Wakinamama wanaolea watoto bila baba (single mothers): Sababu, athari kwa mtoto, changamoto na mitazamo ya jamii

Wakinamama wanaolea watoto bila baba (single mothers): Sababu, athari kwa mtoto, changamoto na mitazamo ya jamii

Meraki said:
Habari zenu.

Nasema hivi. Mwanaume yeyote rijali hawezi kuoa mwanamke single mother. Ninaposema single mother namaanisha wewe mwanamke uliyezaa kabla ya kuolewa.

Na ninaposema rijali namaanisha mwanaume mwenye akili sawa sawa au bara bara anayefikiri kwa usahihi asiyeendeshwa na mihemko bali hutumia akili yake kutafakari mambo. Hii ina maana mwanaume chizi au mwenye ugonjwa wa akili sio rijali. Ili uwe rijali ni lazima uwe na akili timilifu. Ushahidi ni kwamba mwanaume hanithi anapungukiwa pia akili. (Sitaki kulizungumzia hili) na ukishapungukiwa akili wewe sio rijali.


Ukweli ni kwamba mama zetu ( sisi wanaume) wanafurahi zaidi kama utampa taarifa kuwa unamuowa bint ambaye hajawahi kuzaa. Achilia mbali bikra ambayo hata hivyo wanatamani uwaambie unamuowa bikra. Ni heri uwaambie unamuowa bint uliyezaa naye wewe mwenyewe mtoto wake wa kwanza kuliko kuwaambia wamama eti....eti...unamuowa Lilian single mother!!! Nyoyo husononeka ingawa hawawezi kusema wazi wazi. Utasikia tu mama akisema "Kama umempenda na mnapendana sawa" Tafakari sana haya maneno kijana unayetaka kumuowa single mother.

Ni uzembe wa hali juu sana kuzaa kabla ya ndoa. Ni mwanamke ndiye unayeamua ushike mimba au usishike. Sisi wanaume huwa tunatandika tu.....sasa kama you don't take care about yourself....who else will? Halafu unamlaumu mwanaume kakutia mimba na hajakuowa.

Asikulaghai kwa maneno matamu yoyote yale eti beba mimba kabla hajakuowa. Usikubali. Na mwisho wa siku uamuzi unao wewe wa kubeba mimba au lah. Sasa mnakwama wapi? Be smart.

"Asiponioa ntalea mwenyewe!" Huo ni uzembe.....tunajua mna vipato vyenu....mna pesa zenu, mnayamudu maisha....mnaweza kulea watoto wenu. Nikuulize, hivi kuna raha gani kulea mtoto peke yako? Mnapojitosheleza kiuchumi na kijamii (kutokuwa single mother), machaguo yanaongezeka. Hamuoni? Basi someni. Baadaye mnasema kuolewa bahati. Kuolewa sio bahati. Kuolewa mna haki wala msiite bahati....we unadhani wanangu mi ntalea na nani? R.I.P Ngwea

Jamaa akuzalishe huko halafu mi nije nikuoe? Acheni masihara nyie. Mi hakuna niliyemzalisha bila ndoa nikampiga chini sina sababu ya kuowa single mother.

Na wewe single mother uliyekaa chini ukaona ulikosea wapi na sasa umekuwa RAIA mwema, good luck. Ukimpata anayeeleweka mwambie akuoe. Kijana haukatazwi kuoa single mother. Ukimpata oa......yajayo ni yako.

Hakuna mwanaume RIJALI anayeweza kuowa single mother, kwa sababu za kimaadili. Period.


Meraki
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Yaan wanawake wote ukaoe jitu limezalishwa watoto?hii laana inipishie mbali.
 
Meraki said:
That is not the only condition to be a man. He who runs away from a pregnant girl, to whom he's responsible is not a man, too. Any question so far?
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You know what...,I don't think any mother aims to be a single mom. I didn't wish for that, but it happened.It was tough being a single mom. It was tough being in a divorce with children. Very, very hard but She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things... a mother's love is more than enough.Single moms: You are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly bcz father failed to do that but mom do.Things that single mother mistaken is choosing a wrong husband.What is right/good to say is that mothers - especially single mothers - are heroic in their efforts to raise our nation's children, but men must also take responsibility for their children and recognize the impact they have on their families' well-being.
 
Ni rahisi na salama zaidi kuoa mwanamke aliyetoa mimba hata 5 au aliyezalishwa hafu mtoto akafariki maake itabaki kuwa siri yake na familia yao kuliko kuoa single mother.
 
Meraki said:
Habari zenu.

Nasema hivi. Mwanaume yeyote rijali hawezi kuoa mwanamke single mother. Ninaposema single mother namaanisha wewe mwanamke uliyezaa kabla ya kuolewa.

Na ninaposema rijali namaanisha mwanaume mwenye akili sawa sawa au bara bara anayefikiri kwa usahihi asiyeendeshwa na mihemko bali hutumia akili yake kutafakari mambo. Hii ina maana mwanaume chizi au mwenye ugonjwa wa akili sio rijali. Ili uwe rijali ni lazima uwe na akili timilifu. Ushahidi ni kwamba mwanaume hanithi anapungukiwa pia akili. (Sitaki kulizungumzia hili) na ukishapungukiwa akili wewe sio rijali.


Ukweli ni kwamba mama zetu ( sisi wanaume) wanafurahi zaidi kama utampa taarifa kuwa unamuowa bint ambaye hajawahi kuzaa. Achilia mbali bikra ambayo hata hivyo wanatamani uwaambie unamuowa bikra. Ni heri uwaambie unamuowa bint uliyezaa naye wewe mwenyewe mtoto wake wa kwanza kuliko kuwaambia wamama eti....eti...unamuowa Lilian single mother!!! Nyoyo husononeka ingawa hawawezi kusema wazi wazi. Utasikia tu mama akisema "Kama umempenda na mnapendana sawa" Tafakari sana haya maneno kijana unayetaka kumuowa single mother.

Ni uzembe wa hali juu sana kuzaa kabla ya ndoa. Ni mwanamke ndiye unayeamua ushike mimba au usishike. Sisi wanaume huwa tunatandika tu.....sasa kama you don't take care about yourself....who else will? Halafu unamlaumu mwanaume kakutia mimba na hajakuowa.

Asikulaghai kwa maneno matamu yoyote yale eti beba mimba kabla hajakuowa. Usikubali. Na mwisho wa siku uamuzi unao wewe wa kubeba mimba au lah. Sasa mnakwama wapi? Be smart.

"Asiponioa ntalea mwenyewe!" Huo ni uzembe.....tunajua mna vipato vyenu....mna pesa zenu, mnayamudu maisha....mnaweza kulea watoto wenu. Nikuulize, hivi kuna raha gani kulea mtoto peke yako? Mnapojitosheleza kiuchumi na kijamii (kutokuwa single mother), machaguo yanaongezeka. Hamuoni? Basi someni. Baadaye mnasema kuolewa bahati. Kuolewa sio bahati. Kuolewa mna haki wala msiite bahati....we unadhani wanangu mi ntalea na nani? R.I.P Ngwea

Jamaa akuzalishe huko halafu mi nije nikuoe? Acheni masihara nyie. Mi hakuna niliyemzalisha bila ndoa nikampiga chini sina sababu ya kuowa single mother.

Na wewe single mother uliyekaa chini ukaona ulikosea wapi na sasa umekuwa RAIA mwema, good luck. Ukimpata anayeeleweka mwambie akuoe. Kijana haukatazwi kuoa single mother. Ukimpata oa......yajayo ni yako.

Hakuna mwanaume RIJALI anayeweza kuowa single mother, kwa sababu za kimaadili. Period.


Meraki
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But, huwezi kujua sababu iliyompelekea huyo mwanamke had kupata mtoto
 
Nyumisi said:
Ndo hivyo sasa, swala ni kupata mke mtakayependana na kuendana kuoa mwali si kigezo kwamba ndoa yako itakuwa sustainable. Kuna complications nyingi kwenye hizi mambo, punguza kukurupuka na kuanza kutoa kufuru
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Ni kweli! Cha muhmu ni kupendana
 
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