I like the promise of respect toward our comments. Believe me I understand the pain you feel. Hata ungelala na wanawake 1000 mbele yake, it still happened (Your wife slept with your friend). Truth is, it hurts her as well that you sleep with other women. Kaumia same as you and even more. Please stop digging the hole? (If u ever find urself in a hole stop digging is the first solution).
Time will pass and this will go away. Mkeo hatakufanyia hivyo tena for the fear of what happened. Utakuwa na mke anayekuheshimu. Mtalea watoto vizuri nao tena kwa experience madhara ya kuchepuka, I hope watajifufunza huko ukubwani.
Brother ni wanawake wachache sana hawatachepuka kwenye mazingira kama hayo ya safari (and if u try to be honest, maybe na wewe kule ulichepuka). Utaoa mwingine na mambo hayo yatatokea. Nikwambie kitu? It will be hard kumfukuza huyu mwingine, coz utahisi jamii itakujudge una tatizo, kwanini we uwe wa kufukuza wanawake tu?
Hizi mambo ni aibu brother. Just make it with your wife, nothing else will be better for you, your wife na watoto. Umeumia ndio ila huko mwenyewe asilimia kubwa ya wanandoa wameumia. We msamehe tu, usione wazazi hawana uchungu na wewe mtoto wao kwa kukuambia umrudie. Its because they've lived long, they have seen these things, they know better....