Mwanamke unawezaje kuishi kwenye ndoa na mwanaume ambae hauna hisia nae?

[Idimi]

Dah. Hii mbaya sana. Ndio maana wataalamu wa mahusiano wanasema "MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND". Ukioa ama kuolewa na mtu mliyeshibana na mmejuana na kupendana kwa muda mrefu kuna uwezekano mkubwa sana wa kudumu katika mahusiano.

Inatokea sana.....nina wifi yangu aliolewa na mwanaume hampendi mapenzi walikuwa wakishiriki kwa kuwa tu ni mume wake, miaka 15 kwenye ndoa na watoto juu ila saivi anasema ameshindwa anataka waachane

 

[Chipolopolo]

😂😂😂✌🔥🔥🔥

😁😂 on fire.

 

[Chipolopolo]

Mungu atusamehe ila yule wa kwangu naona ameanza kuelewa kitu

Kwamba ameelewa humpendiii?

 

[Mr Miller]

1. nlivutiwa na vile he is 'a good package', the least I can say,

2. dada yangu alinambia , usipoteze chance ya kuwa nae "he is one in millions"

Those are two fcuken reasons you have to stay with him and struggle by hooks and crooks to love him.

The same dada of yours will teach you how to love him, you know why...!!!! HE IS A ONE IN A MILLION.....

3. The besty last option ni kuiweka picha yake mitandaoni hasa FB na hapa JF halafu nadi anatafuta mchepuko na weka na namba zake za simu. Akifanikiwa kupata gumegume linalompikia ugali laini halafu anauremba kama taulo la kujifutia mikono na mboga anaziremba kama swimmingpool na garden ndo utatambua kama umewezaje kuishi nae muda wote huo wakati huna INTIMACY nae.

Ukifanikiwa hii last option, aidha utampenda milele au utaachana nae milele, then get prepared kuwa single parent au mseja for good.

mh

 

[Chipolopolo]

😀😀😀 duh..bas ww unajicho kali..yaan unahisi kila.unayemtongoza atavutika na ww?duh

😀😀😀😀kuna vitu hujionyesha tu best wangu

 

[dimatteo]

Papuchi mbona huwa anaomba ila kisiasa sana mi najitoa tu ufahamu najifanya sijamuelewa

Mpe tuu papuchi...hutapungukiwa nakitu....zaidi ya kumuongezea uaminifu...

 

[dimatteo]

Sasa hapa unazungumzia assumption babu.siyo wote walioolewa wametoka kwenye dhiki au hawana vipato. Halafu huyo anaewadanganya mwanamke akizaa anachakaa nani? Vijana nawafundisha sasa utamu wa mwanamke unaanza pale anapoanza kuzaa kama mlikua hamjui.

Daaah itakuwa kweli mana papuchi ya alie zaa ni tamu balaa

 

[Khantwe]

Kwamba ameelewa humpendiii?

Yes swahiba

 

[Khantwe]

Mpe tuu papuchi...hutapungukiwa nakitu....zaidi ya kumuongezea uaminifu...

Nitapungukiwa sana tu

 

[Wangari Maathai]

😀😀😀😀kuna vitu hujionyesha tu best wangu

thawa thawa unaweza niambia mfano?

 

[0ozg Tz]

Huwa sishangai kuona mwanamke analeta mgomo SKU ya ndoa tena kanisani,hawa watu unaweza ukamforce ktu na akakubali kwa asilimia chache afu we ukahis kaeleweka kumbe la!

 

[MkuluTess]

Stail hii michepuko ni Dili

 

[Heaven Sent]

My dear kuna mtu alishawahi kukufundisha kuwapenda wazazi, watoto wako au ndugu zako? Tulijikuta tu tunawapenda since we found them there for us. Muda tunaoutumia pamoja, vitu tunavyofanya pamoja, wanavyotujali automatically tunajikuta na sisi tunawapenda na kuwajali na tunatengeneza bond ambayo si rahisi kuvunjika. Ndiyo maana utagombana nao weee, mtanuniana but still mtamend your broken relationship. Anza kumjali mumeo, mchukulie kama ndo nusu yako, furaha yako; fanya vitu vitakavyompa furaha. Yani anza kuona kuwa huyo ndo mumeo, na hiyo ndo ndoa yako na hutokuwa na ndoa nyingine, na huna option nyingine ila kuona ndoa yako (including wewe mwenyewe), mna furaha.

Ungekuwa kwenye dating maybe tungekushauri muachane, ila ndo mmeshakuwa familia tayari. You were very selfish kuingia ndoani na huyo mwanaume now clear your conscience, mfanye mumeo kama ndo "project" yako mpya unayoianzisha ukiwa na "goal" ya kutengeneza ndoa imara yenye furaha. Put in your all; sacrifice everything you can to make your marriage enjoyable.

Ndugu, sijui kama unajua how blessed you are to have such kind of a man; He is such a rare gem (inawezekana unajua ila kwa sababu upo naye, unaona kama kitu cha kawaida tu). Ukikutana na "waathirika wa ndoa", utalia na kujuta kwa nini unamfanyia hivyo mumeo. Afu wanaume wa hivyo siku akigundua jinsi unavyomuwazia ndugu you will surely regret. Atakavyokubadilikia, hutoamini kamwe na inawezekana isiwe rahisi sana kuja kurudisha mambo kama yalivyokuwa before . You have bagged yourself a good man; usiwe mwanamke mpumbavu; keep him oooh keep him.

Amua kwamba unataka kuwa na ndoa ya furaha. Muaccept/embrace mumeo. I know kuna wishes/matarajio fulani kwenye maisha lakini hadi leo hujayapata, je umeacha kuenjoy maisha au umesema haya ndo maisha yangu na nitayaishi to the fullest? Amua kuenjoy your marriage mama. Ukija makanisani wenzio wanavyoomba hata waume zao waugue angalau tu waweze kupata muda wa kukaa nao......! Amua tu mama.

Btw, huko moyoni mwako hamna mtu/ex ambaye umembeba and possibly ndo anakufanya unashindwa kureciprocate upendo wa mumeo? Leave everything behind for the sake of your marriage.

 

[in ha]

Nashukuru Mungu nlikwepa huo mtego wa kuolew na mtu nisiye na hisia nae ,nliamua kuwa na subira hadi nlipompata tunae endana tena nlimpata katika namna ambayo haikua rahisi kuamini... subira ni ibada...pole bibie

 

[Rocky City]

Seriously, huwa anapiga picha na wadada wazuri wazuri anaokutana nao kwenye kazi zake sijawahi hata kushtuka, halafu kazi yake inamweka busy hatari inaweza kupita miezi hatujawasiliana sijawahi hata kummisi

Anafanya kazi gani kwanza kama hutojali na mm nipate pa kuanzia?

 

[Khantwe]

Anafanya kazi gani kwanza kama hutojali na mm nipate pa kuanzia?

Hahaha kazi yake siwezi kukwambia maana wanaomjua wataunganisha dots hapa iwe tabu

 

[Heaven Sent]

huyu tumkutanishe na Heaven Sent huenda akawa msaada kwake

At this stage, me naona hana option. Afike stage aamue tu kuwa "from today I will enjoy my man". Inawezekana ana wants nyingine, ila this is a kind of a man that she needs. Kwenye maisha ukikosa unachokitaka basi unaenjoy tu unachokipata. A lesson to all single ladies out there, ukishindwa kujifunza kumpenda mtu huku nje, extend muda wa kufunga ndoa hadi uanze kumpenda; ukishindwa kabisa, muache tu. Usimzibie mtu riziki ya kuwa na mtu watakayependana naye, kwa wewe kufunga naye ndoa while humpendi kabisa.

Afu maybe anamchukulia mumewe kawaida tu kwa sababu si ni wa kwake, anaye ndani; ngoja siku ajue kuna mwanamke mwingine ndo atajua anampendaje mumewe...... Kwa stage aliyofikia ajue tu kutofautisha Needs and Wants

Dota Heaven Sent hebu kuja mpenzi utoe tiba.

 

[Internal]

Women are from mars and men are from venus

 

[msolopaganzi1954]

Wakati wa uhusiano kabla ya ndoa nlikua na sita juu ya hisia zangu za kimapenzi juu yake, hakua na shida yoyote na nlivutiwa na vile he is 'a good package', the least I can say, ni mkaka mzuri sana,mchapakazi, mkarimu na ana upendo wa dhati.

Nlipokuwa najitafakari na kuomba ushauri watu wa karibu including dada yangu alinambia usipoteze chance ya kuwa nae "he is one in millions" na utajifunza kumpenda taratibu. Lakini muda umepita sana bado sijajifunza kumpenda. Siku ya harusi yangu nlijua kabisa ninasita sita, yaani ile furaha ile saaana sikua nayo. Nlijua tu labda ni woga wa tukio kubwa sana maishani lakini hata baada ya hapo hisia zangu hazijabadilika.

Ni mume mzuri, ananipenda na kunijali sana, hana shida kabisa na tunatunza familia yetu vizuri kabisa na tunaelewana katika aspects nyingine za maisha vizuri na hatuna ugomvi wala mikwaruzano, lakini shida ni kuwa ile chemistry haipo, yaani sipendi intimacy nae, sitamani aniguse , anibusu wala anishike.

Sijawahi kucheat ila natamani kujua namna gani nifanye ili niweze kufurahia ndoa yangu

Kwa mwanamke kawaida due to Biological, but mwanaume haitadumu

 

[Bambii]

My dear kuna mtu alishawahi kukufundisha kuwapenda wazazi, watoto wako au ndugu zako? Tulijikuta tu tunawapenda since we found them there for us. Muda tunaoutumia pamoja, vitu tunavyofanya pamoja, wanavyotujali automatically tunajikuta na sisi tunawapenda na kuwajali na tunatengeneza bond ambayo si rahisi kuvunjika. Ndiyo maana utagombana nao weee, mtanuniana but still mtamend your broken relationship. Anza kumjali mumeo, mchukulie kama ndo nusu yako, furaha yako; fanya vitu vitakavyompa furaha. Yani anza kuona kuwa huyo ndo mumeo, na hiyo ndo ndoa yako na hutokuwa na ndoa nyingine, na huna option nyingine ila kuona ndoa yako (including wewe mwenyewe), mna furaha.

Ungekuwa kwenye dating maybe tungekushauri muachane, ila ndo mmeshakuwa familia tayari. You were very selfish kuingia ndoani na huyo mwanaume now clear your conscious, mfanye mumeo kama ndo "project" yako mpya unayoianzisha ukiwa na "goal" ya kutengeneza ndoa imara yenye furaha. Put in your all; sacrifice everything you can to make your marriage enjoyable.

Ndugu, sijui kama unajua how blessed you are to have such kind of a man; He is such a rare gem (inawezekana unajua ila kwa sababu upo naye, unaona kama kitu cha kawaida tu). Ukikutana na "waathirika wa ndoa", utalia na kujuta kwa nini unamfanyia hivyo mumeo. Afu wanaume wa hivyo siku akigundua jinsi unavyomuwazia ndugu you will surely regret. Atakavyokubadilikia, hutoamini kamwe na inawezekana isiwe rahisi sana kuja kurudisha mambo kama yalivyokuwa before . You have bagged yourself a good man; usiwe mwanamke mpumbavu; keep him oooh keep him.

Amua kwamba unataka kuwa na ndoa ya furaha. Muaccept/embrace mumeo. I know kuna wishes/matarajio fulani kwenye maisha lakini hadi leo hujayapata, je umeacha kuenjoy maisha au umesema haya ndo maisha yangu na nitayaishi to the fullest? Amua kuenjoy your marriage mama. Ukija makanisani wenzio wanavyoomba hata waume zao waugue angalau tu waweze kupata muda wa kukaa nao......! Amua tu mama.

Btw, huko moyoni mwako hamna mtu/ex ambaye umembeba and possibly ndo anakufanya unashindwa kureciprocate upendo wa mumeo? Leave everything behind for the sake of your marriage.

Thank you
Thank you
Thank you !!moyo wangu umejiskia kuinuka mno baada ya kusoma ushauri wako. Help me Oh God, to see how blessed I am, teach me to reciprocate my husband's love.
You are truly heaven sent