Salamu kwa wanawake: mwanaume kumuhudumia mwanamke ni mfumo dume.

Natafuta Ajira · Aug 2, 2026

Khantwe said:
Kwa hiyo kama mwanamke ataishi kama alivyokuwa anaishi wakati yupo single mchango wako wewe mwanaume kwenye hiyo ndoa ni upi? Maana toka mkeo ameingia hapo haujifulii, haupiki, hausafishi nyumba, haununui tena malaya, na mengine mengi siwezi kuyaandika yote hapa....bado unataka ulishwe, ulipiwe kodi.

Sasa nioe mke asiekua na kazi halafu nimtake achangie mahitaji ya nyumbani si nitakua mwehu, au mke wangu awe anatoka kwenda kazini halafu hapo hapo nimtake awe anafanya hizo kazi zote si nitakua kichaa? Atawezaje kuwa kazini at the same time awe nyumbani kuwaandalia watoto lunch? amekua jini?

Mimi nimekwambia mwanamke mwenye kipato kuchangia mahitaji ya nyumbani hampunguzii mzigo mwanaume isipokua anatimiza wajibu wake, maana angekua anaishi mwenyewe angejilipia mahitaji yake. Kipi haujaelewa?

Ertugrul Bey · Aug 2, 2026

Grahams said:
Huenda leo akafunguka na kumtaja mbaya wake 😅

Sisi wazee yetu macho 🤭

Ipo siku hili fumbo litawekwa wazi,maana wanawake wakiona tu I'd ya mtoa mada tayar wanajua wamefikiwa

Mhusika ni bora ajisalimishe pm kwa mtoa mada mambo yasiwe mengi

Khantwe · Aug 2, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Sasa nioe mke asiekua na kazi halafu nimtake achangie mahitaji ya nyumbani si nitakua mwehu, au mke wangu awe anatoka kwenda kazini halafu hapo hapo nimtake awe anafanya hizo kazi zote si nitakua kichaa? Atawezaje kuwa kazini at the same time awe nyumbani kuwaandalia watoto lunch? amekua jini?

Mimi nimekwambia mwanamke mwenye kipato kuchangia mahitaji ya nyumbani hampunguzii mzigo mwanaume isipokua anatimiza wajibu wake, maana angekua anaishi mwenyewe angejilipia mahitaji yake. Kipi haujaelewa?

Hawezi kufanya hayo akiwa kazini lakini akirudi jioni anayafanya au weekend. Asubuhi wote mnaenda kazini, ila yeye jukumu la kwamba utavaa nini, utakula nini kabla na baada ya kazi ni lake. Hapo bado hajabeba mimba, watoto wanamuangalia yeye..the least you can do for her ni kubeba majukumu yote yanayohusiana na pesa. Yeye akichangia achangie kwa hiyari pale ukizidiwa sio kwa kupangiwa.
Pamoja na haya yote niliyoongea kitu cha muhimu ni makubaliano yenu ninyi wawili, hakunaga marking scheme...

Khantwe · Aug 2, 2026

ERTUGRUL BEY said:
Ipo siku hili fumbo litawekwa wazi,maana wanawake wakiona tu I'd ya mtoa mada tayar wanajua wamefikiwa

Mhusika ni bora ajisalimishe pm kwa mtoa mada mambo yasiwe mengi

Na mwenzie Yoda

Bush Dokta · Aug 2, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Ukiuliza hilo swali utajibiwa hiyo imeandikwa kwenye vitabu vya dini, ni wajibu wa mwanaume, ni tamaduni, ni natural design n.k. Hakuna logical explanation kwamba katika ulimwengu wa fursa sawa kwanini mwanaume aendelee kumuhudumia mwanamke.

We Dogo Una akili Sana. Always unatupia madini makubwa

Bush Dokta · Aug 2, 2026

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Natafuta Ajira said:
Kuhudumiwa na mwanaume ni suala ambalo wanawake wanakubaliana nalo, lakini ni mfumo dume, ambao wanawake wanaupiga vita. Mwanaume kumuhudumia mwanamke ni suala la kupigwa vita, sio kupongezwa.

Miaka ya zamani ambayo mfumo dume ulikua umeshika hatamu wanawake hawakua na fursa za kiuchumi na hiyo ilifanya iwe shurti kwa mwanaume kumuhudumia mwanamke

Lakini katika society dynamics ya leo ambayo mwanaume na mwanamke wana fursa sawa. Mwanaume anatakiwa kuendelea kubeba hilo jukumu?

Ukiuliza hilo swali utajibiwa hiyo imeandikwa kwenye vitabu vya dini, ni wajibu wa mwanaume, ni tamaduni, ni natural design n.k. Hakuna logical explanation kwamba katika ulimwengu wa fursa sawa kwanini mwanaume aendelee kumuhudumia mwanamke.

Kiuhalisia hii idea inapingana na nyakati tulizopo sasa. Wanawake wetu kwa sasa wana fursa sawa na mwanaume, na tuna wanawake wengi kwenye jamii wanafanya vizuri kiuchumi zaidi ya wanaume wanaowazunguka.

Mfumo dume ambao wanawake wanaupinga(ingawa bado wanazitaka benefits zake) unamfanya mwanaume ajikute kwenye mtego wa kubebeshwa matarajio ya kumwezesha na kumwinua mwanamke hata kwenye nyakati ambazo kufanya hivyo kunachelewesha au kunapunguza maendeleo ya mwanaume husika.

Women are still holding on to the traditional values of patriarchy when it benefits them while disadvantages men, but fight the traditional values of patriarchy that don't work in their favor like male authority and gender roles.

Lakini linakuja swali: kwanini wanaume wanaendelea kuwahudumia wanawake wakati jinsia zote zimepewa fursa sawa?

Jibu ni kwa sababu wanaume wanaona ni wajibu wao. Male dominance assumed that mwanaume ndie mwenye access ya fursa na resources zote kwahiyo anawajibika kum-support mwanamke.

Huu wajibu umetoka wapi? Mfumo dume uliupandikiza wajibu huo kwenye akili za wanaume. Kumbuka ni mfumo dume huo huo unapingwa na wanawake, jamii na dunia kwa ujumla.

Sasa hawa wanaume wanawainua wanawake ambao tayari wana programs nyingi za kuwawezesha (women empowerment), wakati huo wanaume hawa wanabaki hawana chochote cha kuwainua wao watakapokua kwenye nafasi ya kuhitaji msaada.

And since the times have changed most of the women these young men invest in, they don't end up staying in their lives. These men end up alone and broke after pouring all their resources into temporal women who eventually become more successful than them and move on.

The patriarchy which teaches men to provide for women is no longer relevant when we apply the value of equal opportunity for men and women. If we agreed to abolish patriarchy we must get lid of this idea of men providing for women. You can't condemning patriachy and still want it benefits. Men providing for women is patriarchy.

Feminists are strong and independent women. They don't need a man to pay their bills.

Don't be a simp.

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King Kong III · Aug 2, 2026

realMamy said:
Namshukuru Mungu ananihudumia vizuri 😛.

Ila mtanange ni wa moto jamani 😛

Mitano tena kwake.

Yoda · Aug 2, 2026

Khantwe said:
Hawezi kufanya hayo akiwa kazini lakini akirudi jioni anayafanya au weekend. Asubuhi wote mnaenda kazini, ila yeye jukumu la kwamba utavaa nini, utakula nini kabla na baada ya kazi ni lake. Hapo bado hajabeba mimba, watoto wanamuangalia yeye..the least you can do for her ni kubeba majukumu yote yanayohusiana na pesa. Yeye akichangia achangie kwa hiyari pale ukizidiwa sio kwa kupangiwa.
Pamoja na haya yote niliyoongea kitu cha muhimu ni makubaliano yenu ninyi wawili, hakunaga marking scheme...

Huyo mke anayefanya kazi yeye pesa yake anayopata atakuwa anaifanyia kazi gani kama anachangia kwa dharura tu na hiyari pale mme wake anapozidiwa??

Khantwe · Aug 2, 2026

Yoda said:
Huyo mke anayefanya kazi yeye pesa yake anayopata atakuwa anaifanyia kazi gani kama anachangia kwa dharura tu na hiyari pale mme wake anapozidiwa??

Aulizwe huyo mke

Gunner11 · Aug 3, 2026

Mkuu Natafuta Ajira hawa viumbe are so fucking weak, ni viumbe ambao tu kisema wanaume tukaze tusiwazingatie na tuwape uhuru wanaopigania ila kwa kigezo cha nao wawe accountable kwenye issue zao, nakwambia vitajifia bure tu..

Issue ni kuwa thru sexual desire and needing to have a partner which is their hiding place ndo wanawake huja na hizi strategy waki dhani wanaume wote duniani ni dhaifu na wataingo kwenye mifumo yao.

Ni kweli society imewapa kipaombele whawa viumbe.. Na hiyo ni kwasababu za kibaolojia zaidi.. Mwanamke ni delicate na anahusika pakubwa kwenye kuzaa... Akitoa mtoto anafuata mwanamke kwenye ulinzi.
. I see what you do waking up lots of men but as you put awareness, still immature men and lustful men will keep on breaking their own rules to make these bitches profitable.

Mimi kuwa na hii awareness inatosha mno naweza kutoa fundisho mara moja moja ila Ukisema unapigana vita na hii jamii tena ya wamatumbi unajisumbua tu kamanda..

Watakuona mbinafsi, maskini, na mwenye nongwa kumbe unawasanua.

That's it

realMamy · Aug 3, 2026

King Kong III said:
Mitano tena kwake.

Thanks King 👑

Natafuta Ajira · Aug 3, 2026

Elevenn said:
Mkuu Natafuta Ajira hawa viumbe are so fucking weak, ni viumbe ambao tu kisema wanaume tukaze tusiwazingatie na tuwape uhuru wanaopigania ila kwa kigezo cha nao wawe accountable kwenye issue zao, nakwambia vitajifia bure tu..

Issue ni kuwa thru sexual desire and needing to have a partner which is their hiding place ndo wanawake huja na hizi strategy waki dhani wanaume wote duniani ni dhaifu na wataingo kwenye mifumo yao.

Ni kweli society imewapa kipaombele whawa viumbe.. Na hiyo ni kwasababu za kibaolojia zaidi.. Mwanamke ni delicate na anahusika pakubwa kwenye kuzaa... Akitoa mtoto anafuata mwanamke kwenye ulinzi.
. I see what you do waking up lots of men but as you put awareness, still immature men and lustful men will keep on breaking their own rules to make these bitches profitable.

Mimi kuwa na hii awareness inatosha mno naweza kutoa fundisho mara moja moja ila Ukisema unapigana vita na hii jamii tena ya wamatumbi unajisumbua tu kamanda..

Watakuona mbinafsi, maskini, na mwenye nongwa kumbe unawasanua.

That's it

Sema kitu nilichojifunza kwenye comments za wadau hata wanaume pia wengi wao hawana aura ya kumfanya mwanamke avutiwe nae zaidi ya hela au provision. Ndio maana ukigusa suala la kuwaepuka wanawake masikini au wanawake kushurutishwa wajihudumie mahitaji yao unakuta mpaka wanaume wanakuja juu kwa sababu wanaona unaziba upenyo wao mkuu wa kupata access kwa wanawake.

Ofcourse mbinu za kivita zinatofautiana kulingana na mwanamke unaedeal nae. Hauwezi kumfata slay queen, mwanamke wa bar au decent lady kwa mbinu zilezile. Lakini kama kila mwanamke unaekutana nae karata yako pekee ni kuhonga you're in trouble.

Shida yetu kubwa waafrika hatujui vipawa vyetu mapema. Kuna ambao mpaka wanakufa hawajui wamekuja duniani kufanya nini. Mtu anafanya tu kazi ambayo sio wito wake, hana passion nayo ndio maana inakua rahisi sana kuwa distracted na mambo kama sex.

Sex is a trap, but will african men wakeup from that dead-sleep while they see it as a prize or an endless festival?. As a man, find your passion you will see sex is not worth surrendering your power or making your life miserable for.

Gunner11 · Aug 3, 2026

Natafuta Ajira said:
Shida yetu kubwa waafrika hatujui vipawa vyetu mapema. Kuna ambao mpaka wanakufa hawajui wamekuja duniani kufanya nini. Mtu anafanya tu kazi ambayo sio wito wake, hana passion nayo ndio maana inakua rahisi sana kuwa distracted na mambo kama sex.

Nailed it.
Umemaliza hapo mkuu

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