Jamvi la Wanawake: Mabinti mmewafanya nini hawa wanaume huu mwaka, mbona wana hasira hivi?

Jamvi la Wanawake: Mabinti mmewafanya nini hawa wanaume huu mwaka, mbona wana hasira hivi?

Hata najua basi said:
Zamani niliamini wanaume hawaumii mala ya kwanza kuona mwanaume analia nilishangaa
Pia nilidhani wanaume wana akili sanaaa heh nikaja kugundua wengine ni wajinga kupindukia🙌
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Madhara ya mila potofu hayo. My brothers vingereza viingi, vitendo na tabia hamna kitu. My sisters very humble but matokeo ya performances zao shuleni na makazini ni very satisfactory. Ndo maana huwa nachoka sana kuona watu wana judge wengine kwa misingi ya kijinsia.
 
Binti wa zamani said:
Thanks for pointing that out, I tried kusahihisha kichwa cha uzi ila mods wakagoma kubadili.

Nilirealize baada ya kupost kwamba nimefanya blame shifting na kuwavika mabinti responsibility ya bad behaviour ya wanaume. Hiyo si sawa na nafikiri ni residue ya internalised misogyn ambayo wengi wetu tunaibeba subconsciously na sometimes ina-slip up kutukumbusha bado tuna safari ndefu ya ku-unlearn.
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Nakupenda namna yako ya ku-comprehend mambo.

Kwenye masomo ya gender, kuna usemi tunasema sisi sote ni victim wa Patriarchy , ikimaanisha si wanawake tu hata wanaume… It’s deeper than we think.
 
Strategist7 said:
Madhara ya mila potofu hayo. My brothers vingereza viingi, vitendo na tabia hamna kitu. My sisters very humble but matokeo ya performances zao shuleni na makazini ni very satisfactory. Ndo maana huwa nachoka sana kuona watu wana judge wengine kwa misingi ya kijinsia.
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Umenena 🙏
 
Strategist7 said:
Ok. Jibu langu kwa maswali ya mleta mada ni kama ifuatavyo: baadhi ya hoja za wanaosadikika kuwa ni wanaume ambao wameandika kukosoa au kuwakashfu wanawake ni batili kwasababu zinakinzana na uhalisia. Mfano, kusema a woman has nothing to offer to her male partner but a "pussy" siyo tu ni tusi bali pia ni kujidanganya. Mwanamke hata ambaye hana ajira rasmi ambaye anahudumia familia tu bado ana mchango mkubwa sana, sometimes kuliko hata huyo mumewe mwenye ajira. Ajira zenyewe za kibongo nyingi hazilipi vizuri kiasi cha kusema kwamba wewe mwenye ajira una mchango kuliko asiye na ajira. Lakini pia wapo wanawake ambao baadhi ya yanayondikwa hapa jukwaani dhidi ya wanawake yanawaelezea kwa usahihi kabisa.

Back to your original comment. Jibu lako kwa mtoa mada lina uhalisia mdogo sana na haliakisi hicho unachokiita root cause etc. Kusema kwamba wanaume wanaoandika kutukana kukashfu au kudharau women wanasukumwa na hisia za kupoteza power inaweza kuwa kweli, ila ni kwa wanaume wachache sana. Binafsi naamini hata wanaume abusive wengi hawasumbuliwi na inferiority or superiority complex. Chanzo kikuu cha abuse kwa Tz ni mila potofu na kukosa elimu nzuri. Siyo gender ya mwanaume. Wenyewe hao so-called abusers wengi ni wahanga pia wa mila na elimu potoshi. Watu wa hivyo wanabadilishwa kwa empathy, proper education, and time. And, yes, time heals. Huwezi wabadilisha kirahisi kwa kejeli, mipasho, au hata sheria.
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Hapo mwishoni hapo……

Huku kwenye ulimwengu wetu, kuna msemo unasema let the men forgive, maana yake tuwaache wanaume wasamehe… Ila sisi hatupaswi kusamehe… Msemo huu umetokana na tafiti kwamba makosa ya wanaume yamekuwa yakienda unpunished, yakifutika kiujanja ujanja tu mara nyingi, kwa kuamini kuwa tunapaswa kuwabadilisha kwa empathy.

Wakati huo huo makosa ya wanawake ni very noticeable, atakuwa punished hata verbally tu mfano kwenye familiy level, nyumba za ibada au mtaani ilimradi tu we can’t get away with our mistakes . Wanawake hawahitaji empathy, proper education na times?

Okay, maelezo/mifano yangu midogo ila inalenga kuonesha unfairness hata pale ambapo we expected things will be fair.. Na ndipo nilipojenga hoja yangu kuhusu “mabadiliko ya kijamii”
 
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