For instance, saying "Can I kiss you?" before going for that first kiss is a TERRIBLE thing to do. First of all, it ruins the anticipation and the romantic tension. Second, it communicates to a woman that you are a total wimp and don't have the balls to kiss her if you see that the moment is right. And lastly, it puts a woman in an uncomfortable position -- what is she supposed to say - "Yes, go ahead" - how stupid would she feel if she does that.