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Kwa msingi huo, kisaikolojia, ukomavu katika maisha yetu hupimwa kwa namna mtu anavyoweza kudhibiti ubinafsi huo unaoishi ndani yake. Mtu aliyekomaa kisaikolojia, ni yule mwenye uwezo wa kumtanguliza mwenzake kwa maana ya kujali mahitaji ya mwenzake kama anavyoweza kujali mahitaji yake binafsi. Mtu mkomavu ni yule anayeweza kuvaa viatu vya mwenzake na kuyafanya mahitaji ya mwenzake kuwa mmoja wapo ya vipaumbele vyake.
 
Ubinafsi na ndoa



Haiwezekani urafiki mzuri ustawi katika mazingira ambayo kila mmoja anapigania maslahi yake wenyewe bila kujali maslahi ya mwenzake. Urafiki wowote wa karibu unajengwa kwenye msingi wa watu wawili kuwa tayari kuvuka handaki la ubinafsi.
 
Inapotokea watu wawili wasioweza kudhibiti ubinafsi wao wanaamua kuishi pamoja, upo uwezekano mkubwa wa kutokea mifarakano. Mmoja anapotanguliza mahitaji yake, mwingine hujisikia kutumika na wakati mwingine kunyanyasika. Hapa ndipo matatizo yanapoanzia.
 
Ndio kusema ndoa bora hujengwa wawili wanapofanikiwa kupambana na ubinafsi wao. Bila ubinafsi, kwa mfano, ni rahisi mtu kujali hisia za mwenzake hata kama na yeye anazo hisia zake. Bila ubinafsi inawezekana kuvumilia tofauti ya mawazo kati ya watu wawili wanaotofautiana kimtazamo. Bila ubinafsi, watu wawili wanaweza kusameheana.
 
Ushauri


Kwa kijana anayefikiria kuingia kwenye ndoa, ni vyema kuanza maandalizi kwa kupambana na hulka ya kutanguliza mahitaji yake mbele ya mahitaji ya mwenzake. Ukiweza kudhibiti ubinafsi wako utaweza kujitoa kwa mwenzako kwa kiwango kinachostahili. Ukiweza kudhibiti ubinafsi utakuwa kwenye nafasi nzuri zaidi ya kufanya juhudi za kutambua na kuelewa tafuta mahitaji ya mwenzako. Lazima kuanza kujifunza namna ya kujali hisia za wengine kuliko kusubiri mtu mwingine wa kujali hisia zako.
 
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"In trying to become like someone else, we are reducing our own marks. If we are not satisfied with our own self can not find satisfaction anywhere in the world. Nobody can make the whole world happy. We should learn to keep our own self happy and remain happy under all circumstances in life. The key to being happy is a non-insisting mind, non-complaining mind, and a pure mind."

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[emoji736][emoji736][emoji736]i agree
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The loneliest people are the kindest

The saddest people smile the brightest

The most damaged people are the wisest

All because they don't wish to see anyone else suffer the same...

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