Miaka michache ijayo wadogo na watoto wetu wataoa makahaba wastaafu

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Wewe ndio umeleta hoja kwamba wanaume ndio source ya tatizo kwamba wanafadhiri hiyo trend ya wanawake gold diggers. Ndio maana nikasema kwa uoande wa wanaume tayari washaona tatizo ndio maana unaona mijadala mijadala mingi ya kuwachana simps na gold diggers inaanzishwa na wanaume. Na hata mimi zipo thread na comments zangu nyingi tu huwa nawachana live masimp. Tukiangazia upande wa wanawake je wao washaona na kukubali suala la wao kuongwa na hao rich simps ni tatizo ambalo wanatakiwa kulikemea na kuachana nalo? Hata tukisema tukubaliane kuacha kuonga ni wazi hatuwezi kuwa uniform. Watakaovunja makubaliano watakuwepo tu. Je wanawake wapo tayari kuwakatalia hiyo tabia yao ya uhongaji? Unaona sasa tatizo lipo wapi?

Bado haujaelewa, jambo lolote ambalo linamnufaisha mtu kwa namna moja ama nyingine, huyo mtu hawezi kuliona hilo jambo kama tatizo.

Unachokitaka wewe hakiwezekani, hiyo ni ndoto, yani mwanamke ambaye analipiwa kodi ya nyumba ,analishwa na kuvishwa unataka aone kufanyiwa hivyo vitendo ni tatizo? How?

Kama wanaume hatuwezi kuwa wamoja kwenye hili, hakuna mantiki ya kuwalaumu hao wanawake kile wakifanyacho ikiwa sisi wenyewe ndiyo tuna support hayo wanayo yafanya.

Lech Poznan · Jul 11, 2026

Kevzy said:
Watu wameoa makahaba tangu 88_97 mpaka Sasa

Ukichungulia baadhi ya nyumba nyingi wamama wanawatu wao tofauti na waume zao wa ndoa na hata wanaume nao wenye wake zao na wao vile vile , Malaya , na wao wanapiga sana kisela wake za watu

Maisha hayana upande mmoja

Mkuu bora Tanganyika tabia zetu tunaziweka public hazitufichi tofauti na Zanzibar wao wanaficha tabia zao kwenye kichaka cha Dini. Kuna mwaka Niliwahi kuishi kule Zanzibar kuna Nyumba nilipanga nilishi pamoja na hiyo familia nyumba moja na mimi nilipanga chumba kimoja, Kuna nilikua sijaenda kazini nikawa nipo chumbani ninetulia tu ile Nyumba nilikua naishi Mimi pamoja na Mama mwenye Nyumba na watoto wake 4 mmoja wa mtoto wake ni binti mwenye miaka 19, Sasa siku hiyo Mama mwenye Nyumba na Binti yake pamoja na jirani yao ambaye ana miaka kama 26walikaa nje ya dirisha langu Nikasika huyo pamoja na jirani yake wakimpa Somo huyo binti wa miaka 19,
Nilisikia wakimwambia wewe farha huu umri wako ndiyo wakati wa kuvuna pesa sasa wewe unakua mjinga Abdullah anakupenda amekwambia anakupenda atakufungulia Account ya Bank lakin wewe hupendi kuwanae, Sasa huyu jirani yao akamwambia umeona mimi nimeolewa sina lolote nguo nyingi nimekuja nazo nilizinunua kabla ya kuolewa.
Huu ndiyo wakati wako wa kuvuna unatakiwa umwambie huyo Mwanaume simu mbovu ili akupe pesa.

Kevzy · Jul 11, 2026

Lech Poznan said:
Mkuu bora Tanganyika tabia zetu tunaziweka public hazitufichi tofauti na Zanzibar wao wanaficha tabia zao kwenye kichaka cha Dini. Kuna mwaka Niliwahi kuishi kule Zanzibar kuna Nyumba nilipanga nilishi pamoja na hiyo familia nyumba moja na mimi nilipanga chumba kimoja, Kuna nilikua sijaenda kazini nikawa nipo chumbani ninetulia tu ile Nyumba nilikua naishi Mimi pamoja na Mama mwenye Nyumba na watoto wake 4 mmoja wa mtoto wake ni binti mwenye miaka 19, Sasa siku hiyo Mama mwenye Nyumba na Binti yake pamoja na jirani yao ambaye ana miaka kama 26walikaa nje ya dirisha langu Nikasika huyo pamoja na jirani yake wakimpa Somo huyo binti wa miaka 19,
Nilisikia wakimwambia wewe farha huu umri wako ndiyo wakati wa kuvuna pesa sasa wewe unakua mjinga Abdullah anakupenda amekwambia anakupenda atakufungulia Account ya Bank lakin wewe hupendi kuwanae, Sasa huyu jirani yao akamwambia umeona mimi nimeolewa sina lolote nguo nyingi nimekuja nazo nilizinunua kabla ya kuolewa.
Huu ndiyo wakati wako wa kuvuna unatakiwa umwambie huyo Mwanaume simu mbovu ili akupe pesa.

Mambo yapo wazi sana , Tanzania

Tsh · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Hakuna nilipoandika malaya kwenye thread. Kwenye title nimeandika makahaba. Nafikiri unajua kuna tofauti. Malaya yeye anavua tu uchi tofauti na kahaba yeye anafanya hivyo ili directly ai indirectly apate masilahi fulani kutoka kwa mwanaume.

Dhana ya kusema kwamba wanawake wote wanajiuza wametofautiana mbinu tu(kuna wanaouza direct na wanaouza idirect) imeibuka kutokana na mtindo mpya wa wanauwake wenyewe kufanya relationship monetization.

Huko juu nimekupa assignment ndogo sana. Andika thread hapa kupinga suala la mwanaume kuwa sponsor wa mahusiano badala yake mwanaume na mwanamke wapeane mapenzi tu lakini suala la hela kila mmoja afanye kazi na abaki na hela zake. Huoni hao hao wanawake unaowatetea hawajiuzi jinsi watakavyokushambulia

Marcostilone Ana hoja.
Hoja yake ipo kwenye kutumia sample space kuhitimisha tabia ya binadamu na ukaignore exceptions zote ukaweka seal.

Human behavior is not like the economy, kwamba indicators zikipoint to a recession usually mean one will follow.

Behavior is more like weather, full of signals, but often unpredictable and influenced by hidden factors.

Nadhani nishawahi kukuambia tabia ya mwanadamu sio mti kuwa ukisimikwa umesimikwa.

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Tsh said:
Majibu ya haya maswali mawili yatatoa picha kama upo sahihi au ideology, fikra na mawazo ni Misogynist.

1. Unaamini kabisa power uliyonayo haiwezi bend regardless linapokuja suala la ndoa na mahusiano?

Ndio

Tsh said:
2. Mwanamke wako unaamini hawezi mkataa mwanaume mwenye pesa kukuzidi akabaki na wewe?

Katika interactions zangu na watu siku zote naacha wazi room of disappointments.

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Hakuna nilipoandika malaya kwenye thread. Kwenye title nimeandika makahaba. Nafikiri unajua kuna tofauti. Malaya yeye anavua tu uchi tofauti na kahaba yeye anafanya hivyo ili directly ai indirectly apate masilahi fulani kutoka kwa mwanaume.

Dhana ya kusema kwamba wanawake wote wanajiuza wametofautiana mbinu tu(kuna wanaouza direct na wanaouza idirect) imeibuka kutokana na mtindo mpya wa wanauwake wenyewe kufanya relationship monetization.

Huko juu nimekupa assignment ndogo sana. Andika thread hapa kupinga suala la mwanaume kuwa sponsor wa mahusiano badala yake mwanaume na mwanamke wapeane mapenzi tu lakini suala la hela kila mmoja afanye kazi na abaki na hela zake. Uone hao hao wanawake unaowatetea hawajiuzi jinsi watakavyokushambulia

Bado kuna kitu kidogo sana haukielewi au unakielewa lakini unajizima data.

Hiyo relationship monetization inafanikiwa kwa sababu ya wanawake wanaotaka kuuza, au kwa sababu ya wanaume wanaotaka kununua?

Kwanini unatumia nguvu kubwa sana kuwashutumu wanawake badala ya kuwasema wanaume ambao ndiyo wenye capital ya kuendesha hiyo biashara?

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Tsh said:
Marcostilone Ana hoja.
Hoja yake ipo kwenye kutumia sample space kuhitimisha tabia ya binadamu na ukaignore exceptions zote ukaweka seal.

Human behavior is not like the economy, kwamba indicators zikipoint to a recession usually mean one will follow.

Behavior is more like weather, full of signals, but often unpredictable and influenced by hidden factors.

Nadhani nishawahi kukuambia tabia ya mwanadamu sio mti kuwa ukisimikwa umesimikwa.

Hakika Mkuu , tabia ya binadamu ni dynamic.

Yoda · Jul 11, 2026

Matunzo 02 said:
hili kukomesha tabia ya umalaya waache kuwanunua hao malaya bidhaa ikikosa soko hupotea sokon na hali ngumu ya maisha wazazi wawaandae watoto wao kukabiliana na hali hiyo tangu wakiwa wadog sio kutafta njia rahis ya kuuza mwil

Sahihi, haya uliyosema ndio yanaweza kumaliza haya mambo.

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Tsh said:
Marcostilone Ana hoja.
Hoja yake ipo kwenye kutumia sample space kuhitimisha tabia ya binadamu na ukaignore exceptions zote ukaweka seal.

Human behavior is not like the economy, kwamba indicators zikipoint to a recession usually mean one will follow.

Behavior is more like weather, full of signals, but often unpredictable and influenced by hidden factors.

Nadhani nishawahi kukuambia tabia ya mwanadamu sio mti kuwa ukisimikwa umesimikwa.

Women hypergamy sio suala la kufanyiwa utafiti, hio ni nature yao wanawake. Mwanamke anataka mwanaume wa daraja la juu zaidi yake ili apate status, security n.k

Tofauti ya wanawake wa sasa wao wanataka kupata hizo privilege alizokua anazipata mwanamke mfano provision lakini wajibu unaokuja na hizo privilege mfano loyalty ndio hawautaki. Ndio dhana ya kwamba wanajiuza(direct au indirect) inachipukia hapo.

Anyway, nimempa jamaa assignment hapo juu ingawa hata wewe unaiweza kuifanya. Andika thread tetea hoja kwamba mahusiano sio exchange ya hela na sex hivyo basi mwanaume na mwanamke wapeane mapenzi na kila mmoja afanye kazi na kubaki na hela zake. Halafu uone hao wanawake wangapi watakuunga mkono nav wangapi watakupinga

Tsh · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Ndio

Good

Natafuta Ajira said:
Katika interactions zangu na watu siku zote naacha wazi room of disappointments.

By room of disappointment, unamaanisha kuwa mwanamke wako akiwekwa kati na mwenye pesa atakuacha ila misimamo yako imeamua uishi naye hivyo hivyo?

Au unamaanisha kuwa mwanamke wako hana tabia hiyo ila anaweza akabadilika akikutana na mwenye pesa?

Zemanda · Jul 11, 2026

ShesRise_1 said:
Wewe nae umenichambua kwa comment yangu mstari baada ya mstari ila hakuna cha maana ulichojibu ni nonsense tupu

Nimekupuuza tu hapo uliposema wanawake wana akili fupi kama mkia wa mbuzi

Nikishaona mtu akitoka njee ya mada na kuanza kuongea maneno ya hovyo kama hayo siwezi tena kua na mjadala naye

Kwa heshima na taadhima gudubaiiii

Ni ukweli lakini hata kama haujapenda.

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Marcostilone said:
Hakika Mkuu , tabia ya binadamu ni dynamic.

And that doesn't change the fact that, past is the strong predictor of future loyalty

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Tofauti ya wanawake wa sasa wao wanataka kupata hizo privilege alizokua anazipata mwanamke mfano provision lakini wajibu unaokuja na hizo privilege mfano loyalty ndio hawautaki

Wanaume wa sasa wanatoa nini kingine zaidi ya pesa?

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
And that doesn't change the fact that, past is the strong predictor of future loyalty

Past behavior is a predictor, but not a destiny.

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Tsh said:
By room of disappointment, unamaanisha kuwa mwanamke wako akiwekwa kati na mwenye pesa atakuacha ila misimamo yako imeamua uishi naye hivyo hivyo?

Au unamaanisha kuwa mwanamke wako hana tabia hiyo ila anaweza akabadilika akikutana na mwenye pesa?

Namaanisha kwenye miingiliano yangu na watu(mke akiwepo) huwa na-assume kuna siku anaweza kuzingua. Kwahiyo huwa siweki matarajio makubwa kwenye hisia za mtu. Katika maisha yangu nimejenga mfumo wa kwamba mimi mwenye ndio ninakua center ya maisha yangu. Kwahiyo mtu yoyote(mwanamke, rafiki, ndugu n.k) akija kwenye maisha yangu na kuondoka hakuna nguzo ambayo itaanguka

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Marcostilone said:
Wanaume wa sasa wanatoa nini kingine zaidi ya pesa?

Security, stability, direction e.t.c

Natafuta Ajira · Jul 11, 2026

Marcostilone said:
Past behavior is a predictor, but not a destiny.

Don’t be too obsessed with exception. The future is uncertainty but that's not a reason to gamble on redflag

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Security, stability, direction e.t.c

Hizi ni partnership goals.

Msuguaji · Jul 11, 2026

Marcostilone · Jul 11, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Don’t be too obsessed with exception. The future is uncertainty but that's not a reason to gamble on redflag

Stop being so obsessed with red flags that you end up unfairly painting every woman with the same brush.

Miaka michache ijayo wadogo na watoto wetu wataoa makahaba wastaafu

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