.


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joseph1989 said:
Siamini kama leo na ww unamini ktk feelings,kwa hiyo pochi na feelings bora feelings au sio [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787].
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Ukiona hivyo ujue pochi imekuwa ngumu hivyo namna pekee ilobakia ni feelings tu. Ila na pochi isiwe mbali.
 
Espy said:
[emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]
Ukiona hivyo ujue pochi imekuwa ngumu hivyo namna pekee ilobakia ni feelings tu. Ila na pochi isiwe mbali.
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😀😀😀
 
Samcezar said:
Watu wapo selfish kwasababu ya mambo kadha wa kadha.

1. Mahusiano ya nyuma na mambo waliyokutana nayo.

2. Makuzi aliyopitia kutokea utotoni, kuna watu hawajui nini maana ya neno affection in reality. Hawajawahi kupata upando kwenye familia zao na wamekuwa hivyo, ukimuonyesha upendo anaona kama unamuigizia au haupo real kwake.

3. Kukosa umakini, kuwa serious. Kuna watu sababu ya kutokuwa na malengo ya kimaisha huingia katika mahusiano kama sehemu ya kula bata tu, ila sio kuwa serious na mtu na kuweka malengo. Hii ni aina ya uchoyo kwa kutokuwa considerate na hisia za mwingine pamoja na muda wake anaopoteza kwake.

4. Kutokuelewa nature ya binadamu na tabia zake. Kuna watu huwa wanataka mtu a behave na kuwa namna vile wao wanataka akiona tofauti anaanza kujenga hisia kuwa huyu mtu si sahihi kwangu. Yet haujiulizi ni kwann yeye kila anaekutana nae basi anashida kwake. Haujiulizi kwann analist kubwa ya MaX. Kuwa na vigezo vya kujilazimishia huwa zinawapa watu kichaa cha kutaka kuamua ni mtu gani aje katika maisha yao jambo ambalo ni upuuzi. Unaweza dhani mwanaume mrefu mwenye sauti nzito ndie unahitaji ili kuwa na furaha ila ukashangaa picha ni tofuti kumbe mfupi ndie anakupa amani ya moyo.
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Namba3 umenibariki sana
 
Espy said:
Tumeyafanya mapenzi yamekuwa kitu cha ajabu ajabu tu eti mara tunapimiana, mara tunategeana sijui hata raha yake nini. Mpende mtu kama hakupendi basi ni his/her loss wala hutakiwi kujilaumu kwa kumpenda mtu.
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True ..unachopaswa wewe kufanya nikuwa positive tu .ukiwa positive then ikatokea mtu akakusaliti mwenye tatizo anakuwa ni yeye nasio wewe .. Wewe unapaswa kujivunia ktk upande sahihi
 
Mla Bata said:
Wasaalam!

Ni ukweli pasi na shaka, hakuna kitu kizuri duniani kama mapenzi, kupendwa, iwe na ndugu (familia), rafiki ama mpenzi.

Love is most beautiful feeling in the world, yet people are afraid to be in it. [emoji36]

Whether we know it or not most of us are afraid of really being in love.

Kupitia nyuzi mbalimbali ndani ya majukwaa ya JF ama nje ya majukwaa hayo watu wengi wanaonekana kuhalalisha swala la kuingia kwenye mahusiano nusu nusu "mguu nje, mguu ndani" kwa kigezo cha kuepuka kuumia itapotokea uhusiano kuvunjika or whatever.

People afraid of investing their emotions kwa wapenzi wao au mahusiano yao kwa kigezo tu cha kuogopa kuumizwa.

Our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of relationship, we all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt.

These defenses may offer us a false illusion of safety or security, but they keep us from attaining the closeness we most desire.

I wonder how can someone be in relationship na aka control kiwango cha kumpenda mtu huku akijiangalia nafsi yake kujilinda na kuumia na maumivu ya mapenzi hapo baadae, for me that is "Selfishness" tunatengeneza mazingira ya kuua mahusiano yetu mwanzoni kabisa, kwa hisia zetu za ubinafsi.

Love must be Unconditionally as affection without any limitations/conditions.

Jamii, vijana tumejawa na ubinafsi wa kihisia huku kila mtu akiingia kwenye mahusiano kwa kujihami, tunawezaje kutegemea mahusiano kufika mbali kwa minajiri hiyo?

What drives our fears of intimacy? What keeps us from finding and keeping the love we say we want?

We have to stop being so emotionally selfish.

Selfishness destroys relationship, let's be real and honestly to our feelings.

No matter umekutana na changamoto gani kwenye mahusiano yako yaliyopita, tambua dunia bado ina watu wazuri sana wanaoishi. Set yourself free from the heavy burden of your past and let love leads.


Let's meet at the top, cheers [emoji482]
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Mapenzi yamekuwa kama fumbo la imani
 
cariha said:
Mimi hupenda robo robo,naupenda moyo wangu na furaha yangu, na mapenzi kwangu sio kiupaumbele. Na nikiona nakolea upendo naachana
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Nimeishi hayo maisha unayoishi wewe muda mrefu yanafaida zake tena kubwa
1 wapo nikuepuka kuwa katika maumivu mara kwa mara na Mlima wa stress .pia inasaidia kukupa time ya kuweza kufanya mambo yako yanayo husu malengo makubwa uliyojiwekea ktk maisha

But changamoto iliyopo ni kwamba Kama hautotaka kubadilika waweza jikuta unaumiza hisia za watu wengi katika maisha yako cuz inaweza kutokea ukapata mpenzi akawa anakupenda kweli kwa dhati ya moyo wake wote tena akawa anajitoa kwako kisawa sawa " but kwakuwa wewe umeshapoteza hisia za upendo utashindwa kuuthamini upendo anaokupatia na mwisho wa siku utamuumiza. .. hii ni mbaya waweza kumsababishia mtu mauti " Binafsi naogopa sana kumsababishia binaadamu mwenzangu maumivu

Though jambo lingine ni kwamba waweza jikuta unampoteza mtu muhimu sana katika maisha yako bila ya wewe kutambua
 
Mla Bata said:
Wasaalam!

Ni ukweli pasi na shaka, hakuna kitu kizuri duniani kama mapenzi, kupendwa, iwe na ndugu (familia), rafiki ama mpenzi.

Love is most beautiful feeling in the world, yet people are afraid to be in it. [emoji36]

Whether we know it or not most of us are afraid of really being in love.

Kupitia nyuzi mbalimbali ndani ya majukwaa ya JF ama nje ya majukwaa hayo watu wengi wanaonekana kuhalalisha swala la kuingia kwenye mahusiano nusu nusu "mguu nje, mguu ndani" kwa kigezo cha kuepuka kuumia itapotokea uhusiano kuvunjika or whatever.

People afraid of investing their emotions kwa wapenzi wao au mahusiano yao kwa kigezo tu cha kuogopa kuumizwa.

Our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of relationship, we all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt.

These defenses may offer us a false illusion of safety or security, but they keep us from attaining the closeness we most desire.

I wonder how can someone be in relationship na aka control kiwango cha kumpenda mtu huku akijiangalia nafsi yake kujilinda na kuumia na maumivu ya mapenzi hapo baadae, for me that is "Selfishness" tunatengeneza mazingira ya kuua mahusiano yetu mwanzoni kabisa, kwa hisia zetu za ubinafsi.

Love must be Unconditionally as affection without any limitations/conditions.

Jamii, vijana tumejawa na ubinafsi wa kihisia huku kila mtu akiingia kwenye mahusiano kwa kujihami, tunawezaje kutegemea mahusiano kufika mbali kwa minajiri hiyo?

What drives our fears of intimacy? What keeps us from finding and keeping the love we say we want?

We have to stop being so emotionally selfish.

Selfishness destroys relationship, let's be real and honestly to our feelings.

No matter umekutana na changamoto gani kwenye mahusiano yako yaliyopita, tambua dunia bado ina watu wazuri sana wanaoishi. Set yourself free from the heavy burden of your past and let love leads.


Let's meet at the top, cheers [emoji482]
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Daah ,,mkuu naona kiingereza chakuzidii,,. Kuna vipengele hatujaenda sawa. Ila nimeng'amua tu kuwa mada inahusu mapenzi
 
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