There is a saying that goes like "If you don't know where u r going, any road will take u there"
Kitendo cha wewe kuuliza ni wazi kuwa unaandaa hadaa juu ya mwenzako, pia hujui nini unataka wewe mwenyewe! kama nyote mna malengo ya ndoa basi subirini muoane. Ila hili si jambo la kuambiwa, u either have this standard in u or u just don't have it.