Wanaopenda how our mind works na sio wavivu kusoma pitieni hapa chini. Sio story za mbususu zinakupa furaha hii unaumiza kichwa hivyo kikimbize kwa Uzi wa r boy ili kipate furaha na upate sex stimulation.
Understand what emotions are and how they impact your life
Identify negative emotions that control your life and learn to
overcome them
Change your story to take better control over your life and create
a more compelling future, and
Reprogram your mind to experience more positive emotions.
In fact, one single criticism can often outweigh hundreds of positive ones.
That’s why, an author with fifty 5-star reviews, is likely to feel terrible
when they receive a single 1-star review. While the author understands the
1-star review isn’t a threat to her survival, her authorial brain doesn’t. It
likely interprets the negative review as a threat to her ego which triggers
an emotional reaction.
The fear of rejection can also lead you to over-dramatize events. If your
boss criticized you at work, your brain may see the event as a threat and
you now think, “What if I’m fired? What if I can’t find a job quickly
enough and my wife leaves me? What about my kids? What if I can’t see
them again?” While you are fortunate to have such an effective survival
mechanism, it is also your responsibility to separate real threats from
imaginary ones. If you don’t, you’ll experience unnecessary pain and
worry that will negatively impact the quality of your life. To overcome
this bias towards negativity, you must reprogram your mind. One of a
human being’s greatest powers is our ability to use our thoughts to shape
our reality and interpret events in a more empowering way. dopamine can mess with your happiness
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter which, among other functions, plays a
major role in rewarding certain behaviors. When dopamine is released into
specific areas of your brain—the pleasure centers—you get a high. This is
what happens during exercise, when you gamble, have sex, or eat great
food.
One of the roles of dopamine is to ensure you look for food so you don't
die of starvation, and you search for a mate so you can reproduce. Without
dopamine, our species would likely be extinct by now. It’s a pretty good
thing, right?
Well, yes and no. In today’s world, this reward system is, in many cases,
obsolete. While in the past, dopamine was linked to our survival instinct,
The release of dopamine can now be generated artificially. A great
example of this effect is social media, which uses psychology to suck as
much time as possible out of your life. Have you noticed all these
notifications that pop up constantly? They’re used to trigger a release of
dopamine so you stay connected, and the longer you stay connected, the
more money the services make. Watching pornography or gambling also
leads to a release a dopamine which can make these activities highly
addictive.
Fortunately, we don’t need to act each time our brain releases dopamine.
For instance, we don’t need to constantly check our Facebook newsfeeds
just because it gives us a pleasurable shot of dopamine.
Marketers perfectly understand people’s need to identify with things. They
know people don’t just buy a product, they also buy the emotions or story
attached to the product. Often, you buy certain clothes or a particular car
because you want to tell a story about yourself. For instance, you may
want to enhance your status, look cool or express your unique personality,
and choose the products most closely associated with these ideals.
This is how the ego works. It uses things to create a story you can identify
with. It doesn’t mean things are wrong per se. It’s a negative issue only
when you become overly attached to things, believing they can fulfill you
—which they can’t.
If you are honest with yourself, you’ll realize most of the things you do
are attempts to obtain the approval of others. You want your parents to be
proud of you, your boss to respect you, and your wife to love you.Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is
cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t
need people.
— ANTHONY DE MELLO